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never mind.

Was there anything else or was it just the bread? I can see it being a little annoying, but I do think you are being oversensitive if that was the only problem and the service was otherwise fine.

It could have been a genuine oversight - I don't see why any waiter would purposely not bring you something you had asked for, regardless of your size. After all, a waiter's take for the night is tip-dependant.

"After all, a waiter's take for the night is tip-dependant."

Yes - I could see bad service based on how affluent a person was dressed (though I've heard some of the best tippers are waitresses, or ex-waitresses), but as far as weight, it just doesn't make sense.  Not to say that illogical things don't happen...

why do I have to ask for the same thing twice? we were hungry and we needed some bread and simply we didn't get what we wanted. what pissed me off when I saw the barbie doll getting everything she wanted in a matter of seconds. 

I can tell it was a different treatment.

Hi Safina...

I was there...at 240 pounds and 5'6. I know you may think you're too sensitive, but that really was plain rude. I would have done one or two of four things.

a. Immediately request a manager and tell him you're unhappy-(you can be very tactful and honest). There were a few times when they've either given us a discount or threw the appetizers in for free. (And no I don't do this all the time) But if I am paying top dollar, I expect to be treated well.

b. Look for the restaurant's website. Sometimes they have surveys or they give the consumer a chance to "share" their experiences. There's usually a "contact us" email address, where you can state your unpleasant experience.

c. Next time you should have poor service, it's more insulting to a waiter, in my experience, to leave a penny for a tip.

d. Tell your friends and family about the experience.

I doubt it was because you are overweight - I think you're projecting on that one. I was a server for years, and occasionally there's a table that just doesn't get enough attention for whatever reason - trust me, it's never because the server thinks you're fat. In cases where you didn't feel you got the best service, politely speak to the manager at the end of the meal, and calmly explain the situation and why you were unhappy - it will get you a lot further than leaving a penny for a tip :)

I don't know if its about being overweight, but a retail employee in general will give more/better attention to someone they're physically attracted to than someone they're not. I'm guilty of that too. I think in general, people are more likely to treat people that they're attracted to better than people that they're not.

In restaurants though, I've found that being overweight gets me BETTER treatment because they figure I may order more food than a slimmer person would - which means more sales, which should mean a higher tip.

Original Post by safina1:

I can tell it was a different treatment.

why ask the question if you've already settled on an answer? 

Original Post by pgeorgian:

Original Post by safina1:

I can tell it was a different treatment.

why ask the question if you've already settled on an answer? 

Because I wanted to know if I was right or not.

Original Post by novileigh:

I don't know if its about being overweight, but a retail employee in general will give more/better attention to someone they're physically attracted to than someone they're not. I'm guilty of that too. I think in general, people are more likely to treat people that they're attracted to better than people that they're not.

 

why would some people recieve less attention than others if they pay their bills and/or tips? 

is this really fair?

Original Post by mypuppymylife:

c. Next time you should have poor service, it's more insulting to a waiter, in my experience, to leave a penny for a tip.

Yes, it is insulting to be left a penny. But insulting someone for poor service is childish. You have no idea why the service was poor - maybe they are new?

As someone who has spent some time working as a waitress, I disagree with the claim that waiters might better serve someone who was more affluently dressed. Rich people are not necessarily better tippers. I serve people better who are polite and friendly. If you are arrogant, rude or condescending: I'll still serve you well. But I won't make small talk and I won't go the extra mile for you.

It is true that hospo workers are the best tippers - I know when someone is really working or trying hard and I appreciate that because I know how hard the job can be.

I still think the missing bread was a genuine oversight. But if it was on purpose, I would suggest maybe it is because you have a defensive attitude because of your weight; not because of your weight itself. Nobody likes serving a snarky customer.

And really - the whole "I didn't get bread" thing seems like you blew it totally out of proportion. Why let your night get ruined by one minor detail? If I had otherwise had good food, good wine and good company I would still have counted that as a great night.

merylwhite1

I deleted my post because I don't want to talk about this anymore but you are still here defending people who don't do their jobs very well. and no the overall service was not good. 

If they are new, I think they should strive to offer the best service to prove themselves. besides that, since when bringing some bread to a customer requires special skills? The question is not about the bread, the question is we ordered somethinhg TWICE and we didn't get it. what I am suppose to do? go to their kitchen and serve myself? I also had a guest who really loves bread and wanted to have some. 

snarky? who are you referring to excatly? 

and no , I am not going to give my money to some careless, lazy people who don't do their jobs. and yes, the penny idea is not a bad idea for next time if that ever happen again.

good looks are an asset...anyone who doesnt think so is fooling themselves. you sound bitter. it may not be all about you... your service may have had absolutely nothing to do with you.

men who are spellbound by pretty girls shouldnt be punished. they cant help themselves. :)

Original Post by safina1:

snarky? who are you referring to excatly? 

You certainly give me the impression that you would have been an unpleasant customer to deal with. Why get all worked up over BREAD - after all not exactly the main component of any meal, is it? Grow up and realise there are way more important things in life to get upset about.

Original Post by watergirl:

good looks are an asset...anyone who doesnt think so is fooling themselves. you sound bitter. it may not be all about you... your service may have had absolutely nothing to do with you.

men who are spellbound by pretty girls shouldnt be punished. they cant help themselves. :)

I am so sorry:( I punished the poor guy who was drolling over the pretty customer so he forgot what other customers ordered. Frogive me because I should have realized that he can't even help himself. 

Original Post by merylwhite1:

Original Post by safina1:

snarky? who are you referring to excatly? 

You certainly give me the impression that you would have been an unpleasant customer to deal with. Why get all worked up over BREAD - after all not exactly the main component of any meal, is it? Grow up and realise there are way more important things in life to get upset about.

I deleted the post and you are still posting about this UNimportant thing, right?

and I am sorry to say that you too need to grow up and don't judge people you never met or call them names based on your IMPRESSIONS.

B-I-T-T-E-R that spells bitter.

the sooner you accept the sad truth, the sooner you will not allow men who cant help themselves ruin your day. and now you are taking it out on us?

i realize bimbo barbie girls are annoying yes, but we do have to share the world with them and the men who fawn over them. i totally get that. no matter what you look like, there will always be women prettier than you. there will always be men who totally ignore you as soon as someone more attractive walks in the room. 

truth.

why not just learn to laugh about it? make your napkin into a big hard-on and sit there until he notices and if he doesnt notice you start whacking on your napkin!!! everyone else who got crappy service would be laughing with you!!!

just roll with it, dont let it eat you up girl. hes not worth it and neither is she.

WG, you are assuming that I am not pretty. where did you get that from? :)) and you are talking about good looks. who told you that my friend and I were not good looking or  not dressed well? my post was about overweight people and whether or not they get different treatment in public places. 

I know that there will always be women prettier than me.  Angelina Jolie is prettier than both of us, and I have no objection. 

but when I pay money and / or tips, I excpect to get what I want. again, it is not about the bread itself. I could have walked into a super market and bought a whole loaf but it is the quality of service that pissed me off. 

I know it is not that very important but it certainly got me mad a little bit yesterday. I am just still wondering if overweight people get different treatment in public places, in general? I don't know?

i never assumed you werent pretty, YOU assumed i assumed you werent pretty. pretty/ overweight/ attractive...semantics! those words are all interchangeable within the point i was making. pick one. i dont care which. it was a generalization, not specifically about you.

i think overwight people DO get treated differently. that was the first thing i learned when i joined cc, thus i make a conscious effort not to discriminate myself. i go out of my way to include overweight people and i notice that some poor souls are so used to being invisible that they are kind of shocked that a random stranger wold choose them out of a crowd to be friendly too.

i still think you should have jerked off your napkin...

I assumed that YOU assumed I am not pretty because of this

Original Post by watergirl:

men who are spellbound by pretty girls shouldnt be punished. they cant help themselves. :)

and next time, I will jerk off my napkin but I will also pay one PENNY for tips. :)