Dieting and Dates

I wasn't sure where to post this...I felt like the lounge would be a good option.

I'm a college student, so as many of you know, dating culture is pretty nonexistent. However, yesterday I went on what feels like a date with a guy I really like, we went to a basketball game together. Anyway, I had already eaten my 1500 calories for the day, but it wasn't really a food event. I'm at a healthy weight I'm just trying to drop a few pounds and tone up. Anyway, he went for snacks and said, "do you want anything?" and I said, "no I'm good, thank you". But he bought me popcorn anyway, JUST to be nice and up the date factor of the evening. It was really nice and I appreciate the effort, but I didn't want popcorn (especially sporting event popcorn which is filled with unessecary butter and cals like move popcorn) and I didn't need popcorn, but I didn't want to be rude or one of those, "I'm on a diet" type girls, so I ate the popcorn.

Ugh, what do you guys do on dates? Like first dates - When I had a longterm boyfriend I could handle it because he understood my desire to eat healthier and drop a few pounds. When it's a first date, I don't want to screw things up with my diet.

i think you did the right thing by just eating the popcorn, had you not it would have made an awkward situation out of the guy just trying to be sweet. chances are he may have thought you were just being like "ohh no, i don't want anything" just because he was offering to buy. know what i mean? 

maybe next time say something like "ohh no, i 'm so full from dinner, there's no way i could eat snacks, but thanks!" that way he won't mistake your lack of wanting snacks for just trying to be over polite or something.  

^^ Really good advice!

Actually, I'm not sure if I can add to that advice. That was pretty good. My fiance has started buying me hot chocolate when he sees a Starbucks or a Coffee Beanery if we're out. He does it when I'm in a store so I don't even know that he's doing it. Of course, I can't say "no thanks" by the time he's paid for it and brings it over to me like a little present.

I guess those surprises have to be worked off in the gym. Maybe you don't have to finish the whole thing though. Or, you could share it with him...Maybe add that "Oh darn, I'm just so full....can you help me with this?"

Tell him to close his eyes and open his mouth. Feed him every now and then and make a game out of it. He'll love the fact that buying you a present got him some rewards. ;)

I really like the advice of being more insistent like, "I'm so full from dinner I couldn't possibly eat anything".

I felt like I did the right thing eating the popcorn too, just because it was a totally nice gesture. I'm also not obviously overweight so he wouldn't think about hurting like, dieting efforts. Hopefully I'll see this guy again, I really liked him.

Thanks guys :)

I generally plan on days when I have a date scheduled to be either maintenance days or even over.  If I'm reasonable the rest of the time, then a treat isn't a problem.  Now I would tend to accompany the date to the concession stand so that I definitely get something I think is worth the calories, but you couldn't have known in this instance that he'd get you something anyway.

Likewise with trendstudent, I'd decide which is my favorite drink and mention it sometime while offering to get the fiance something too.  That way the calories will be the ones you want instead of just whatever looked good to him.  Hopefully he'll remember your new favorite and get that.

Just wanted to add that I have the same problem with my husband.  Although it is sweet of him to think of me, it is pretty hard for me.  He's learning though.  I think you did the right thing. 

I think because we are watching what we eat, we make a big deal out of food in general. I totally understand your feelings, but you did the right thing. Just also remember that you don't have to feel guilty if he does something nice like that for your second date, and you end up just nibbling a couple bites, putting the snack down, and laughing and talking the rest of the date.

My husband does this to me too, and sometimes I'm really excited I got a little extra treat and sometimes my stomach really can't handle it and in general I think he understands this.