NO Dead line... Wear healthy not a swim suit.. Support GROUP.

Hello everyone.

This is an join in anytime support group. No topic off limits. You are welcome to share your day to day challenges, and personal goals. I'm looking for people who has no dead line.

I'm sick of this dead line weight loss talk.

I want to release some weight, and gain some new friends to walk this journey with me.

Here's what you have to do.

Join in..
Share your name.
Your reason for losing weightg.. NOT CLOTHING RELATED PLEASE...
And what was your wake up call to get on the right track.

This is a new start.  I don't want any weekly weigh ins here. I just want conversation.. Congrats if you have good news.. SHARE! If you need to vent.. Go a head.. If you need to cry.. Shoulder's are right here..

This is a support group.. No more fashion dead lines.. Let's make this a non dead line.. We are going to get to healthy. That's the goal here. To make it to healthy...

I hope to hear from a lot of you.

Are you going to a big get-together on the 4th?  I wish we were.  We have nothing planned.  :(  Hubby is off this week.  The company shut down for inventory.  He's doing ok with it.  He has been cleaning, trying to keep busy.  He hates just sitting around and doing nothing.  Gotta luv him! LOL

Nice to hear you are doing good with the Alli!  It really isn't too bad unless you really mess up with the fat.  I did it once and I was real sick for 2 days.  Microwave popcorn did me in! hehe  Won't do that again.  I ran out, but I am going back on it.  I like it alot.

I've been staying up late and sleeping in late.  I wish I could go to sleep earlier.  But I do like staying up late.  I watch tv and play on here. 

I went for a walk today.  I took a chance bc the clouds were pretty dark out. But I didn't get rained on until I was almost home and it was just a sprinkle that didn't amount to anything.  It was real windy and it felt good to be out. It was only 69* out and sooooo nice. 

Hope you all are having a good week!  ;)

Of course i'm starting to get frustrated even abt the Alli commercials on TV. I wish ppl would ban the weight loss pills forever. Makes me look like I'm not making ANY progress, yet  I only have 10 lbs to lose. Of course there are other fat-burning pills here but they DO interfere wt Birth Control and I'm not that stupid. So, I'm sucking it up and exercising my butt off.

I was talking wt hubby abt the whole weight loss industry and at least  i know he appreciates me for losing 35 lbs on my own and staying at a healthy weight for almost 3 yrs already.

Sorry, I had to get this off my chest. Lynn, you know I don't blame or accuse you for using Alli. It's just my honest opinion so guys don't be surprised if I stick to Spark People only and the ladies in my group who are at 10 lbs from the goal as well -- so we fight the same "demons" and frustrations at this point.

Hello ladies, How is everyone.  I was looking for the group and couldn't find it and was like oh no I lost my homey's ....hahhahaha  I have moved and have been unpacking for like forever.  I have unpacked so much but it seems like we have done nothing.  I told my husband we are living here til we die.  Moving is no joke I can't believe how much work it is.  Its like a full time job.  I have read the thread and see that everyone is doing good and things are going ok. Lynn I don't like the fact that you are taking those pills but if that is what works for you then just be careful ok.  I don't believe in pills of any sort because down the line there is always a problem and I don't feel you are fixing the problem just putting a bandaid on it but you know I support you girl and those are just my feelings... I got ur back girl...

I like the idea that you started another group,  Its fresh and new and maybe we can get better results....

Well just wanted to check and say that I am alive and will def start coming on more again....

Hi AJ!  Nice to hear from you!  This is a great group of people here.  I hate moving too!  All that packing and unpacking is for the birds! LOL

Not much going on here.  Went for my walk today, in the rain!  It was just sprinkling occasionally so I grabbed the umbrella and went. I walked for 2 hours!  It was a nice walk. 

Tomorrow, taking a trip to the dentist with my son.  He's not too happy I'm making him go.  He's getting his teeth cleaned and getting x-rays to see if he has cavities.  I'll be surprised if he doesn't with all the junk he eats.  Oreos every night with milk!  Sheesh! 

Well, gotta get to bed so I can get up to take him at 10:30.  I hate mornings! :( 

I respect all of your wishes to the fullest, and how you all feel about weight loss drugs and Alli.. I still have to break a sweat. Don't get me wrong. It's a band-aid in most eyes, and a better solution in others. This is something I had to do, and I must say. I eat a whole lot better. I do 100% better, and don't get me wrong. I've lost tons of weight on my own steam.. 86 before the back slide, and dammit..  That took me for a flying loop. I'm not going to say that I don't like it.. Taking the alli, but I can tell you this.. It's not an everyday poppin pill with me.. I've taken the drug once this week. I am not taking them due to the holiday that is coming up, and I never eat at the 4th cookouts at all. I just chill talk to my friends and family, and drink water or kool aid.. Sugar free.. I must add, because I carry those packets in my purse..

SO much has happen to me in this week alone, and I have to get over a man and a whole lot of un spoken issues with myself to get back down to my old weight. I'm under a doctors care.. I would have not started them if I didn't get the full body work up and the O K.... I got it, and I'm going full steam a head.

Cricket.. I like you very much as a friend, and I respect you to the fullest. If the group loses you do to my Alli use.. Thats going to be heart breaking to me.. But I full understand.. I need support, and I know you, Tammy, and AJ has and will always support me to the fullest. I'm so happy that you are strong, and can do this on your own steam.. BUT I've been 278 pounds.. I've been 246 pounds.. I've been 130-150 and 180 pounds.. I've been every number on the scales and that's not a great feeling at all. I have to use this drug.... Not because of other's that has tried it and gave me great feedback on it.. But because.. I need help controling this thing. No one can do it all alone.. That's why there is support systems out here, and I need help eating better, and that is what this drug helps me do.. Be mindful of what I put into my mouth.. Have I lost any more weight since I've started.. NO.. Not a pound at all this week. So I know.. Some of the weight I've lost is my 12 mid nite trips to the gym.. And I have gone to the ED levels of losing weight in the past, and I'm trying not to go back to that track of road. Before I started using alli.. I notice myself.. Not eating more than 7000 calories a week. I looked at my food journals, and there was days when I would binge eat, and that wasn't good for me at all. For me to use the alli.. I have to be in the 1200 range.. I have to do it.. It's a must do.. So I make myself eat more.. I make myself... Do more.... Don't you understand.. This is war with my body, and I am fighting it every step of the way. You just don't know how I feel sometimes.. I feel like I'm losing.. When I see the scales move.. I didn't get on the scales again until this morning, and I saw the same number from monday morning. This is something I choose to do, and I am going to use this drug for a short term.. This isn't long term for me.. NOT at all..  So I respect you and your wishes to leave and stick with spark...

Aj.. I'm glad you got the move done, and I hate that you have to do so much un packing.. I also thank you for what you said, and I respect your wishes as well, and support.. I will be on after if I get around to it on the forth and talk to you all then.. If you are around..

Keep up the good work everyone..

Lynn, I never questioned or blamed you for using Alli.

Just that I'm very frustrated right now, still at 130-131 lbs and not managing to get down to 120s. I lost steam and nothing seems to motivate me. Not even the vacation plans.

I've been looking into some "aids" (fat burners) but they interfere wt the BCP and I really don't want or need such problems. Not to mention that weight loss pills of ANY kind are NOT safe and not a good long-term solution anyway.

I guess I need a good kick in the rear to work out way more.

On top of that I was told that 3 of my colleagues were laid off so right now i'm so glad I put all the efforts I could into my work. I love what I do and probably it does show.

But the stress doesn't help wt the weight loss anyway.

I'm still looming around but I might not be posting that often.

Happy 4th ladies!

Hey ladies!

I haven't stepped on the scale in a few days, so don't know what the number is.  Who knows?  Probably the same as last week! UGH!!!

I took my son to the dentist and found out he has to get his Wisdom teeth pulled.  Gotta get them out before they start pushing his teeth forward.  He has perfect teeth thanks to braces and I don't want them messed up.  He only has ONE cavity too!  I can't believe after all the junk he eats, he has one stinking cavity.  I'd have a million!  He has to get one filling replaced, it's chipping.  So the trip wasn't too bad.  Although he was angry he had to go and even angrier that he has to get 4 teeth pulled out his mouth.  Wait til he finds out they put him to sleep!  Haven't told him that yet.

Have a happy AND safe 4th of July everyone!!!  ;)

Hi everyone,

Happy 4th.... Enjoy yourself... Have fun.. DO YOU!

Well, this 4th has me on the edge of the wall. I'm not stressing at all about what I am going to eat, or what I am going to do with my family. I didn't drink a drop, and I'm so sick of BBQ that me my god sis and my daughter went to Taco Bell.. I know the calories in that, and I had a few cup cakes and I feel pretty great. I hit the gym early this morning at 5am, and got a great workout in.  The gym will be closed for the rest of the day at 10.. So I had to get in there and do it.  I had fun.

Now then.. Cricket... If you post less that's fine. Just as long as you say hello everyonce in a while. I understand your frustrations with the weight loss and lost of motivation. I have those days. I've been shoppin a whole lot more, and everything I love I get a few sizes smaller.. All but my workout gear that I got at Rue 21 for 5 and 2, and my shorts that I loved so much at wal mart.. Make a great interveiwing outfit for more clients. I've been just taking one day at a time. I looked in fat burners, and I do know what I did to lose the weight the first time around. I went on this crazy diet.. And I mean diet..

Black coffee in the morning with a sugar and 2 whole wheat dry toast with a grape fruit.
Lunch Green Tea with a tuna sandwich and a salad on the side with a small fruit.
Dinner.. Half of what the children was eating. On a smaller plate. Some days I was bring in 12 grams of fat, and I was doing nothing but making myself sick. That's why the weight hit me so hard on the re-gain, because I ate so damn bad to get it off in the first place. SO I am learning how to eat. I am learning how to cut out and cut back, and back then. My diet had no room for a drive thur window, and that has to come back into my life style change/diet... I'm going to miss hearing from you, but just in case you change your mind... I just want you to know that I will always be here and will keep in touch. I hope you get to your 120.. I really do.. I want you to do that.. But I want you to be happy. You have the right idea about weight loss don't get me wrong. I just asked for a little help from my doctor, and his suggestions was ALLI, and a whole lot of other drugs I could be using. But Alli was the safe way for me.. I didn't want to have to give myself an shot everyday of some kind of hormone to release the fat on my body.. They do have those kinds of drugs that effects the brain. Or tells the brain to release weight and cut your craving down in half, but I went with the alli, and after this. I'm not trying nothing else..

I wish you all the best of luck, and a happy 4th.

Lynn

thanks for the kind replay

I was talking to hubby yesterday and i think we are changing the vacation plans. I'd fancy spending less on the transport and using those money to get some new clothes. So we are probably going to Vienna again.

My boss will probably go nuts abt it but oh well..I don't intend to spend 2 freaking days on the train to Greece. We can go there next year , right?

I've upped my cals to the 1500-1600 cal b/c i felt i was eating too few. But I am going to drop them again next week. My weight is stuck at the same value for 3 weeks so that's a sign I need to change something, right?

i'm still wearing S size US (or M in Europe). But my belly pooch doesn't want to go away and i don't have any reasons for that...ugh

Hey ladies.

Had fun this weekend.  It is my son's bday and he turned 7.  We did a lot of out door activity so we are burned and I must have gained like 5 pounds.  Not bugging out because I know in a few days it will all fall off.

I haven't admitted it to anyone because I don't want to hear I told you so but I am home sick!!! lol... I don't miss my home per se but I miss the familiar places and ppl.  I love it here.  It is nice and quiet and perfect place for my kids but I have lived in my old neighborhood for 30 years and now I have been gone for 2 weeks and I guess reality is setting in and I know I am here for good.  At least for a year because that is what my lease is for... I guess in time I will be better and things will work out. 

Hubby has been getting on my nerves because he is not used to anything here and everything is a reality check for him.  He is such a city kid and the country is killing him...lol  Its an adjustment for all of us in time we will be fine.

You know Lynn.  I was thinking.  I was also once 220 and then 190, 186, 157, 132 even 130 once.  I feel that I have learned alot at all the stages of this damn weight loss thing but one thing I do know that it was hard work and that I am neva eva getting back to 220 or 186.  I know and have learned what I need to do not to get there but what I don't know yet is how to get rid of those last 10 pounds that keep creeping up and down.  some say its ur body telling u that enough is enough but I just think its my brain and cravings...hahahaha

Well ladies don't worry about the negatives think about the positives.  Lynn I support what ever works for you and I am here you know that.  If you feel that this is what works for you then go for it. 

By the way you mentioned something about getting over a man.  Did I miss something or am I mis reading something.  I hope everything is ok. 

Cricket, I know the trip to Vienna is going to be just fine. Getting new clothes has always been a joy for me. I've shopped more in this past week than I had in years. All workout gear mostly, but I did get a few outfits that I do love. A few dresses, and a short suit set. I do love it and I'm sure I will make it do what it does for me.  In time your weight will drop. Changing your calories around can jump start the weight loss, and changing your program around could work as well. I do wish you the best of luck.

Aj, I am so happy that the move is over. I know you are feeling a little home sick. When I lived in the city in 2007.. I felt a little home sick myself. Use to the country life, and the fresh air.. Now I'm back, and I want a basement home, and they only have homes like that in the city. A few of the people I know have shown me homes here in the country that does have basements, but none of them are finish.. So I am on the fence. Right now.. I'm with no man. There is no more hubs in my future. We ended our 7 year relationship due to some drama that was unfolding right before my eyes.  And I just ended the relationship after he broke my heart for the last time. I'm trying to stay stress free, and move forward with my life. I've had crazy days for the past few weeks, and I'm trying to get a grip on this weight gain. I binge ate once again today, and I know better, but I have to ask myself the question.. What do I need to complete me? What is going to make me move forward? Well, after getting called in to check out a new client the answer came to me. The answer was..

In order for me to shine in my life now.. Is to love me, and to be a healthy me. It's not about losing weight right now. It's all about gaining some type of control, but I don't want any type of control. I want the control that has some type of balance. But what that balance is.. It's unknown to me as of now.. I took the alli again twice today, and no effects at all. I'm still trying to find out why I haven't had any effects. I guess I ate pretty good for me to be binge eating. Well, I'm looking at the bright side of things. I'm moving forward, and making each day worth something more than the day before. That's my goal. To make every day and every moment count. Well, since I've been eating badly this week. I'm going to pre pack my salads and lunches this week.

A girl friend told me about the color diet. I've never heard of it, but the color you don't want to eat is white. Any color but that. I'm going to give it a shot, and see what happens for me..  I will be back later to talk to you all again. I got to run right quick..

Hi Lynn and everyone.  Oh lynn I am sorry to hear about ur breakup.  I hate to hear when things go wrong but I know it does happen.  My sister has been struggling with a break up for the past 4 months and it is killing her.  But what doesn't kill u only makes  u stronger isn't it that.  Girl I know u are strong and you can make it without a man.  You have to do it for u if not u will neva be happy.  Things happen for a reason and mayb this is what the man above wanted for u so that you can focus on u and not on him. Not sure just thought I would give a little encouragement.  I believe in u and I know u believe in urself.  You are such a strong minded women.  I haven't met u but ur words are so strong and the way u handle situations I know u can do this.  I am here if u need me u can email me privately if u need at ajtimes24u@aol.com.  I am sorry if I opened up something and made u say something about the situation if u weren't ready.  I was just shocked at the comment u made. 

Country live is good but I was so used to the city that I am kind of going crazy but I will not leave this place for nothing.  My kids are at peace and we are having a ball.lol

Hi ladies, I'm back again. Aj, you said nothing wrong. Trust me. This has been in the making for a long time.. All the fussing and getting mad is now all over with. I know I am taking this pretty cool, but hey.. This is how I do handle things like this. We been together for 7 years, and clearly.. I wasn't ready to marry this man at all. He was pushing the issue at one point, and then a whole lot of drama came about. Baby mama, and if he is or not the father type of thing. I pushed him to take the test, and he is not the father and on top of that. He's hurt. More so his pride, because he lied to me for years about it, and was doing for the child. I didn't mind him doing for this grown woman.. She's 17.. So I call her grown because she has her own mindset, and I'm not going to get in the middle of that issue that was going on with him and this woman who later on broke his heart with all her lies and things. Well, a lesson learn for him, and the price I must pay for making him go get an DNA test done. That's what broke us apart. That right there, and I feel pretty bad about it you know. I feel broken hearted for him a little, but not for myself- because I guess I gave up on him. On top of that. My cousin was shot and killed on the 4th by his step dad, but not around my family get together. He is on my father side of the family, and I hate that his life ended like this over a bunch of BS. A card game or something they say. All I understand is... Life is to short to be crying and fussing over things that can't be fixed. So I'm on the market. A friend of mines asked me was it too early for me to date, and I said to him. Lets give it a try and lets see if it kills me. He laugh, and we walked around wal mart on friday... And he listen to me vent a little, and got me a small suit outfit to work myself into so I want miss my goal, and he is praying things go alright with me. He care less about the one I was with. He was married for 8 years, and from the time of the marriage to the time it ended. He said.. She fussed and cussed more than a grown man would, and he was so sick of the drama and her doing what she wanted to do. So his word of advice was for me to do me, and don't drop off the face of the earth, and I choose not to do that. My choice is to live my life to the fullest, and enjoy the woman I am within, and embrace the person I was born to be. A care giver and a lover. I'm going to be okay. I know I am.. I'm up pulling a double until 4am... and then up again to drive my uncle in for his chemo treatment.. I have to be on the road at 7:45 to make it on time. Then back home to rest. Did double the workouts today, and I'm sure that all will balance out my poor binging today.. Everything is great, but I will e mail you if I hit the wall like a mad woman in weeks to come. I'm okay... It's time to rebuild me.. You know. Get my life on track so I can see myself for who I am, and what I'm worth to myself, and no one other than myself. I hope you understand what I mean. Talk to you all later, and Tammy... Where are you girl? I haven't heard from you in a while. I hope all is well, and your son is okay..

Just a short update:

-- still waiting for confirmation from Vienna

-- my work schedule just became VERY busy at this point; new stuff going on. should be interesting though

-- managed to stick to 1340 cal yesterday and I'm planning ST today

Hey Cricket, I'm sure you are going to know something in a few days. I've just got back in from my running around, and I'm watching the Live- Remembering Michael Jackson on abc, and so much is going on in my head and heart.

Well, everyone knows how I feel about him, and now it's time for me to move on.

Today my life style change is moving along as planned. I'm watching my carbs and fat. Going on a low carb, and reduced fat diet is going to be touchy and tough, but the plan i choose to go with. Me and my doctor came up with this plan because in my food journals he sees the big connection with me and carbs, and I'm feasting on more carbs than fat at times, but those carbs are loaded with fat. So he made a few suggestions, and I'm willing to give it a try.

Nothing wrong with listening to your doctor, and i'm listening to him every step of the way.. If this helps break down some of these walls of fat cells I carry. I'm trying, and will always be fighting to lose this weight. I'm giving it my all, and I will keep on keep on pushing pass all this painful stress and depression of weight loss. I will get it. I will get there, and once I do.... I will be happy.  I'm happy now, but not as happy as  I should be.. I will keep on fighting.

I got the email today! We've got a room booked for Aug 17 to Aug 21 in Vienna.

I also watched the MJ memorial (on CNN) and i'm a bit...don't know, sad, maybe. Hubby should be home in 15 min so I'd better snap back to normal ASAP

Cricket, I was on my way to get my uncle, and it started to hit me on the road, because it was aired on the radio air ways. When I heard a few of the songs, and heard the voices of people talk, and the poem that was from the great maya angelo. I started to cry. I am sad, and something is going on within side of my very self. More like change. Sometimes something so great as death, can make you really take a look within your own life. I hurt for the Jackson family, but most of all. I hurt for myself.  I do believe it's the care giver in me.. And I've always been an emotional person. Always... He will be greatly missed. So pull yourself together, but don't be too ashamed to let out any feelings.. We all loved this man, and he brought great music, and works into our very lives. He has shown myself, and my family.. That anything is possible.  And as I look at the woman in the mirror.. I ask myself.... What can I do to change my ways? I'm doing those things now.. I'm making my life a better one, and my life as I walk a better place. Tough pill to take, but I am taking it.. Because, I want something better than just weight loss. I want to beable to be free from all the demons, and depression from my very own past. I can say with great comfort. Rest Michael Jackson.. Your work has been done.. And will live on through out...

you are right. he will be missed and remembered. i still cannot believe he's dead though :( R.I.P.

Wow! 3 days and noone has been here. 

I weighed in at 186 today.  Down 2 lbs.  I'm happy to see that, even though disappointed I even see that number again. I told myself months ago I wouldn't let myself hit 180 again and now I'm close to 190!  What happened to me????  Just a question to myself.  I gained 18 lbs back.  It was so easy to do. Now I have to struggle to get it back off...........AGAIN!!!!

Anyways, I'm really trying now and even held back from the donuts in my kitchen.  Yeah, 2 dozen donuts from Krispy Kreme! I'm not eating at night, I did eat Cauliflower last night though.  Veggies are good anytime. ;)  It's tough not eating at night.  That's my problem, I know it.  I want junk at night.  Chips, cookies, donuts, anything loaded with sugar.  I have gotten back to what I was doing in the beginning and I feel so much better for it.

Hey Tammy, I've been around the board, but not here at all myself. As of today. I weigh in at 151.4 and I'm fine with that. TOM is on board, and I'm sure I will be up some more myself in pounds, but it's all water weight. I have not been 100% on the alli program like I should be. I've been working, and only been using it at night, and trying to watch what I eat at lunch time during my work week. So far everything is going good. I've been trying to keep my carbs in check, and watch out for the junk food too.  If I don't watch it. I'm in nothing but trouble, and I don't want the trouble. I had the alli with dinner tonight. We had pizza, and I had to have some. It's been a while. So I ate and enjoyed my pizza carb loaded meal. Well, as of next week. It's 45 mins on the ellpitcal, and slim fast, and low carb eating.. Oh, and watching out for the fats. This losing weight thing is hard, and is coming a part time/full time job. Trying to get everything under control is one thing, and I don't even know how I let myself go myself.. I guess I got lazy. That's the only thing i can blame it on now, and as i think about it. I'm lazy by the second most days and is beat when i come home from work. oh well. we are going to get this weight off in the long run. we just have to keep on working on it.