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You know what I find motivating, my curiosity. I have never been slim, and I really want to know what it is like, and how I would look. I just can't picture it, lol.

I need to do more exercise, but I don't know where to begin. Gyms bore me, and I get very self-conscious, so don't enjoy myself one bit. Aerobic classes also bore me, and I don't want to hate exercise. I should start with something light, to get my body moving, perhaps swimming? Any suggestions?

weirdkitty... You made a comment a post a long time back that I loved... You said you could picture yourself as easily slim as you could Chinese.. I LOVED that!!!  I used to feel that way too..  I would hear "visualize yourself thin...." Huh??? How do I do THAT???  I even looked DIFFERENT in my DREAMS... like I was a totally different character.

Know what... NOW it's just as weird when I look at those 350 pound pictures... I swear I hardly remember that...

Anyway... suggestions... Swimming can be great... even just walking around in the pool...

I LOVE my DVD's... I look at them like they are a game.. They are soooo hard to do in the beginning.. and I can't get all the steps.. .and I can't finish certain routines... but I do a little more each time like I'm CONQUERING it until I can do it almost in my sleep!

but same suggestions I already gave...  Commit to a certain TIME period... and then make it a little longer... if you like music, and don't already have an MP3 player.. invest in one... great music gets me motivated... Or a new "toy"... even if it's a pair of socks so that you can try them out. (I got a medicine ball the other day for ab work and pilates bands.. YAY new toys!)

I plan my workouts like I plan my food... Like today... I'm already thinking about what Im going to do tomorrow.

I do think it's important to realize that even the most finely conditioned athletes have to get themselves GEARED up to work out... You're gonna get hot, and sweaty, and have to take a shower.. and get ready again.. .and it takes up time... and... and.. and.. but you'll NEVER be sorry that you did it once it's done...  You just have to go push yourself to do it!

I'm also INCREDIBLY self conscious at the gym... I turn bright red and sweat more han any man I've ever met... but the thing is.. NOBODY cares... HONESTLY... I'm not there to pick anyone up... I go in my grubby clothes... and it doesn't matter.

Weirdkitty - ITA on the curiosity thing! A couple of days ago I was wondering if it is easier to walk when your legs don't rub together? I mean, it makes sense because of less friction and all but I would never know!

I also feel like I have to some extent been hiding behind my size. Instead of risking failure on an even platform with others, I can do something well "for my size." Or have done well in my career despite my size, or something like that. Stupid, isn't it? The world does not assign balance points for being fat! I am not sure where I got that mentality from. Coping mechanism?

But in response to your exercise question, I too hate the gym. I go when I do not have time to do something more fun, but I hate it. It is hard to go. I love walking, hiking, and kayaking, though. I think I would love cycling and swimming also but I don't have a bike, and the swimming.. I was doing it for a while, but it takes so long with the shower before, shower after, blah blah... I have not gone swimming for exercise in a long time. I started out by walking 30 minutes around my neighborhood most nights, then got bored with that and found a route from my house to a park that is about 3 miles and has some hills, but can't do that every day because of time and I do not want to be in that park after dark. I find hikes in the area and find higher-intensity hiking trails for the weekends and the occaisonal weekday, now that is FUN and it is hours of exercise without being so boring as the gym. I think it is also better exercise than the gym, because the terrain varies - hills are high intensity and get your heart rate up, and lots of low intensity in between is good for going longer and burning more fat. Steep hills both up AND downhill are great strength training (especially if you make yourself go slowly down steep hills). The problem is it takes a lot of time (but it is good time, for YOU) and requires daylight and reasonably nice weather.

denise:  I'm with you on the "for my size" thing.. I'm pretty "for my size"  my friends were always skinny/cute girls... always in the popular group... and I somehow felt that JUSTIFIED what I was doing...  I was actually TERRIFIED to lose weight in the beginning.  I was nervous about giving up my comfort zone... not to mention giving up food... I really thought I LIKED eating entire pizzas... whole bags of chocolate... super size fries.

...and you never know it until you actually do it and OWN it... but you feel SOOOOOO much better when you STOP all of that stuff...  ( I know... I know... I gained 75 back... but I felt like CRAP  AGAIN whileI was doing it... I definitely have it under conrol FOREVER this time... I"ve never felt like this before...I always used to be looking for an excuse to "cheat" or to not pay attention for ONE DAY... Yeah, sure... like a heroin addict can decide to just do heroin for ONE DAY... I think not)

Good for you for doing all that outdoor stuff... probably MUCH healthier... I could do it in the winter time.. but I HATE being HOT... so for now... my "hill" is on the display on the elliptical or exercise bike...

...and I don't necessarily LOVE exercise... just like I don't LOVE saying "No, I don't want that croissant." but I LOVE the way it makes me feel not only physically but also mentally and emotionally... strong and in control of my life...  I like the new girl in the mirror soooo much better than the old one in EVERY way!

Being in England, nice weather is hard to come by. Walking does seem like it could be quite fun though, especially if I get an ipod or mp3 so I can listen to music.

Tamara, I get that "visualise yourself thin" all the time. They say "just imagine putting on those size 8 jeans" but I can't even imagine getting them passed my knees, let alone doing them up.

I am intested in joining your group.   1. today weight is 319, I stated using this colorie counter on Aug. 3 and started at 327.  2. my highest weight was 350.  3. mini-goal weight is 290  4 mini-goal wieght is 270... 5. ultimate goal wieght is 150-160 ...6. Plan.  Healthy eating, 1000 cal a day and I am working with my Doctor with this.

jansa:  I could be wrong but people may jump all over you for the 1000 calorie a day thing... I just want to say that a VLCD (very low calorie diet) worked WONDERS for me (168 pounds in 8 months)... also doctor supervised.

I just want to caution, as I'm sure your doctor does, it is IMPERATIVE that you're getting regular EKG and blood work to make sure that everything is healthy about what you're doing.  Also, the "refeeding" process is significant... If you "cheat" on a 1000 calorie diet, weight gain is VERY rapid.

One other thing... make sure your MINDSET is right... Mine was NOT... I got to 15 pounds above goal... thought... Okay, I"m happy with myself now... and went back to doing the SAME THINGS (to some extent) that I did before the VCLD... and gained 75 pounds in three years...

The VLCD can be a "jumpstart" for the (I hate this term) morbidly obese... but it is NOT a lifestyle... so just be careful that you're learning how you're going to LIVE when the VLCD is over...

*stepping off soabox!*

michelle thanks for starting this thread... I think it's going to be incredible!

Thanks for the support.  I have been struggling with this all my life..my lowest wieght was 118,after losing 40 pounds..That was crazy, but I was a teen..up and down all my life but the one thing that stayed consistant was that no matter what I did if I ate more than a 1000 cals. a day I would gain weight.  I of coarse I would get frustrated, because at 1000cals. you get hungry. I have been with my doctor for over 6 years and she know me well.  I am not an emotional eater, I just eat regular healthy meal, but even with that if I exceed that majic 1000 I begin to stall out and eventually gain weight.. She put me on an appitite suppestent that for me is working great with no side effects, oh, except 1, dry mouth which works to my benifit, I drink the water I should..and it for some reason works as an antihismine for me, so bye, bye allergys and headeachs I have have for over 20 years. My Doctor and pharmisist can't figure that one out.. And we have and will continue doing the blood work.. It's always been great.  Thanks again and keep all tips comming.

 

*nice* of the guys... I actually mean it.. I'm sure they were just being sweet (no pun intended)... I don't know if you have any kind of "binge" problems... but if I were you I'd have to throw them away somewhere NOT in my home *lol*

But I hope you enjoyed the 12 that you had!  YummY   and if any of them were dark chocolate you got antioxidants out if it!

Oh and the most important thing!!!! HAVE A HAPPY BIRTHDAY!!!!!

denise07

Thanks for all your kind words :) It's been a journey to lose the 130 that's for sure. Ya right now calorie count suggests me eat 1200 calories, and I'm sticking with that. Sad thing is, there will be no more revising because I've hit that low. AND on top of that, weight loss is slower. Now I gotta exercise! Blah I'm so lazy.

but to answer your question, when I first started dieting I was doing it the wrong way. super low calories, i made myself sick. blacking out, dizzyness, etc. So I dont suggest doing what I was doing. You're better off sticking with a 750-1000 cal net deficit. If you have over 100 pounds to lose, having a 1000 cal deficit shouldnt hurt you in the least. Most drs recommend it. Of course asking your doctor for a plan is never a bad idea. Doctors know best.

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And thank you all for welcoming me! I love this group. Everyone in here is so beautiful. Aw i miss the 'larger' group of people. Makes me feel home. So warm and cuddly in here {{hugs}}. Once you lose a large amount of weight, its difficult to feel comfortable around the slim kids.

Right now i'm struggling with shopping in the regular sized stores. I still get pulled into torrid and lane bryant. Gah! Clothes shopping is a headache now. 

oh and I lost a pound this week! Might not seem like much, but I'm slowin down here :) 

Thanks for the caution. I have'nt had any problems yet with any kind of dizzyness or blacking out, so I will watch out for it.  One of the reasons this probably not a reason this is bothering me is that I have been tracking my calories for quit some time and on average I would eat 1200-1500 a day and would gain weight. Which makes no since I know.  I am very active with gardening, around the house and when I was going to the gym eveyday, the weight just wouldn't drop, it just crept up ever so slowly.. The minute I drop the count back down around 1000cals. I start losing weight. No thyroid proble either, according to my Doc. I just come to the conclusion a very slow motablism.  I do feel great, now I just have to be patient and let my body catch up with my mind.  I tend to overdo physcally, my mind is ready for that marahon but my body is screaming uncle. So for the past couple of weeks it been upping my walking and in the next couple of weeks it is back to the gym..

Somewhere in the post I read someone was haveing problem with what felt like instant weight gain.. don't ever dismiss the power of water!  I can gain 5lbs of water weight over night.  I have noticed one way to keep that from happening to me is oddly enough drink alot of plain old water.. think of your body as a spong, it absorbs all is can and the runs off.. well if your body has enough comming in all the time it is less likely to hord it for the down time, so away with the extra.. For many years I was an avide athete and that was the most important thing..water.  Just something to think about...I have lost more than 100lbs at time,twice then I got pregant afterwards, so 5 kids later and a tuble I don't have to worry about that anymore.

Okay ladies (and gentlemen?)... some of you may remember when I ranted on about how I weighed myself and was 292 and weighed myself again the next day and weighed 296... welp, whatever was going on with my body had passed and I'm back to 292. I'd still like to know what made my weight fluctuate so badly because 3-4lbs isn't all that normal for me, so yeah.

Anywho... I'm happy and I'm feelin' great. I know I'm doing my body good by eating right and exercising, but I just can't wait to see some real results!

I will weigh in on Sunday and post it for yall to see! =)

Love and Alohas
Ihilani

p.s. michellesmith0, I don't think you're gonna be able to keep up with everybody. Eventually, you'll probably have a couple hundred people! lol Good luck!

Hey jansa.  Having a very low metabolism is my worst fear.  I am seeing a Weight Loss Doctor right now.  It is a 6 month program and I am on month 5 right now.  They have had me on a 1200 calorie diet for this period of time.  For the most part I can keep it around that, but usually 1 day a week I will have a cheat meal.  I don't know if it is my body's way of saying ..."More food please."  The thing I worry about is once I get to my goal weight, not being able to eat ..."like a normal person."  I don't want to eat 1200 calories the rest of my life.  It is no fun.

So lately, I have been keeping my calories at around 1400 and still having my cheat meal/day.  I am still losing weight, a little slower now, but I am suprisingly ok with that.  I have lost 95 lbs so far.  That puts me at around 275-276.  I still have a long way to go.  I hope with the small increase in my average calories it will help my metabolism some. 

1. Starting Weight (on joining)  e.g. 280 Aug 2007
2. Highest EVER:   315
3. Mini-Goal Weight 1: 250
4. Mini-Goal Weight 2:  220
5. ULTIMATE Goal Weight:  150
6. Plan:  still figuring that out!

Hi kellygreen.   Congrats on the 95lbs that is great!!! . You are  doing what I plan  to do..once I have gotten to a point that I am not being hampered so much by my weight I am going to add a small amout of colies at a time and see where I platue. In the past it has been around 1350. but we will see I do have one big advantage I don't really like to eat. I can go to a restruant and not eat anything, it all taste great but I am fine just smelling it I know it is weird, my husband and kids can't figure it out. I used to have a candle and potpourri company and my nose is very sensitive so I get a kick out of tring to figure out what in stuff by the smell.  I would have to say I have 2 weakness' 1 is this french silk pie at one restruant and the other is paneras egg, spinch and cheese souffle.  I avoid the reastruant of the first one and the second one is a treat.  

Hey kelly...Hard to believe, but the 1200 RIGHT calories can be CLOSE to enough...  (I'm usually full on about 1400 a day.) If you're eating the RIGHT foods... fruits/veggies... you know the score.

You did say it's "no fun"... I don't know if this will help you or not.. but I had a REVELATION...  My revelation was that for me... food can't be about enjoyment anymore... I don't have to HATE it or anything... but take, a birthday party for example.. It's the PARTY that's fun... it's the conversations... mingling with the people... The cake doesn't have to be "the fun."  I don't have to look at that cake HOPING that there will be a second piece left for me... I got to taste it.. it was yummy... but I don't have to eat CAKE until I"m satrisfied... I can eat CELERY until I'm satisfied AND still have the cake...

But that's my revelation... and if it doesn't work for you... SOMETHING will!

arg...my b/f is crazy...he didn't do any grocery shopping...and i have no car with me...and he's at work...blah...i'm starved its already 6pm and i've only been able to find about 240 calories worth of food!  Maybe i'll go outside and dig up his potatoes he says that they are ready...hmmmm...lol...MEN!

1. Starting Weight (on joining)  e.g. 280 Aug 2007
2. Highest EVER:   315
3. Mini-Goal Weight 1: 250
4. Mini-Goal Weight 2:  220
5. ULTIMATE Goal Weight:  150
6. Plan:  still figuring that out!

 

(joined calorie count plus now so i'm going to be using this profile instead of watchmeshine now)