depressed

ok, so i've been counting my calories for a little over 3 months....and it really works!  i've lost about 24 pounds so far... i want to lose another 30 or so.  but that's not why i'm depressed.  I'm depressed because like only 2 people have noticed that i've even lost weight, and i swear people are always making comments to my face about how i look chunky or fat or whatever.  for example, this guy in one of my art classes today was like "your gut is hanging out... lose some weight... you look pregnant"  ummm...who says that?!?!?  i thought i looked really cute when i got dressed this morning, but when people say stuff like that to me it really depresses me.  i mean, i've worked sooo hard for 3 months and when i hear things like that it's a total slap in the face.  it almost feels like i've heard that more and more since i've been losing weight. 

personally, i was thinkin i looked pretty good.  i've been wearing size 10/12 pants and medium shirts instead of size 14/16 and XL shirts.  why cant people see i've lost weight?!?!?!?!?!

You know, that guy was a real a$$hole.  Don't worry about him, worry about how you feel when you look in the mirror.  Be happy about the fact that you are down 2 size and have lost 30 pounds in 3 months!  That is fantastic!  I wish I had done so well.  People like that absolutely do NOT matter- they are not the ones you are losing this weight for (I hope not anyway).  You are losing it for you and for you to feel and look better and for you to be healthy.  Do not worry about them, be happy for yourself instead- you know what you've accomplished and this is where your focus should be.

I cannot stand to hear stuff like that!  I'm so sorry.  For him, too.  What a jerk. 

Congratulations on your weight loss--30 lbs is AWESOME!  I'm sure that you are looking spectacular. 

I have no idea why people can't see when you lose weight--especially full sizes!  Amazing.  Although, if my husband is any indication, he doesn't like to comment when he thinks someone is losing weight.  He feels like he's going to offend someone.  It's so crazy!  Perhaps that's part of the issue. 

At any rate, great job.  You're about halfway there!  Yahoo!

First of all, GOOD JOB! That's wonderful that you lost 30 lbs already. :)

Secondly, ignore people like that. You're not doing it for them, you're doing it for yourself. They're opinions don't matter. Some people are just jerks, and they will never change, so be strong and forget about them. What you're doing is amazing. :)

Wow you lost 24 pounds in 3 months, that's wonderful! I  wish I had done that. Don't worry about that guy in your class, some people are just like that...stupid.  Some times people don't say anything even when they can see someone is losing weight because they don't want to offend.....I sometimes don't say anything because I don't want the person to think that I think they need to lose weight.
There is this girl I know that lost 45 pounds and I didn't notice she was losing weight until she was done and then I was like"wow,where did you go, you look wonderful."
Keep up the good work!!!!

Congradulation on your weight loss its fantastic!!!!!!!!!!!  

Forget that jerk.....you know what I've decided I am not going to talk to anyone that didn't talk to me when I was fat.  You know you look good that is all that matters. 

HUG

marilynlg

I guess that's what some guys are like.

I get the: "My new girlfriend is so tall and skinny - everything you're not" from my ex-boyfriend sometimes and it hurts rather a lot.

Y'just have to ignore it :)  

The man has issues beyond what you want to put energy in.  If he brings it up again, tell him it is easier to lose a few pounds than to fix than a fat head.  That should shut him up.

As for why people aren't noticing, you are looking for confirmation outside of yourself that you are doing okay, great, fabulous.  As long as you do that, people will let you down.  People will only see you from their own perspective, which if they have issues like the afore-mentioned "gentlemen" you don't want them to notice anyway! 

It could also be that people are threatened by your accomplishment because they wish they had the self-control/esteem to do the same, but they don't.  Therefore, it's easier for them to not even address it.

Be happy, you're doing great!!  You're almost halfway to your goal and that's huge!  Good for you!! Just turn off the people that will try to bring you down, because they're out there.

Some people just try to be hurtful.  As far as I am concerned he wasn't very original.  If your going to be an a** atleast do it well.  Everyone knows that weight is a sensitive issue for a lot of people, he doesn't even have an imagination.

Try this response to his next over used comment--"I may be fat, but your ugly and I can DIET!"  Another overused comment but anything too original he may not understand.

Just be confident in the changes you are making because obviously you are doing GREAT!  I just started last week, and I would be happy to lose half as much as you have in 3 months.

Keep up the good work!!

I agree alot of people are %$$#@holes for saying your gut is hanging out, you look pregnant etc! I'm sorry people are being so rude to you.

And you are doing so well! Try not to get depressed!

People used to ask me all of the time when I was due? Thinking I was pregnant. I was so offended! That's such a personal question.

My answer would be I'm not pregnant I'm just FAT!!!

That would shut them up!!!

You should have seen there faces!!!

the support on this website is amazing!  thanks so much guys for all the positive feedback.  i don't know why i was so upset about it, it was so dumb to begin with.  thanks guys!

Some people only see what they remember.  They may not even see you as you really are.  I really pity them.  You look in the mirror and know how very wonderful you look.

You are doing a really great job of losing weight and that's all that really matters

I've learned that people who see you frequently (like everyday or every other day) don't notice your weight loss as much as people who see you less frequently.  I think it's because they see the change gradually and get re-adjusted to you every day.  Someone who sees you once a month or every couple of weeks should notice your weightloss, regardless of whether they say anything to you about it.  It may also have to do with the clothing you wore before you started to lose weight.  If you wore baggy clothes, then the weightloss is less noticeable because they never really saw your true size.

Either way, be proud of your achievements!!  And forget about jerks like that guy.  Whenever that happens to me, I like to imagine what he'll think when you reach your goal and he's jealous of you.  :)

Be proud of yourself.  That is a great thing you've done for yourself.  You didn't do it for anyone else and you don't need them to validate it or you!

I can tell you I'm envious 'cause I'd love to be down 2 sizes!  Enjoy how good you feel and look!  Poop on those who don't notice.

I think that guy sucks. Some people only two kinds of people- superskinny supermodels and the rest of us are fat. Keep up the good work.

I agree with everyone else, this totally his problem not yours.  CONGRATULATIONS on your weight loss, you should be very very proud of yourself.

I normally am not a big fan of making fun of someone but in this case, the next time he makes a comment about your size respond with" Well fortunately I can loss weight but you can't change the way you look Sorry!"

Well maybe not, but at least you can think it and have a little chuckle to yourself.

i definitely need a way NOT to eat when I'm depressed and the gym's closed...because really, that's why I keep GAINING!!!

Oh man, that guy in art class was a jerk. When people say things to me like, are you feeling well? a reaction to me being a bit blah, or lagging instead of being perky? or being pale, etc? I get brassy and look at them and say... "Gee thanks, you look like horse crap too!"

Someone in an art class should be learning what *constructive critcism* is. As someone with an art BA, we learned over and over... do NOT open your mouth to ditch on another's art work unless you can first find some value in it and ALSO give them a compliment. That guy had not earned the right to comment negatively until he first knew how to see your beauty also. So feel free, with my blessing, to teach that little pissant. Because he doesnt get what Art means.

Art and the beautiful job of sculpting that you are doing on your body are about seeing through to the intent. It is about finding the good, the talent, the drive and the style to improve and grow. You are growing and your body and its improvements are one of your art forms. Him? He is a lousy idiot who has no clue what the consequences of his actions are. He is not bringing beauty and artistic peace to the world. He is distrubuting pain and negativeness. He is beneath you.

GLOW woman... you are the Art. ~ Lost Artist
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p.s.  Thinking about this a bit more... that guy does NOT have an artist's soul.  He does not know how to see beauty and bring it out of something or someone.  I hope it helps you to know that he is beneath you, because he can only destroy, not enhance nurture and create an artistic situation.  ::Shaking her head:: He will go on to fail and he will always wonder why.

You on the other hand are conquering your world with gusto.  Now thats creating real beauty.  Beyond how big your tush is, your heart and all it is capable of have to have grown by leaps and bounds.  Wow.  Even though you originally posted back in February and I am late with this, I just had to comment again, because you have done so well.  ::grins:: ~ Lost Artist
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Congratulations on losing so much!!! very happy for you!

And with the blokes comments, you can lose weight darling (which you are already doing) but he will always be a w*kner, born with it, will die being it, cant change your personality.

 

If he says it agaiin, just say "were you born a w*nker or did you take lessons?!"

What a jerk. Those are the kind of guys people will learn to distance themselfs from. Too bad he has to be in same art class as you! Amazing job by the way. Sorry dont really know what else to say other than that since the comments from other people on this post were really correct!

Please dont let him get you down you must look extremely diffrent now and truly a great job to loose that much already!