I dont like kissing my bf

I dont know why. With my ex we used to kiss like mad, everytime i was over we would kiss kiss kiss. But with my current bf, there's something i just dont like. No he doesn't have bad breath, and he has nice full lips but im just not into it with him. I tap kiss him but i dont like to tongue kiss him, idk whats wrong with me. I have no desire to do it. Meanwhile i will day dream about going into a kissing frenzy with other guys, but not my bf. There's something wrong with me :(

Nope nothing wrong with you. I actually had the same problem with my ex. Kissing him was ok.. but it's not something I looked forward to doing.

I can only think of two reasons for this.

1. You don't like the way he french kisses you.
Solution: get into an open conversation with him and ask him how he likes to be kisses. Then reciprocate by telling him how YOU would like to be kissed. What kinds of things you like that your ex did, etc. (But don't say you got it from your ex lol). Overtime you will start to enjoy his kissing.

2. You're just not into him. Simple as that.
Solution: Sure he might be a great guy... but the sexual connection just isn't there. It's better you break it off and tell him you're not sexually attracted to him rather than lead him on and break his heart.

If you don't like kissing him then this isn't the guy for you.  Sounds like the chemistry is missing.

uuuhhhhhh....ok nevermind

I have to agree with all three. Dump the Bro. You aren't that into him. Go find someone who sets you afire.

You don't want to kiss your bf but you're daydreaming about kissing other people instead? Why are you still with the guy? Let him down gently now before you get in any deeper. If there isn't any chemistry between you, it's not going to magically appear.

I agree with previous posters, and it sounds like you need to evaluate why you're with him in the first place.

Besides, it's unlikely your reluctance to offer anything more than a peck has escaped his notice.  If you have any regard for him at all, it's best to have an honest conversation sooner rather than later.

If you can't find a solution to the problem, then quit. That is my philosophy.

Nah, not really.

We do have chemisrty. We are great in the other departments, just not kissing. I like him a lot. Thats my problem

Original Post by fairydust125:

We do have chemisrty. We are great in the other departments, just not kissing. I like him a lot. Thats my problem

Well, if you're fantasizing about it with people other than him, you obviously like to kiss, and there's obviously something lacking in what he, or both of you, are doing.

Have you mentioned anything about this to him?

Fairy, I have a question for you...

Can you imagine yourself having sex with your partner? Actual physical intimacy?

I won't say it's core in every relationship, but as a guy, I'm going to be honest that if you think you can be in a relatiosnhip with a guy, but he's never going to get any, he's going to eventually get really frustrated with you.

I agree with Mike. Physical Touch *IS* as essential in a relationship as a host of other things, and if you can't do that with him, than it's time to wake out of the state of denial you're in and move on.

Original Post by santonacci:

Original Post by fairydust125:

We do have chemisrty. We are great in the other departments, just not kissing. I like him a lot. Thats my problem

Well, if you're fantasizing about it with people other than him, you obviously like to kiss, and there's obviously something lacking in what he, or both of you, are doing.

Have you mentioned anything about this to him?

yea thats the thing, i love to kiss! It makes everything so much better. He notices...like he'll try to kiss me and i just will pull away. The first time we got together we were making out but i was pissed drunk so its not like i remember much...but we were friends before that. We'll peck alot and kiss with out tongue

Original Post by hkellick:

Fairy, I have a question for you...

Can you imagine yourself having sex with your partner? Actual physical intimacy?

I won't say it's core in every relationship, but as a guy, I'm going to be honest that if you think you can be in a relatiosnhip with a guy, but he's never going to get any, he's going to eventually get really frustrated with you.

I agree with Mike. Physical Touch *IS* as essential in a relationship as a host of other things, and if you can't do that with him, than it's time to wake out of the state of denial you're in and move on.

We do have sex. The sex is great... thats why i said in my last post we are not lacking in other departments(sex). We just dont french ki

Original Post by fairydust125:

Original Post by hkellick:

Fairy, I have a question for you...

Can you imagine yourself having sex with your partner? Actual physical intimacy?

I won't say it's core in every relationship, but as a guy, I'm going to be honest that if you think you can be in a relatiosnhip with a guy, but he's never going to get any, he's going to eventually get really frustrated with you.

I agree with Mike. Physical Touch *IS* as essential in a relationship as a host of other things, and if you can't do that with him, than it's time to wake out of the state of denial you're in and move on.

We do have sex. The sex is great... thats why i said in my last post we are not lacking in other departments(sex). We just dont french kiss

Original Post by miked504:

kissing is essential in a relationship it leads up to everything else and makes everything else that much more special

I agree somewhat with this. Kissing it great!! And makes the chemistry even stronger but i dont think a great kisser will necessarily be great in bed. As i mentioned i used to kiss a lot with my ex but he was lacking in bed, it wasnt all that great. With my now bf we barely kiss but everything else is great, thats why this is so confusing! lol