NO Dead line... Wear healthy not a swim suit.. Support GROUP.

Hello everyone.

This is an join in anytime support group. No topic off limits. You are welcome to share your day to day challenges, and personal goals. I'm looking for people who has no dead line.

I'm sick of this dead line weight loss talk.

I want to release some weight, and gain some new friends to walk this journey with me.

Here's what you have to do.

Join in..
Share your name.
Your reason for losing weightg.. NOT CLOTHING RELATED PLEASE...
And what was your wake up call to get on the right track.

This is a new start.  I don't want any weekly weigh ins here. I just want conversation.. Congrats if you have good news.. SHARE! If you need to vent.. Go a head.. If you need to cry.. Shoulder's are right here..

This is a support group.. No more fashion dead lines.. Let's make this a non dead line.. We are going to get to healthy. That's the goal here. To make it to healthy...

I hope to hear from a lot of you.

Thanks Lynhaslost.........I appreciate the welcome!!! I wish you luck with the Ali, I actually bought some myself months ago, but I'm not that good at being consistent with taking a pill, it may have even worked for me.........but I think you actually have to take it regularly! LOL

Minda, you crack me up, I actually enjoy your rants......LOL I feel the same way, I think one of the reasons I have not been on this site in months is because of some ninny that chastised me for eating sugar free pudding.......because that is bad food ya know??? Bite me.......Anyway, I am enjoying the posts here. I will pledge right here never to chastise you for anything!

I did get my swim Friday night........it was so nice, and I even got up to swim this morning. I have to quit getting on the scale myself.......I actually gained a half lb this week, and this is with all my swimming and I have been sooooo good. Oh well, it's like you said Minda..........I am gaining muscle and my clothes dont fit tighter so I'm probably just fine. I cant even tell you how much I enjoy my swimms.......I am a bit worried about my ears though. My right ear has had several surgeries so I am trying really hard to keep the water out, but it is tougher to do than I thought it would be.

I was good today, I did go to cracker barrel for breakfast but ate off the kids menu. I was even full afterwards!!

I am off and running........so everyone have fun and keep your faith!!

Susabelle

Hi guys!

My name is Melissa.

I want to be a healthy role model for my daughter. I want to be active. I don't want her growing up watching me struggle with obesity the way I've watched my mom my whole life. I've got about 50 more pounds to lose.

I don't know where the motivation came from this time. I've been losing weight since my daughter was born, but not with any legth of concerted effort. I'm about to graduate college; my ten year high school reunion is around the corner. I'm just ready to feel good. Ready to become the healthy person I envision myself being.

This group sounds awesome. Sometimes I feel the urge to set rediculous goals for myself, but my mentality this time is if I'm eating right, keeping a calorie deficit, and exercising, my body's going to come through and show the results. I'm hoping that keeping a realistic attitude this time will help me when it comes time to maintain. (No matter how far away that may be right now.)

susabelle: pshaw, sugar-free pudding is great. I go through spells where I eat a concoction of mashed banana, sugar free pudding, cherry vanilla granola, and soy nuts every morning for weeks. It looks horrible, but I love it : ).  Idk, I try and avoid 'fake' sugars where I can, because I don't think they're the best option, but that in no way means I never have 'em. And I can't promise I'll never deserve chastising : ) My mom could talk your ear off about how tact has never been a gift of mine.

I love swimming! I've been doing this creepy, trying really hard to be friends with everyone I know with a pool. It's 90+ degrees in GA, so I'm not a big fan of many other outdoor workouts. Actually, I noticed in the fitness forums lots of big advocates for jogging outside instead of on a treadmill, how its so much better, etc. etc. I finally look at their profile, and they live in Canada. I'm assuming they don't break a sweat in the 10 feet between their front door and car they way I do : )

I've read, and I'm no doctor so you should probably ignore me, that mixing 50% vinegar and 50% rubbing alcohol and put a drop in your ears after swimming it dries them. The vinegar binds with the water, and the alcohol helps it evaporate. Apparently some parents swear by it to prevent infection, but as you've had surgery, you should probably ask a doc first.

Hello and welcome Melissa : )

Hi everyone!  Wow!  There are so many of you now!  Welcome to the newbies! 

I have had ear aches my whole life, had tubes put in them (which helped with the infections) but I still get the aches when I get water in them.  I'm gonna try the solution of vinegar and rubbing alcohol to dry them.  When I use to swim I'd have to wear ear plugs.  Showering and washing my hair.....I have to be careful.  I still get water in them alittle. 

I know about breaking a sweat!  I use to live in Florida and that's how it got there too!  I use to live near Eglin Airforce Base (I worked there even though I was in the Army).  I use to drive up to Atlanta once a month so my daughter could see her father.  But it was hot down there!  And rainy!

I always eat sugar-free pudding.  It's better for ya than the fat-free pudding. ;) 

Went to the pain mgt dr yesterday.  I got a TENS Unit and I can use it 8 hrs a day!  I love it!  It's really helping me!  I'm gonna use it while I walk to see how it is.  I was fitted too for a back brace to wear, but I don't have that yet. Waiting for Insurance approval. Figures. 

The Alli is really working for me.  You just gotta watch the fat intake.  It works though if you use it right.  You do have to take it consistently for it to work.  They recommend 3 capsules a day with meals with more than 5 grams of fat. I sometimes just take 2.  I don't always eat 3 big meals a day.  Bad, I know.  But I'm trying to change that. 

I can't wait for ttom to be over so I can weigh myself again.  I don't weigh when it's ttom.  I gain so much water weight! :(  So in a few days, I can weigh again and I'll let ya'all know.

Hi everyone! Cool.. We are filling up aren't we... Anyway.. I love your rant girl. And the 5 just because it sounds good. Lovely.. I like that so much.

Melissa, I hope to hear more from ya, and welcome... So.. Here's the kicker for today. I been snacking on candy. I know. I know. It's bad.. But this is what I do when I'm upset you know. Hubs and I have been fussing all day.. So much where I hit him.. Tam, you have read about my bitching at him. We went house hunting today. I don't know why. We just did.. SO anyway.. I found a house, and he loves it. I hate the house, because of what the house use to be, and on top of that. The freaking floors are not even at all. All humpy and rolly, and the thing that pissed me off was. It was a rental, and I wanted the land. I could care less about the house, and he was not willing to will and deal with me.

SO anyway, the hubs mad a deal with the guy about renting the place, and was ready to cut the check for the down payment.. 1000 dollars.. Rent.. 650.. AGH! Can I say. Not worth the money to rent J/A.. I try like hell not to fuss around my children, but I did and it got a little out of hand.. There on the spot. The man was like. OH! I see who wear the pants in this relationship. AND THEN! J/A started to get ugly on the spot.

I'm going to have to work on my temp. I can go from 1 to a million just like that with my anger.. Why can't my anger level get like that with this fat I'm trying to lose. So I've been eating junk all day. I haven't had a real meal at all, and I'm stressing so much, and it's not good for my weight loss.

Now then! Good news, Minda. I read the close to the same thing you did about the belly fat, and that was my first main target area and it's my main area again. 15 pounds will get rid of mines, and I have to get started on working that core really good again. I need to lose 4 inches myself. Unsure now. I haven't check those things out in over a month. Last time I checked I was 34 inches in the wasit, and not so crazy about it. Going from a 29.5 with a lot of work to a damn 34 and 7/8. I'm going to have to work really hard on that area.

I feel really good right now, but I am stressing. I'm going to have to channel this man woman to do some working out, and less cussing and fussing.

Well.... Tam, back to you girl. That's good news about your TENS pack.. Isn't that what it is.. A pack. I hope it helps you on your walks. Give it a try and let us know how it went. I will chat back with you all later.. I got to get some clothes folded at 1:30 in the morning. I can't sleep.. That also has something to do with me new added weight gain.

Later girls.

Hi All! Well I'm off and running this morning, got up at 7 and swam 1,ooo meters............took 50 minutes to do it.........I wont be threatening Michael Phelps for a bit but hey, that was better than thinking I was going to die with one lap! I live in Charleston SC so I feel your pain! I think if you cant walk ten feet without drowning in a puddle of your own sweat, you probably shouldnt be running...but hey, that's just me, to each their own! You are welcome to make the drive and swim with me, 90 degrees is a bummer, it was 95 with about 80% humidity here yesterday........the water feels sooooo good, come on over :) .

I also had a ton of ear infections, tubes, repaired eardrum, reformed bones, and removal of a mastoid bone..........over about 25 years........my ears suck! But I have found if I take care and get the silicone forming kind of plugs that works well. they dont hurt like other ones do.

Lynn, dont be too hard on yourself. Ever thought of taking up kick ? No kidding my sister uses that when she gets really ticked off to burn off her anger. She says it works good at calming her down.

Peace All! chat at ya later!

Susabelle

Good morning guys! Not to turn this into the ear ache thread, but I too always had ear problems growing up. Not so much anymore, but I had tubes twice as a child and once had to have a needle driven through my ear drum to release fluid built behind it... pretty gross. =)

I'm going to the gym today. It's been a few days, but I'm glad I gave myself a break. It's been TTOM for me, and I really just wanted to lay on the couch and sleep the last 3 days. This morning my husband let me sleep in (we have a 17 mos old) and for the first time since my cycle started I feel like I have energy again! I think the important thing is while I was taking my break to lay on the couch, I stayed within my calories each day, and I'm not beating myself up or skipping the gym. That's one part of my thinking I've had to work really hard to change - the all or nothing mentality. In the past skipping three days of the gym would be like I had screwed up, so I might as well eat a gallon of ice cream and hate myself. Not anymore though.

Lynn - sorry to hear about the issues with your husband. Did you guys get it worked out? And I wanted to thank you for starting this group. What a fab idea.

Trying2lose -  My husband's in the air force, and we're stationed at Ft. Gordon Army Base and both grew up around Ft. Benning. Are you still in?

Susabelle -  I'll be in your pool in just a few hours. =)

Minda - Thanks for the welcome. I always enjoy your posts.

Hi all, Well I had not rested good at all. Yesterday and all the drama and issues really did a number on me. I went to sleep at 6:30 this morning. On the phone with a friend who stays in Los, and she was telling me to just let things be. Start back on your 12 steps to improvement program, and get back to who you use to be. She reminded me.. That's the whole reason why I started to lose weight. Not only that my father was part of the reason. My health issues as well.

Anywhooo! I got up this morning around 11 something, and started my day. I haven't had breakfast, and I haven't had any candy. Want some... But I haven't had any just yet. I'm not even going to tell ya'll what I'm hooked on now.. If they wasn't so good and soft... Hell I would leave them alone. I don't want my new bad habit to become any of my friends, so I want share the name of this candy. Back to my Anywhooo... He went to the ER this morning for his hip, and on top of that. I didn't even care to go. We aren't talking at all, and I have nothing to say to him. I just don't. I'm madder than hell right now, and it's not going to past over night. SO I'm working on me once again.

Improvement Step~~~~~~~

#1. Clean myself up, and get more foucs on my life now. Life is to short, and I need balance. So first thing first. I need to clean up my house. Get everything in order, and move forward with that. That's my step number one.

Hey girls.. I want each one of you to do 12 steps of improvement, and see how well does it works for you. I was doing it in 2007, and the cool thing about it. You make up your own steps in what you want to improve. It's not someone giving you 12 steps. I stop doing it in 2008, and I was at step 6 when I stop.. So now.. You all know it. I must repreat.

Chat to you all later.

Hi everyone!  Just a quick note for now.  I got my hair colored today!  It's gorgeous!  It's brown with red in it.  It's 2 colors mixed together.  Next week is my hair cut!  I can't wait.  So after my hair cut I'll put a pic in my gallery, ok?  Wait til you all see the color!!!  :)

I at ok today.  I bought some Baked Lay's and I love 'em alittle too much!  I won't be buying those very often. 

Lynn, get some sleep and relax!  Breeeeeath......inhale.........now exhale.  Good! 

Headed to bed myself now.  I'll be back tomorrow.  G'Nite!

Tam, I'm not resting but I do feel a hell of a lot better right now. Everything is popin you know. Right into place. Talking to hubs now. SO far so good. He's up painting the crown moulding, and I'm just in my room relaxing again. He's up on that ladder again, and I was in there holding it for him, but my son is still up. He has to see everything that goes on. Girls are dead sleep.

As for me.. Once again.. I didn't eat worth a damn. I'm going to tell ya.. Stress does a number on me. I haven't had over 800 calories.. Oh please, don't start. I know we don't start in here. I wasn't trying to go that low. I just got a lot on my mind. I've been sick most of the day. I'm just sick to the core you know. Stressing. I wonder what the scale may hold in the morning. I know it's going to be a high number because.. TOM ugly head had to show.. GOod I say, but bad on the diet. I think I will use Tom weeks to work on my step one, and get back on board with myself. Rough on the hubs, bad on the family period. There is no telling what my mood may be like. I just got a whole lot on my mind and on my plate. I'm trying. That's what counts right now. I'm trying to rebuild me.

TAM! RED and BROWN hair.. Girl! I can't wait to see the cut. Did you baby hook you up? Well, I will be looking for the go ahead and peak. I can't wait.

I'm not even going to talk about this mop I have right now.. I need to get up and jazz it up. After I lose all of my weight. I have a shocker for a whole lot of people to come. If I go thur with it. I just might chicken out.

Chat you all later.. I'm going to grab hubby and make him crash..
I need sleep.. 

Lynn, I love the idea for the 12 step improvement program that you write for yourself. I've bought books in the past that are supposed to leave you being a better you, but in the end half of the steps aren't realistic for my life. Today I'm going to spend some time thinking about what mine would be. I like the idea of your #1 because I just feel all around better in a clean house. Glad everything's going to be ok for you on the homefront.

Tryin2lose - doesn't a new haircolor/cut make you feel awesome?? I had about 8 inches of hair cut off 6 months ago, went from really long curls to a total boy-cut. (Think Wynona Ryder in Girl Interrupted) And I still absolutely love it!

I'm going to California for 5 days starting the 20th. Anaheim, Disney Land. I'm excited, but I despise packing for a trip. It's for a national business competition. I am excited about the 15 pounds I've lost since the state competition, and all my business clothes should fit much better (they were all a little tight at state).

I'm off to eat breakfast and take the munchkin to daycare. Hope you guys are all having a good start to your days!

Good afternoon all. I have good news. Well. My weight didn't go up at all. I haven't been eating as much for the past few days. Stess weight loss. What a bummer.. Reason why I say that is because. It's stress weight loss, and on top of that. You know what happens with stress weight loss. It comes back. I was telling my GF this morning. I have stress weight loss. What do I do with that? She said.. Get the stress levels down, and maintain the stress loss. Focus on that this week. TOM is knocking on the door, and I know I will have some water weight gain. I told her about that, and her words to me was. Focus on drinking the water, and let that flush you out. I'm find with that. I'm going to finish getting the house in order. I moved some things around in the house. I'm looking at the set up now. I'm going to have to go shopping for good foods this week. Sometime in the next few days. I'm changing a few steps around in my 12 steps to improvement, and I'm going to make it my business to just stop eating all fried foods on my own. I love those things. But I know.. I can cook my food better than I have in the past few months. I can bake and grill. Hubs and mom can't live with out cooking oil. Or the kids. But tonight.. I'm going to try something totally new with them all. I'm going to work my family in my 12 steps program.. Undercover, and see if I can't get under this 150 I am at now.  I know I can do it. I just have to stay focus.

Sadinplaid..... Girl.. I love the fact that you are going to think about the your steps. My advice to you.. If you don't mind me giving it is. Think about how good your number one is going to be, and how it's going to help you everyday. I picked a clean house.. And a clean life style for my health because.. It brings in balance. When I get everything in order with my 2 spaces I'm working on. I will upload some pics as reminders. A reminder of what I am working on. I've also framed a few workouts sets I like, and those things are going right by my bed room door. To remind me to focus on working out a lot more. I'm going to start giving myself 20 mins in the morning to do those moves. I'm even going to focus on walking a whole lot more. Things has to come full circle in your life. In my life, and once they come full circle.. I know... I will start to release some weight.  It's a good thing. I'm glad you think it's a lovely idea..

Chat you girl later on.. I feel wonderful..

OH! I have to add this.. State your mood. Never shy away from the mood you are feeling. I feel wonderful girls, and that's the best mood thus far. I'm going to go find something safe to eat.

Later!

Hello, my name is Maria, I'm 20 7'7.5" and 145.5 lbs.

I began losing weight on August '08 at the weight of 176 approx. I have a very low self esteem n I just don't seem to like myself, so I'm trying to reach 135 lbs in hope that it'll give me something to like myself for.

I decided loosing weight b/c of 2 reasons: 1. I was suffering from horrible stomachaches and since I thought it was b/c of the army horrible food I went to a nutritionist to learn how to eat better (later was diagnosed with Crohn's disease n thrown out from the army, so I got at least one good thing out of it:) ). 2. In the army u have the right to recieve psychological help n since I had no money for this before I decided to try. Had the awesomest psychologist ever :) I don't LOATHE myself anymore, I got rid of all the people that called themselves my friends (while they were feeding on my self-hate, making themselves feel better) and realized that I should really care about myself. So I went on a diet :)

I am trying to be positive about everything which is super-hard for me! I'll be starting my first year in college - Edinburgh Colleg of Art and I'm very excited (hopefully there won't be any problems with the visa @_@). I want to look good n feel good by September. Being out of the army is great bet it also means that I do not recieve the support I had from the psychologist there.

I want to join this group for support and who knows, maybe I can help someone too? ^_^

Hi Maria! Welcome!

Congrats on your decision to join us here. It's a good place to be. I've lost 15 pounds since joining, and haven't felt so healthy and happy in a long time. I'm just wrapping up my undergrad, so I understand the stress that lays ahead of you. Maybe if I would've started college at a healthy weight with a healthier mind set, I wouldn't be finishing up college with 50 pounds to lose =)

Hey Lynn - Today I was thinking about my 12 steps throughout my day. Some of the things I came up with probably aren't big enough to deserve their own step, but I'm going to PM you when I get home from class tonight to tell you about what I came up with.

I hope the rest of you are doing well, and all of you are having a fantabulous Monday!

These 12 steps....I can't really do it.  I have to focus on my fat and calorie intake and make sure I get both of what I need for the Alli to work.  It's hard!  Maybe after I get that in check, I can think about other things.

But I'm doing well.  I lost another pound, so it is working.  I'm excited!  I can't wait to get back down to my lowest weight and then move on down to my goal!  YAY!!!  I can actually see it happening now.

Stress is hard on losing weight.  I always try to keep my levels down.  If I feel stressed, I talk about it and it helps.  If I keep it to myself, it just reeks havoc on me.  I don't need it.  I don't want it.

I'm feeling much better today that ttom is calming down.  I walked today for an hour, it was just so darn hot out.  It's suppose to be cooling down a bit. Thak goodness! 

Maria....Welcome!  This is a great group of people here. 

Hi, I'm Josette.

I want to lose weight to get healthy- high blood pressure runs in my family, and I understand that being overwight is going to eventually take its toll on my body. I also want to lose weight to feel better about myself. I don't remember a time where I wasn't pudgy or overweight, and it embarrasses me.

My wake up call? I've had a few of those. I'm not new to weight loss, but I fell off the wagon big time. There was one point where losing weight seemed pretty unimportant compared to whatever else was going on. My most recent wake up call was yesterday, when I dared to step on the scale. I discovered that I'm nearly 200 pounds. I hate the feeling of having no control when I overeat or choose to be inactive, so here I am, fighting for control again.

I'm really excited to see a group like this! Good luck to everyone

Hi Everyone, I'm CJ and Im back to CC after getting lazy and failing off the radar in April.

My wake up call - I gained back all the weight I had lost in the last year. I am 170 now and I'm not setting a definate goal for myself. I like the way I look at around 130-140 so anywhere in that range (hell, I'll be happy with anything under 150).

There was a time in my life when I enjoyed being active, but a string of bad events (family and otherwise) left me depressed and overeating to the max about 4 years ago. I really want to start hiking again, which is an activity I really did love. I would also love to find a soccer league or something locally (I live in Philadelphia, if anyone knows of one) so that I can get back into team motivation which is one of the only things that helps me be and stay active.

I started counting yesterday. Here's to a long journey - but not a rushed one!

Hi everyone, and welcome all newbies. I'm glad I started something you all like. I hope to hear more from each and everyone of you.

Now then, today has started off pretty good. I got my kids moving around in the house, and out side of the house. Cleaning up.  I want to get my step one out of the way and maintail it. It just don't stop with step one, and I move on to the next. I try to hold and maintain that step and move on forward with the next one after I've maintain that step for more than 2 weeks. I don't rush through my steps. I try to take my time.

So Tammy, Maybe you can do this 12 steps to improvement right now. With your number 1 as.... Focusing on your fat and calories intake, and making sure you get all you need for the alli to work. So your step one could be.. To improve my diet. Since that is your first and for most right now. Just think about it. Because right now. I see a step in motion. And congrats on another pounds loss. It's great news for this group..

Sadinplaid, Hey. I will get over to my mail box and check what you have out.  Maybe I can get an idea or two from you. It don't have to be 12 steps you know. It can be as many as you like. 12 just sounds good. I was thinking about adding 12 more, but I have to past these 12 before I come up with the 12 steps to maintain my improvements. Everyone needs balance.

I do believe that balance, and being creative with how your are going to balance your everyday life will lead to an healthier life style. My husband is working on his 12 steps to improvement. He shared his first 6 with me last night. He said.. I don't have 12 just yet, but he should have them all by the end of this week.  He's number 1 is the same as minds. When I mean clean up house. I mean clean house, and yourself as a temple as well. I do believe that doing this will not only improve my life, but the life and well being of my children and family. SO I'm still working, and it might take me a month to get step one done. This isn't an over night process. It's has no dead lines. That's what I like about it. Taking steps to improve my life is key to my very own weight loss.

Like I said before. I hope you all give it a try. It might just open up some doors, or lead you back to something old you use to do in the past, and find great joy in. Like my mom's needle point. Making blankets.. Give something old you use to enjoy a try.

Well ladies.. I'm off.. If this post sounds like crap.... Tell me.. Share your feelings idea's what ever in this group. What you share just might improve someones life.

I really hope I won't be struggling with my weight in college. I wanna do my best n be great n enjoy since I'm very lucky to go study something I love (art!). From my experience I always lose weight when not around my parents cuz I don't tend to buy junk n also have more energy for some reason. Dunno why, since my parents are great, just old-fashioned. But I've never been that far - another country (and not my mother language either!!) for that long. >_< I'm really looking forward to moving there!

Mash, you want struggle with your weight in college. Just surround yourself with positive things, and stay on top of things in an organize way. It's not that easy trying to keep your weight in check, but make sure you give yourself an check list of rules.

Rule number one.... Make sure you eat right all the time. People say. Those 100 calories snacks aren't good. I feel they are better than the junk. Just remember. Make sure you make time to eat right. That happens with a lot of college students.

Just give yourself a postive settings. Don't get wrapped up in all the college drama.

I wish you the best of luck.