In DESPERATE need of help!

I don't know what to do! I just can't seem to stay focused and motivated on losing weight. 

I'm 5'4 and 135lbs. Before this year I had never broken 130! Plus I'm Asian, so the weight doesn't look all that great...

Someone please give me advice! I want to get down to 115 by October but can never seem to get started.

It's almost simply eating less calories than you burn.

I don't see why being Asian has to do with anything. (: Reading your profile, I also get ridiculed by my family, and I'm Caucasian. My mom keeps yelling when I eat, my little stick brother calls me fat, even my sweet little grandma said I was big...

In terms of motivation, I love listening to music when I do something. But I think a lot of people already do that, maybe it's because I don't have an MP3 player...ha. I mostly listen to Big Bang. <3

first, you should start keeping a list of things you eat everyday on CC and being honest about how much you are eating.  then using the tools on CC, find out hwo much you should be eating to lose weight.  i.e. begin creating a calorie deficit by a combo of eating right and working out.  so if ur supposed to take in 1700 calories, you could eat at 1400 and then work out for 30 minutes a day, burning 200 calories, appx.  this creates a deficit of 200 + 300 = 500 a day.  in a week, thats 3500 calories or one pound.

ify ou cant watch what you eat, try to incorporate more exercise, fun stuff esp if you cant seem to want to work out.  try rollerblading, bicycling, or swimming. 

if you don't want to do that then here's my secret, i go to the gym when i know something good is on tv, turn up the tv, and run to everybody loves raymond, or house, or whatever is good that's on tv that i love.  the way i see it is if im going to watch tv, i might as well workout while im watching tv. another thing i do is put up pictures of the SI swimsuit models in my room, so everytime i see them, im like ****, i should not eat this candy, or i should really go to the gym.

also, if ur desperate to lose weight, shouldnt you be able to find the motivation to lose weight?  just wondering...

good luck!

Find some physical activity that feels like fun as opposed to hard work and the pounds will simply fly off.

altaria, your family sounds odd. From your pic I think you look great. In fact, we have a very similar body shape, and I know for a fact that I`m on the lower end of the healthy BMI.

I would recommend getting together with someone (your friend or someone motivated) who is willing to help you reach your goals. The most important thing is to be accountable toward each other. For example, on the days when you feel like just being lazy, have your friend get you off the couch and get moving regardless of how you feel with the exceptions of being sick of course. Develop an exercise program over a period of time until October or whenever you want to complete your personal goals. The most important thing is to have a " I CAN DO IT" attitude. If you have a bad attitude toward your weight loss goals, you will never reach them. Be positive, have a good attitude, just tell yourself "NO I AM NOT BEING LAZY TODAY." Those are key things that will help you get through it. Go to a local gym and talk to people, you will be amazed who you can meet who is goal oriented like you are. It's also a great way to make new friends.  Most importantly HAVE FUN while doing it, who wants an exercise program that isn't fun right? Hope this helps.

I'm with ddorzok-- accountability is everything. If you can't find an in-the-flesh friend, join one of the weigh-in or other goals groups on here and see if that helps. I am back in the saddle after a couple of months of sloth and stress, as you will see if you check out my journal.

What I do, and it really helps me stay on track, is every week I outline my goals: 1. what daily calorie deficit I shoot for, and 2. when and what I will exercise (and rest! you gotta rest or you'll get injured and burnt out). Then, as I do them, I edit the post to denote whether I did it, or what I did instead.  (E.g., this week an old knee injury has flared up, so I modified my plan to keep it happy.)

I also keep a deficit log since CC doesn't store that info for us. I also record surpluses on cheat days. This really helps me keep the math in mind to make sure my weekly goals are compatible with my larger goal, in this case losing 2-5 pounds and toning up. (I have been on maintenance.) 

I realize this is way more anal-retentive than many people would want to be, but it really helps me focus on my goals every single day. Posting a deficit is very gratifying to me, so while I am in there, I also update my goals post. I also get a charge out of logging my activity.

My current inspiration is my profile photo, which is some catalog photo. I'm going to the beach in a month and don't have to look exactly like her, but I want to be closer to that than I am currently. Since I'm not going to wear a bikini under my work clothes to keep this in mind, this is the next best thing. :)

Right now I am only losing a few pounds and toning up-- this past winter I lost 11 pounds. To do this, I set goal dates for dress size attained and set rewards for myself when I hit those goals. I think they are on my journal as well. I recommend non-food rewards for meeting goals-- they really worked for me. I wanted those darn boots so bad no eclair was going to stand in my way. :)

And before you go getting scared I am completely obsessed-- I want you to know I have never missed a single cheat day and have never beaten myself up for one-- they are part of the deal. Last weekend I went crazy at a cookout and my travel dates are a month away, so this week I am going to try and keep it to a cheat meal, but I am still going to eat what I want and enjoy it.

Anyway, feel free to peruse my profile/journal and see if anything I'm doing might help you. Best of luck!

One more thing: I saw in your profile you're 15-- this means that the calorie guidelines in this site aren't going to be accurate for you because you are still growing and need more calories than we oldsters do. Do a search for "teen calorie intake" on the forums (or something similar) and you will be able to find an off-site link that will be more accurate. DO NOT USE the adult guidelines here or you can end up seriously underfeeding yourself-- and if you think that is not a worry, look over at the Weight Gain/ED forums-- it is a sad, sad, slippery slope over there.

Young Calorie Counters ought to have that link so you know you are giving yourself enough nutrition. You'll get injured and, of course, if you ended up chronically underfeeding yourself, you can end up with all sorts of problems down the road-- heart problems, osteoporosis, infertility. You're too young to worry about that last one too much right now, but did you know that many of the younger women with fertility problems have had a chronic eating disorder before, sometimes decades back? Food for thought....

I am definitely not accusing you of an eating disorder, do not get me wrong. I just see so many young girls on here undereating, and your blog posts are imbued with so much guilt about your body and your eating that I am concerned you could be headed that way.

So check on the calorie requirements for a 15 year old female. And try to remember that no matter what you weigh, you're the same person on the inside, and you have to learn to live with that person, no matter what size body she inhabits.