Don't be a HATER!!!!

You know, I've been doing CC for almost 3 weeks now and it's working wonderfully!  I know what my statistics are, I've used all the tools.  I know what my calorie limit is and a plan my menus a day in advanced so that I can be sure they are balanced and nutritious.  So it REALLY makes me feel so hurt and angry when people try to judge me.  What works for me, may not work for you.  My calories limit and deficit might be different than yours.  My goals are probably different than yours!  SO DON'T HATE on what I do just because it doesn't match your plan! 

Anyone else dealing with this?!?!  It's really like the anti-support!  It gets under my skin and makes me second-guess myself.  Grrr!

Are you talking about people on this board? I think, in general, people have good intentions, although I see how you can be frustrated! However, there are SO many people (mostly young teens) who are exhibiting super-unhealthy behavior that will only damage them in the future. There's so much of 'I eat 900 calories a day, and exercise off 600...I'm 14 and 5'4 and want to be 90 pounds down from 115!' So I think when people see something they don't think is going to work, they're quick to jump on them in order to try and promote what they see as the 'right' way of doing it.

You're totally right in saying that it's aggravating, but I really think people's hearts are in the right place and wouldn't go as far as calling it anti-support. :-) I'm glad your plan is working for you!

Oh, no, I'm sorry.  I didn't mean on this sight...well- I have had experience with people who's calorie limit is less than mine and have hated on what I considered "calorie smart" foods.  But, I really meant people in my evey day life.  I have a friend today who told me that I shouldn't put cheese on my chicken wrap.  I tried to explain that I had already entered exactly what i was eating into my log and that it was perfectly fine for me to put cheese on my chicken wrap and she lectured me forever on why I should skip cheese.  I wanted to ring her neck.  "I'M DOING GOOD!  I'M DOING THIS THE RIGHT WAY AND FOLLOWING MY PLAN TO A T!"  It was so frustrating to have someone judging me for the BAZILLIONTH time because of what I eat.  I'm finally on the right path to weight loss and have lost almost 15lbs!  I've been over weight my whole life and even though I know I'm doing something about it now, it is really so disheartening to continue to have to listen to people hate on me for what I eat...

Ooooh, I see! Well, then, pfft, regard my last statement. :-D And I agree that it's COMPLETELY annoying. There's nothing wrong with cheese! You just have to plan for it, which you obviously did.

By Christmas, I had lost 15 pounds, after being overweight since puberty, and my very overweight aunt proceeded to lecture me about the 'healthy' way of eating, which is apparently grazing all day long. "They say picking on things throughout the day is better than having three big meals." Um, no, no they don't! For SOME PEOPLE, FIVE OR SIX SMALL MEALS works better than three big meals. But not picking all day long! Especially since she was saying about how she'd make up a couple of Friday's potato skins. WTF, lady?? I've lost weight, you've stayed at your normal large size, why would I take advice from YOU??

Next time you should talk about those 15 pounds you lost (congrats!!), how you're going to have to buy all new clothes, and then smack your lips and say MMMM, I'm SO glad I didn't have to give up CHEESE.

OH!  I'm SOOO glad you understand!  It really just made me want to throw my chicken wrap in the trash and then privately go stuff my face with whatever fast food was with in reach.  Sneaking food is probably what got me here in the first place because I have a whole family full of over weight people on my dad's side and my mom's side is filled with people who eat whatever they want and never gain a single gram of weight.  People give me advice ALL the TIME about what I should and shouldn't eat and it makes me feel so AWFUL about myself.  (I don't have low self esteem, thank GOD- despite my weight, I'm a VERY capable person!)  But, people can be so RUDE!   

Ugh, I hear you on that. While I was growing up, I was always restricted as to what I could eat (no treats for me!) while my rail-thin younger brother was allowed free range of the kitchen. While I understand my parents were concerned, it really made me bitter and I would sneak food, too. I also remember yelling at my mom several times to LEAVE ME ALONE about my size/weight.

I'm glad you were able to resist fast food temptation! Next time, when someone gives you advice, I'd just shoot off, "Well, I've lost fifteen pounds, so I think what I'm doing is working fine, thanks." It's none of their business and obviously whatever you're doing is working, and you didn't ASK for their advice, anyway.

Coley moley  I am soooo sorry to hear that you are having neg feedback. and your completely right ...what works for me might  not work for you at all. you are lucky you found something that works for you! And any one that says different is a HATER and is lying to themselves in why weight loss isnt working for them.

 

keep it up and happy losing!!!!

coley_moley - next time somebody does that, subject them to a half hour dissertation on why fat is an important part of the diet and how much % of fat you've been averaging per day, vs. how much protein, fiber and carbs you've been having and yada yada yada.

Pretty sure they wouldn't do it again after that.  :)

That's right! Do what's right for YOU as long as it leads to a healthier/stronger you!

I have a friend who lost a ton of weight last year and is now a bean pole.

He's always lecturing me about running for 2 hours everyday, this is what he ate and did and got skinny. Just last month I helped my friend move to a new apartment. We're both the same height and we started with his couch. Mind you, he was on the first floor so we didn't have to take stairs. We both carried one end. We had to stop three times for him to take a break or "get a better grip". By the time we got to the truck he was sweating like crazy and practically dropping his end of the couch. I wasn't even winded, but apparently I'm the fat unhealthy one to him.

I'm sorry, I'd rather be healthy and strong and with a good diet and exercise the extra weight will come off.

I feel that people should keep their mouths shut.  Everyone thinks they know what's best for everybody else, but what's best for one person may not be best for another.  It's nobody's business but your own what you eat.  Me, I personally don't eat cheese, but last night my friend was eating some Annie's organic pizza and offered me some and I politely declined.  I just said I don't eat cheese, and left it at that.  I didn't go into a huge rant about how bad cheese is for you or how she shouldn't be eating it (like your friend did to you) and yadda yadda because some of the things I eat she may feel is not good for her.  I'm sorry that people don't help.  I think that some people are just jealous and they can't keep their mouths shut.  I hope you find some people who support you.  I know I do.  Go ahead, throw that cheese on your wrap and shove it in your mouth right in front of you friend and then flaunt your too big for you clothing when you lose another 5 or 10 pounds (by eating cheese!!).  Maybe next time she'll think to keep her mouth shut!  Good luck!!

You stick with what is working for you ... and I know it is hard to "just ignore" what other people say ... so just smile and nod, and then do what you need to do anyway.  You're not obligated to bend to every suggestion you hear, no matter how well-intentioned.

I have to say, your post made me laugh ... reminded me of a friend of mine who had a lunchroom episode at work a while back.  My friend reaches her limit sometimes.  She brought salmon and a salad and was warming up the fish, when a co-worker (unprompted) said 'Oh, what are you cooking?" my friend, "My lunch, it's salmon." coworker, "Ugh, I HATE salmon."  My friend, "Well, then it's a good thing I didn't have you in mind when I packed it this morning."

Next time your friend gives you grief, just tell her, "If you're so anti-cheese, then YOU don't eat it.  But I've planned for this and I'm having it."

Let me tell you something else that shuts people up.  Walk away from them.  Just walk away.

I have this totally weird comparison i always think of when people aren't supportive, but its true! People love horror movies and drama's right.. cause everyone loves to see someone else in tragedy..people love fights and laughing at others, sure there are movies that wind up as a success in the end, but a whole lot of failure and conflict before hand.. noone turns off the sad part. which is kinda sad, most people only want good things for themsleves.. ok im done i just did 4.5 miles on my tredmill and need a shower! screw people, they suck

I have a friend at work that sort of does the same thing.  I told her a couple months ago that I was thinking of trying relacore and she pitched a fit talking about how worthless it is.  So guess what? I listened to her and didn't experiment with it (which is probably a good thing).  Then I get the asian salad from McDonald's.  She looks at the oranges and the ginger dressing and makes a gross face and gagging sound like she's going to puke cause the very thought of anyone eating oranges in a salad is disgusting.  Then she does the same at Sub Way because she doesn't like one of the employees there.  Then her hubby accidentally let it slip that she's guzzling liquid trimspa and other diet pills and running around like a crack head (she has lost 19 pounds in 4 weeks) and this was AFTER she chastized me for considering slim fast.  I've finally decided that I really don't care what she thinks. You just can't let it get to you.  It may take me a lot longer than her to lose weight (cause she is starting to really look good) but I think I will look better in five years than she will if I just keep on slow and steady (as long as I don't keep going backwards like I have been LOL)

Good luck!!

Well it's known that people are born evil-So get read for "negative" comments or arguements, Yeap I know it's annoying and I know how you feel.  Others would say "Just be Optimistic" but I say "How can I be Optimistic when there are no optimistic aspects?"

I have felt a similar way. I still eat most of my favorite foods, but in much smaller portions and much less often. My plate is not often filled with typical "diet" foods like salads or raw veggies. My "diet" staples include lots of yogurt and granola. And I work out enough that I am unfazed about scarfing the occasional pizza with my roommate. So people whose idea of restricting calories consists of grazing on the most unappealing foods imaginable until they want to pass out have a hard time believing that not only am I consciously eating healthily, but I am also losing weight.

As a guy, there is probably less social concern about what I eat, but I have still gotten funny looks from my peers at the dinner table.

OMG!  You guys are the BEST!  Thank you sooo much for showin' love!  I COULD NOT DO IT WITH OUT YOU!

Hey Im Juss new  but I see what you mean!!

I know how you feel!  I try not to give out too many details at work because there are a lot of other people there trying to lose weight and they all have different methods.  Yesterday I was talking about pasta with one of them.  She is very anti-pasta.  I love pasta, and I don't think it's as bad as she does, as long as you don't overdo it.  But I didn't go into details or fight with her about it; there's no real reason to.  What works for her works for her, and what works for me works for me.

Hang in there girl!  You just have to do what works for you and the proof will be in the smaller rear end!  When I started here end of September, I was saving calories for some small bits of chocolate, cheese etc and my husband was like "you can't eat cheese if you're trying to lose weight, you'll never lose weight if you eat those sweets".  I had to totally ignore him and go about my routine and now I'm down 21 lbs, 20 more to go and he doesn't say that kind of stuff anymore.  He said I was looking great the other day.  There are as many menus as there are people on this site and you have to find what works for you.  There's a hundred posts on oatmeal and I can't stand the stuff. I do better on higher protien and less starch, even the good kinds. Take what you can use from here, disregard the things you're not interested in and "NEVER LET THE TURKEYS GET YOU DOWN"!!!