Divorce Diet

anyone tried this lately?  I could use a buddy.  Preferably someone with a spouse who is ADD, OCD, bipolar or any combination of the above. 

I'm desperately trying to up my caloric intake over 1200 per day and now it's miserable to eat again.  This isn't his fault BTW, I asked him to leave.  Because of his illnesses I feel horrible.  Married for better or worse, in sickness and in health and all that. 

I was getting more and more depressed.  Having suicidal thoughts and just didn't give a dang anymore.  One of us had to go.

Don't be freaked out about the suicidal thoughts.  I just sometimes think how easy life would be if I didn't actually have to live it.  Then I realize how dumb that is.  I am an intelligent, succesful person with loads of friends and good family.  I can be happy if he isn't sucking the life out of me.

Why am I here?  I love him and he's sick and I feel guilty.  But I need to live too!

I cannot relate completely but my mom suffers from some of those things so i know what it's like to live with someone who has "issues". I hope you pull through and realize that there will always be circumstances in our lives that are less than ideal but if we choose to focus on the good things then it's easier to get through the days, and even enjoyable :) sorry about your situation and i hope you get the support you need.

Kmyla - I am going through a divorce after over 30 years of marriage so I think I know what you are feeling but my situation was different.  If you want you can email me and I will be glad to discuss in private.  Let me say one thing up front...if you dont have one then go get one if you can a marriage counselor to talk about everything.  Friends are great but there are just certain things they wont understand and may not be able to understand.  Also get a lawyer.

Dave

My ex was an alcoholic.  Expect that's as depressing as someone with serious psychological disorders.  Whatever the circumstances, if your marriage was making you ill and borderline suicidal then you're doing the right thing asking him to leave.  Yes, you feel guilty because he can't help being sick.... that's normal   'For better or worse' is a nice idea but the reality is much harder to deal with.   Sometimes you have to look out for #1, whatever the cost to someone else.  We all make mistakes.

I am Bipolar and i can only imagin how hard it is for my love ones to have to deal with some of the things i go through (exspecially my childs father) You have a right to get tired, to be fed up.. Dont feel guilty, you have to take care of you first!!!

This is off the topic, but OCD and bipolar are pretty easy to control with meds. This I know first hand. Did he try to get better?

He's on meds.  He needs more than that -- like a life coach or lots of therapy or a combination.  He thinks he's fine, often accuses me of being the problem.  For instance: I'm losing weight, exercising, and quit smoking, therefore I've snapped and can't deal with life. 

What a ride.

I have OCD, it has its ups and downs. I used to be on medication, but that only helps some of the symptoms, not the problem. Therapy is what's really needed, and a program that you can stick with to try and live day to day.

Anyway.

Don't feel too badly, it's hard to handle other people's problems. You can only go so far. If he's not actively seeking help, then he doesn't want help - and you can't help him. I know my boyfriend gets really frustrated with me sometimes if I'm worrying about germs, but I've never blamed him for my problems and I've really improved so much.