I don't know why, but this makes me mad...

So. First off. I'm 15. I have lost some weight and I am happy but you want to know what makes me kind of mad? People who eat whatever they want, whenever they want, and never gain weight or anything...

Like my brother. He's 20 now and still eats, drinks, snacks, on whatever he wants. He even challenges himself to eat as much as he can. Like him and his friend get a crave case from white castle like every other week. (the crave case has 30 slidders in it and he eats 15 of them.)

I wasn't so good myself either but I got punished.. my siblings, didn't. I guess it makes me jealous. Because now I stopped drinking soda, no fast food, or anything else like that. Maybe every once in a while but they eat that stuff everyday. And they think I'm some sort of freak or something...

It's not fair. How come some people have no trouble with getting fat and some people do? I had to struggle with it my whole life up to now. I found a way to get rid of it. FINALLYYYYYYY...

I'm so happy with my accomplishments, but then there are those times when they go out to eat and get a big mac and fries and the largest coke possible. Then go the movies and eat a gallon of overly buttered popcorn and some more soda... I can't be mad at them, that would be stupid. I'm just jealous I guess.

I just feel like it's not fair.

If you don't mind me asking...

How much weight have you lost, and are still planing on losing more?

look at it this way, you have accomplished something big. you have the discipline to do something about how you look and how you feel. you will have an easier time staying at a weight you're comfortable with, because you have already created better eating habits. you brother's metabolism will slow down one day, and if he keeps eating like he does one day, he'll be asking you for tips on how to lose it.

I have lost about 25 pounds, and no I am not planning on losing anymore really... Why do you ask?

Well salo, this may sound bad of me but, I hope your right about my brother. I hope he will have trouble with it. I know that sounds really devious but it's the way I feel.lol

Here a couple things to consider. Just because they can eat anything and remain slim does not make them healthy. Plus weight has a way of finding you later in life I know some guys that could eat anything when we were kids but now they gain weight like anyone else. Try to be healthy for your own benefit don't worry what other people are doing. By the way good job at working toward a healthy life at such a young age it will pay off for you in the future

Don't get me started in this one -_- In our family the guys have this slim structure n the girls.. well, I'm lucky I got the height too at least. My brother eats whatever he wants n he also rarely hungry anyway. When he was in the army he lost 10 lbs just from depression, I on the other hand gained those 10. My father had to be begged to eat till he was 30 or so!

BUT, the men in my family also tend to get serious diseases from eating rubbish - cholesterol, high blood pressure n such since nobody thinks they should get tested for this cuz they aren't fat.. So actually, while we have to struggle with our weight we gain health n understanding, while people who don't go through all this don't.

I agree with the other posters. One, their bad habits may catch up to them. Hardly anyone can keep that up for life and not look like they can put away 15 burgers! Two, eating junk and staying lean doesn't make them healthy - you have something they don't. And you also have discipline and knowledge, which go a long way.

Finally, if you feel really jealous - why not eat a little popcorn or candy or whatever you're craving? A little bit of what you want is the best way to stop cravings. You might also like to think about how your body would feel if you ate the crap they did - probably bloated, tired, over-stuffed and uncomfortable - not exactly anything to be jealous of!

Original Post by merylwhite1:

I agree with the other posters. One, their bad habits may catch up to them. Hardly anyone can keep that up for life and not look like they can put away 15 burgers! Two, eating junk and staying lean doesn't make them healthy - you have something they don't. And you also have discipline and knowledge, which go a long way.

Finally, if you feel really jealous - why not eat a little popcorn or candy or whatever you're craving? A little bit of what you want is the best way to stop cravings. You might also like to think about how your body would feel if you ate the crap they did - probably bloated, tired, over-stuffed and uncomfortable - not exactly anything to be jealous of!

 You answer like every one of my threads merlywhite. lol

Anyway, I don't even really like to have a little bit of stuff because I can't stop. So I just tend to just stay away from it completely and just say I don't need it. Sometimes if people are eating stuff like that I'll just eat something healthy. Like at home if everyone is eating pizza, or fast food, or anything like and I already ate, I'll eat a bowl of oatmeal or something. Then I'm not tempted anymore.

I just hope all this will pay off in the end.... How will it? I'll just be healthy and they won't?

You know what I noticed? All the foods like pizza, fast food, food that we eat when we eat out, and sweets tast AMAZING. Like before I started not having them they tasted good and I just ate them so much they didn't tast all that great. but now they seem AMAZING. Like I savor every bite. Kinda weird...

I feel the same way, and it's even worse when they don't notice it, or think it's normal. I think people who have been thin their whole life tend to assume that everyone's body works the same weigh, and someone who weighs twice as much as they do must eat twice as much. While the overweight person is almost certainly consuming too many calories... there are a lot of thin people who are also eating too many.

My family has always had problems with weight, though. Most of us have come to realize it in our own ways, and take action by maybe exercising a little more, eating out a little less, or going all-out like my bike-riding birdseed-eating older brother. He looks fantastic now, by the way.

And remember that although people can be thin, it doesn't mean they're healthy. It's not as if cheerleaders are above deficiencies, disorders, and sickness. And when they're 21, they'll probably have to start working as hard as we do.

Original Post by bennyboy5:

Original Post by merylwhite1:

I agree with the other posters. One, their bad habits may catch up to them. Hardly anyone can keep that up for life and not look like they can put away 15 burgers! Two, eating junk and staying lean doesn't make them healthy - you have something they don't. And you also have discipline and knowledge, which go a long way.

Finally, if you feel really jealous - why not eat a little popcorn or candy or whatever you're craving? A little bit of what you want is the best way to stop cravings. You might also like to think about how your body would feel if you ate the crap they did - probably bloated, tired, over-stuffed and uncomfortable - not exactly anything to be jealous of!

 You answer like every one of my threads merlywhite. lol

Anyway, I don't even really like to have a little bit of stuff because I can't stop. So I just tend to just stay away from it completely and just say I don't need it. Sometimes if people are eating stuff like that I'll just eat something healthy. Like at home if everyone is eating pizza, or fast food, or anything like and I already ate, I'll eat a bowl of oatmeal or something. Then I'm not tempted anymore.

I just hope all this will pay off in the end.... How will it? I'll just be healthy and they won't?

It's merylwhite  And yes I have lately. But I am not stalking you! Haha. Just on CC far more than I should be.

Well, for now you'll be healthy and they won't. In the future you'll be way more likely to maintain a healthy weight, while they'll likely become overweight (unless they change their lifestyle). You're also reducing the chance you will suffer from cardiovascular disease, heart disease, heart attacks, stroke, gallbladder disease, asthma, high cholesterol, hypertension, joint problems (and the need for hip replacements), fatty liver disease and liver failure, insulin resistance and diabetes; problems that become more likely when you are overweight. Of course I am not saying all overweight people have anywhere near all of these problems, but by staying a healthy weight and eating/exercising well you will reduce your risk.

You'll also be more likely to have a better memory, live longer, have fewer illnesses and injuries (and health costs). You'll be able to exercise with less dificulty and if you do, you'll be more likely to have a stronger body and bones. While this might not seem that exciting to you now, later in life you'll be reaping the dividends.

I don't know about the scientific data for this one, but I imagine that, all things being equal, people of a healthy weight have fewer issues with self esteem. They are also offered more jobs - unfair maybe, but it's the truth.

Maybe this is looking at health from the wrong angle. The best thing is to enjoy the way you live now; enjoying living a healthy lifestyle, keeping fit and fuelling your body with the right stuff. You shouldn't live just for the future. If you don't truly enjoy the way you live now you need to go back and figure out what you would be happy with.

Likelihood is that once your brother hits the magical 25 mark things might start changing.  My brother is 6ft 2 and has always eaten like a complete glut with no weight gain, he used to have 2 McD's combos just standard when having a snack.

Anyhow, when he reached about 30 he started gaining weight and in his early 30's he suddenly had a huge pot tummy.

Different people have different metabolisms but once you hit 25 your body naturally starts slowing and often in your 30's what you could once eat with no consequences starts showing.

At least you have the right eating habits in place whereas he will probably have to relearn what is a regular sized portion

First of all....Congratulations on such a sucessfull achievement. You inspire many when you tell people that it can be done!

I'm willing to put money on the fact that his eating habbits will ruin his lifestyle in the long run. I used be one of those annoying people. I was the fat kid in school for years, when I hit my mid teens I became very active (took up dance and basketball), I could just eat whatever I wanted and it didn't show. When I went to college I ate the cheap foods, lots of pasta and carbs (my biggest weakness, I am a total Carboholic).  I was working all the time to pay my way though college and didn't have time for much activity and gradually over time I gained 5 stone. I was mortified. It wasn't until I started exercising again that I was able to shift the weight because I have no dicipline when it comes to food, I consider it one of life's greatest pleasures. I love travelling to new countries and tasting the foods all the various cultures have to offer and I LOVE to cook.....

After being heavy, loosing it all and then putting it all back on and having to loose it all AGAIN! I now know that it is all about a healthy lifestyle. I allow myself those odd naughty nights. Once a month max.  I believe that dieting to look good is one motivation, but I also believe that I diet for a healthy lifestyle and a longer lifespan. I also know that if I go to the gym three times a week then it won't be the end of the world if I take a weekend off and just go nuts with the girls, allow myself some fast food and a few drinks. 

Don't make life about depriving yourself of all the good things out there. Find the balance. It's true that the food that tends to taste better has higher calories but at the end of the day, it is a luxury that we in the developed world have that we should enjoy but not be glutenous about. If you get to listen to your favourite album once a month you'll enjoy it, if you listened to it every day you wouldn't find it such a treat, at least I feel the same way about icecream!

I struggle with food, I try to stay diciplined and focused but if I get it right 85% of the time that's an A in school and it's good enough for me too and I don't worry about the 15% that I enjoyed! Like school, working to stay up at 85% is hard work.

Your revenge will be sweet.  I was one of those people who could (and did) eat whatever I wanted, whenever I wanted. I intentionally tormented my not so fortunate siblings.  By the time we hit our mid-thirties the tables had turned.  They had learned to monitor what they ate, I hadn't and found myself 40 lbs overweight. They remained constant and reminded me constantly that I used to be skinny.  It has taken me over five years to lose all the weight, about four and a half were spent trying to accept the fact that a bottomless bag of cheetos wasn't going to lead to a svelt body.   I know it's not always fun right now, but you're going to win this one in the end. Keep watching your brother.   Eventually he'll look like he's about to give birth to 15 sliders.

Wow, you sound just like my 12 year old! He's on the heavy side and I've been working with him for a while now, teaching him about calories and choices, etc. But his brother, who is 19, is a bean pole and never watches what he eats.

I just tell my youngest that those calories will catch up with his brother one day and he will pay. It might take years but it will likely happen. And because my youngest is learning early how to eat right and be healthy, he will be one up on his brother.

You should definitely be proud of yourself, I am proud of you for being so young and making such great choices for yourself!

Well, I will say this for whatever it is worth. Both of my brothers took a long while to grow into their generous childhood proportions. Although I was pretty good about eating healthy and exercising as a kid and in my teens, I also loved junk food. I never had a problem with it. I worked as a teen, I studied a lot, I rode my bike a lot, and I danced all the time. To be honest, and I know some of you will not like to hear this, but I couldn't figure out how my brothers and some of my other family members could get so large. (I also come from a very mixed familiy, so it's not all genetics). As soon as I would start to gain even five pounds, I would cut out sweets here and there, add a walk or a sport to my regimen (or another job) and I would drop the weight immediately. I became one of those people who thinks people who are overweight are just lazy.

As I neared my late 20s, early 30s, I couldn't keep weight on. Whatever I did, I was dropping pounds. Granted, I was working two jobs--teaching and waiting tables-- and working out-- - And then 32 hit, and along came 20 pounds, practically on my very birthday. I remember the jeans being a little tighter that day, and heck if I cannot lose those pounds!! Even when I stick to my 1200 calorie plan for a few weeks. I GAIN weight. Serves me right. Meanwhile, my youngest brother, who really was a very large kid, is downright anorexic! He jogs and waits tables and eats pancakes, and he's skinny as a rail. I don't suppose I'm providing much comfort here, BennyBoy, but things can change, and they can change quickly.

(Of course, as a side note, CCers, I think I've discovered through my experience and watching my brother that waiting tables is the single best weightloss exercise in the world! Not sure if it's on the activity log, but if you want to get paid to lose weight, THAT'S how to do it.)

Original Post by peanut73:

(Of course, as a side note, CCers, I think I've discovered through my experience and watching my brother that waiting tables is the single best weightloss exercise in the world! Not sure if it's on the activity log, but if you want to get paid to lose weight, THAT'S how to do it.)

As an ex-waitress, I totally agree!