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why don't fat people tip?
I know this sounds rude, but why?
I am a server at Denny's and have been for about 8 months now, and I have seriously started to notice a direct correlation between body weight and genorosity....
I'm not saying that "all overweight people don't tip", because that is not the case. I have had thinner people not tip and I have had many chubby people be pretty 'sweet' to me... but when it comes to the obese, umm well not so much. I don't try to treat any one better then another, and I dont discriminate... but honestly I have noticed that very overweight people come off as rude, and rather selfish... even with good service and food.
is it just me? has anyone else noticed this too? (not just in the service industry but in general) I don't want to be stereotypical, but are the 'bigger' intimidated by the 'smaller' and feel the need to think we dont deserve a little credit for waiting on them hand and foot?
please someone explain this to me...
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Oh no you didn't just go there, Carmen.....
I don't know about being rude or selfish... I mean, lots of skinny people are rude and selfish too--they are just personality traits. It could be that you have happened to run into a lot of overweight people who happen to be rude. Or it could be that they are unhappy with themselves due to their weight and/or other factors, and taking it out on other people. But I also have heard that obesity correlates with poverty. I.e., more poor people tend to be overweight because they only have access to the cheapest (most fattening) foods. This could be why they don't tip much. Maybe going to Denny's is like a treat for them, and they don't have much extra money to throw around, so they skimp on the tip. I don't know, that's just one explanation. Some people, large or small, are just as*holes, unfortunately. My boyfriend is a waiter and I know how horrible some people can be.
I would have to say that the problem is that you're waitressing at Denny's
I don't know, but I can't think of a much better explanation...
Edit: Actually, I think I like ratinhat's better... she said what you said, only phrased it differently, and the poverty factor makes sense too
Are you sure you don't discriminate? You might not realise you're doing it...
And I can't say I'm "intimidated" by skinnier people. I'm surprised you actually think that. What do you have that I should be intimidated by? Ha.
Original Post by nomoreexcuses:
I would have to say that the problem is that you're waitressing at Denny's
You have won the thread.
Extremely inflammatory title.
I concur with what has been said in earlier posts and would like to add, it is also possible that at Denny's they are not having the best time. It is a hang out for young, idiotic people who have no qualms mocking people for any perceived imperfection. They have absolutely no problem making pig noises, commenting on what is being eaten, how much is being eaten, and being generally vile. I've seen it happen before. If the overweight person is having a bad time, they might well take it out on the server in the form of a smaller tip.
Original Post by nomoreexcuses:
I would have to say that the problem is that you're waitressing at Denny's
just what i was going to say!
100 points for you
Carmen, I usually sense an air of disdain toward the overweight when I read some of your posts.
Big, small, rich looking, poor looking, bright smile, dark scowl, you can't really pin-point who is going to leave you a generous tip and who will leave you a few pennies and a big mess. You can try, but you're only going to develop a distaste for certain types of people, which can lead to subconscious poor work performance.
If you keep going the way you're going, you're probably going to start offending your customers, your larger customers, with mannerisms that give them the hint you just don't like larger customers. You may not even realise you're doing it. Think they'll leave you a tip then? Nope.
Be thankful for gratuity when you get it.
lol i knew this would cause a commotion
the problem is not because I work at Dennys... a lot of the time I go home with over $120 in tips a night... some girls going home with over $200
yes, maybe I do discrminate.. but don't we all? I just don't show it when I wait on tables... A LOT of the others servers have noticed this too, not just from overweight people but from other people as well... after a while you kinda get a sense of who will and wont tip.
mykanodelight a prejudism towards the overweight is a very common symptom in those suffering from an eating disorder... but to be honest, i don't have much respect for those who dont appear to respect their body (alcoholics, smokers, obese, unkempt,) I am generally a nice person, but if it looks like you havent showered in 8 weeks, I am not going to be your best friend.
And I'm sure a lot of the problem is because you work at Denny's.
While contemplating this subject after my initial anger over the heading, perhaps you are the one with the discriminatory behavior, Carmen.
I put myself through college waiting on tables and bartending, albeit at finer establishments, but realized that it was me who determined my tip.
TIP=TO ENSURE PROMPTNESS
Could it be that you are not, consciously or sub, providing the service to the 'heavier' clientele that you do to the 'skinnier' diners at your place of employ?
In all seriousness, you do have an intense fear of becoming overweight so it would make sense for you to want to distance yourself from people who's lifestyle is not one you advocate. Not at all saying this is the case, just an observation.
cellulitedelight I guess I have never served you before lol but I am very kind to all of my customers. I always smile. I always get compliments on how nice and friendly I am and what a pretty smile I have. I have customers who come back just to sit in my section because they favor me... etc. and its not all a certain type of people, no. Its various.
yes, this does not apply to everyone.. and I have had quite a few larger people come back asking for me, since I treat them well (they have told me how they get discriminated at other places.. making me feel kind guilty)
yes I work at Dennys, yea the food is cheap, but how hard is it to leave a dollar or two on the table just as a thank you? If you can afford a 10, 20, 50, 100 dollar meal you can afford to leave a few bucks for our hard work... seriously unless you have worked in the service industry you have no idea of what we have to put up with. I tip EVERYTIME i go out for dinner now, and I tip very good because I know what the job is like.
its just common courtesy
Original Post by carmenxox:
mykanodelight a prejudism towards the overweight is a very common symptom in those suffering from an eating disorder... but to be honest, i don't have much respect for those who dont appear to respect their body (alcoholics, smokers, obese, unkempt,) I am generally a nice person, but if it looks like you havent showered in 8 weeks, I am not going to be your best friend.
I would suggest getting a job where you are no where near the general population.
Edit: especially Denny's
hahahaha Pot calling the kettle black. You want your customers to tip but they aren't if you aren't giving them enough common courtesy to warrant a tip. Most people don't NOT tip for no reason.
well since everyone seems to be taking this the wrong way and making me sound like a horrible person i might as well just agree with you.
yes i am a horrible horrible person and should be put to death.
from what i have heard numerous times i am a pretty damn good server, so don't you dare even try to put me down.
but anyways I am just going to ask that no one else respond to this because clearly everyone is in desperate need of a tampon change.
thank you
Original Post by carmenxox:
the problem is not because I work at Dennys... a lot of the time I go home with over $120 in tips a night... some girls going home with over $200
I find this to be the most telling thing of all. If you are doing such a good job, why aren't you pulling down $200 a night? I have only known one person to work in the service industry in the US (people don't tip where I'm from unless exceptional service is provided) and he worked at Applebees. He was pulling down between $200-300 a night, and that was back in 1999, because he was an exceptional server.
From what you've stated here, I think you need to look at you own behaviour and figure out what you are doing wrong to not get the gratuities you think you deserve.
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This entire thing is absolutely HILLARIOUS. I cannot even begin to describe.
If I ever see you at a Denny's, Carmen, I will NOT tip you well. And that's saying something because even while I'm poor, I do ALWAYS tip well.
HAHAHAHAHA hillarious.
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