I dont know. Maybe somethings wrong with me

But when I log my calories for the day (Ive been counting and writing down my calories since I was 15) I always go overboard. Like lets say I had a cup of rice and a cup of black beans or w/e....Id log that as a 1 1/2 c of black beans and 1 1/4 c. rice or something. It feels better, like just incase there is something a little extra that I may miss.....but not even that. Even if I make it myself and know exactly how many calories is in it, I still count over. Feels better at the end of the day for some reason.

I just cant account for the EXACT amount of calories I consume. It would feel like Im cheating myself and under estimating.

Anyone else?

If you're always badly overestimating what you eat then you're in danger of undereating... stands to reason.  If you have a history of eating problems and depression then chronic undereating won't be doing you any favours....  depressed (anti-social, easily offended) people even when they're slimmer aren't all that attractive and the girl you've been trying to impress could quite easily end up just thinking you're a little peculiar.   Suggest you start being more honest with yourself.  Eat 100 cals, log 100 cals and not 150 cals .... not difficult really is it?

^That was almost...eh... unmotivating, lol.

Let's not assume that we know this chick. I am sometimes guilty of the same problems. I'll eat a cereal bar and add 20 extra calories because some companies are known to shave off actual calories from there product labels. I know it's a bad habit. Maybe I could be some anti-social, depressed girl or maybe I'm the out going, perky girl... Any type of person could over estimate their calorie count regardless of the way they carry themselves socially. It takes time to let go of nasty habits and the first step is acknowledging it.

Read the profile....

I do the same. I make sure to add in extra cals.. just incase. You can't always trst labels! Like for example, take a prepackaged cookie. You take it outa the box, the label says 1 cookie (28g) = 100 calories. Okay, so you weigh it and it comes out to 35 grams instead. Well that's just extra calories you didn't account for, and too many of those "hidden" calories can add up.

So I always weigh my food before I eat it, and then round it up to the nearest 5. And sometimes when I'm baking, and I decide not to use a certain ingredient, (like say I wanted to mix chocolate chips with peanut butter, and then decide to leave out the PB), I don't bother changing my nutritional value on the total... just incase somewhere along the way my measuring was off. lol

Original Post by gi-jane:

Read the profile....

 We all have our problems, it does seem ED-ish when linked to the blurb but still... 

The part that I gasped at was "depressed (anti-social, easily offended) people even when they're slimmer aren't all that attractive". Something similiar was said to an ex-friend of mine via Myspace and it triggered her to start cutting agian.

*Shrugs*

All I can say is, santana90, If you need someone to talk to you can message me. I've dealt with a lot of demons over the past few years and I know that talking about it with an anonymous person made me feel better since at least someone out there was listening.

Santana,

I was much like you when I was younger. I was or seemed anti social and was thin skinned. Trust me as you get older it gets better and you start not to care what people think so much and begin desiring to be around people more. We don't just grow up that way. Something has triggered us to act or feel like this so don't beat yourself up about that. You should be very proud of yourself for even recognizing this trait in yourself so you can work on it. I didn't like being around people either. I still am a bit of a loner and have trouble forming close relationships (I'm 45) but it's not like it use to be. Much of it comes from a need to protect yourself because you have been so hurt by people in your past.

Also, while these traits may not scream great self esteem or be around me because i'm a happy care free person they also do not mean someone will not like you, want to be your friend or girlfriend. There are many people in this world with 'sensitive' personality types that others are extremely attracted to. There is a book called 'Sensitive People' or Sensitives (not sure if that's the exact name) but it really addresses how we feel and look at others around us and relate to people. It shows us how to look at our seemingly negative traits as actually gifts. :)

About the counting...........I can understand why you do it. But honestly as the other poster said it would be much better if you are that concerned to weigh your food so you can put exactly what you are eating on your log. Having a more accurate view of your log will help you in the long run. Just think how all those little under calorie log ins add up daily. Over a period of time you could be grossly underestimating what you are eating and actually causing your body NOT to lose as it's fighting to get in more calories because you have depleted it. Treat your body like you would your best friend.

Impress yourself by being accurate. Don't cheat yourself. Would you do that to someone you care about? Be kind to you.

Hugs! You can do this and will be okay, heck your body might even suprise you and thank you later.

I'm not going to read your profile,  I trust GI Jane and I know that she is a compassionate person that is no stranger to tough love.  so please forgive me if I miss the mark.

The only thing I can tell you  is be exact.  This works.  If you are not true in what you log - you won't be able to accurately fix what is broke.

Remember that you matter and you have talents and gifts that make you unique and special.  Worry a little more about being true to you and not so much what anyone else may say or think or feel.  You can not not control other people and you should never empower them over you.  You can't make everyone happy or love you.  But f you respect yourself and love yourself - the rest just comes right along.  I'm not talking stuck up - just confidence in knowing that you have a great deal to offer and it is not measured by the approval of others. I understand loner - I always preferred the company of horses to people.  But now I actually enjoy people. 

GI Jane- I understand where you are coming from and believe me I agree but its easier said than done. I could easily just log the 100 cals that I eat instead of 150, but then Id feel guilty and afraid that I ate more than that. So actually, it is a bit difficult.

Moon_doggie- Thank you, and Im sure talking about it anonymously would probably help but Im fine. I dont feel too comfortable disucssing myself. Its feels like a bit of an invasion.

kindal- So far, the older I get, the more thin-skinned and anti social I become. But I pretend Im not and blow it off... and I know the reason Im not liked my anyone is because of my personal problems but I dont really know how to fix that. Honestly, I feel that my outward appearance can somehow overshadow my personality (yea its a bit shallow...but my personality isnt all that great...so I work on the part I can actually fix).

Now the counting. Sure I would weigh my food and account for the ACTUAL calories and probably feel less guilty about logging the correct amount, but I dont own a scale or anything close. I dont even know how to read kg's lol. I know calories and thats about it. So I just feel safer counting a few extra calories. And I know it may result in me undereating but let me give you an example of one of my days.

I aim for 1500 cals (I dont exercise at ALL). Tuesday CC told me I ate about 2200 cals. (And thats with my over estimating) So in actuality, I probably ate maybe 1800-2000 cals that day and I feel better about it. I guess its just psychological. 

tuff_n_stuff- I always laugh when people mention the whole "If you love yourself, others will love you/respect you". I dont buy it. Maybe its because I dont relate to it. I guess I dont love myself too much...but I dont see that making a difference any. I can fake confidence and respect for myself (and I have before) and it doesnt change peoples opinion about me. I guess its just not for me. But I appreciate the attempt to help. Thank you.