why don't people pay attention?

i had a great date on wednesday night with a guy i met on the internet.  yep.  he's kind-of blue collar, but very intelligent and straight-up.  athletic, but not in the traditional jock sense.  ruggedly handsome, tall (6'4"), slim - totally my type physically.  we had great conversation, lots of laughs.  he displayed none of that ego BS that sets me off.  yay!

so here's my gripe: i told him that i'm not a telephone person and prefer to keep in touch by email and text and to converse face to face.  i told him that i get up at 5am, so i usually go to bed by 9 (he caught me looking at my watch at the pub at 9:25).  i told him that my life is full and i'm not looking for someone to fill some gap in my life.  he seemed to understand, even repeated all this back to me at some point.

what does he do?  calls after 9pm last night (less than 24 hours after we said "goodnight," okay?) to ask how i'm doing.  (i didn't answer; i was in bed.)

Really?  This is all you have to whine about?  You had a great date with a great guy and he actually CALLS you within 24 freaking hours and you're WHINING because he forgot how early you go to bed?

I scoff in your general direction.

Maybe he just likes you. Take it easy and be grateful, as our kind friend pavlovcat noted, that he called at all.  I find it easier to be in relationships if we as women, can be easygoing....

Maybe he just likes you. Take it easy and be grateful, as our kind friend pavlovcat noted, that he called at all.  I find it easier to be in relationships if we as women, can be easygoing....

Maybe he heard you that you go to bed at 9, but hoped that you'd still be getting ready for be at 9, and wouldn't already be in bed.

Or maybe his cell phone free minutes don't start til 9 - he was just being thrifty.

And he likes you!!!!!

Call him back when you wake up, and see how much he REALLY likes you.

hee hee.

Sorry Pg, but I gotta go with Pav on this one. :D

You're right, people don't listen.  My friends used to always call me and wake me up even though they KNEW I worked overnights.  Finally they just stopped calling me and use email now, thank god. 

Maybe he was too distracted by his warm mushy feelings for you and didn't remember what you said   I space out when people are talking ALL THE TIME but it's not because I don't care ... I'm just ... a space case!   Then I realize, whoah, I just zoned out for 5 minutes and have no idea what this person said to me but am too embarassed to say "hey, I didn't hear any of that..."  I do that in movies too.

Original Post by puh8suwrux:

Call him back when you wake up, and see how much he REALLY likes you.

 haha, THIS.

Diva is right, if the relationship goes in the right direction it will take time maybe he had a full plate and it slipped his mind about your bed time.

"I see a complement coming!!"

Pavlovcat is correct also he called you back within 24 hours and did not blow you off. Text him back quick!! 

I also turn off my phone when I go to bed.

Ooo look.  Two people said I was right in the same thread.

Do I get a reward, huh, do I?

There is "going to bed" and "really going to bed". Some people sit up and read for a while, or watch tv, or do the nightly rituals of shower / brushing teeth / petting the cat.

If you are up...you like the guy... you hear the phone ring...you know its him....why not answer? o.O Yea, "technically" you had already went to bed, but you understand you can get "un-to-bed" pretty easy right?

I know I don't answer the phone when I'm doing the naughty ritual of petting the puss cat!

Pav,

Only if you behave yourself we will allow you to stay!

Haha

Nieto

Original Post by bagga:

I know I don't answer the phone when I'm doing the naughty ritual of petting the puss cat!

 bagga,

Sorry but I did not like this Post, Stay with the original thread please??

Pg is cool. She doesn't usually mind such a minor hijack.

Unless you were joking, in which case you might want to choose a different emoticon?

well..if this is his worst offense so far, i hope you give the guy a chance! i have a feeling you not answering will remind him that you weren't joking about your bedtime.

i don't go to bed at 9, but i'd find someone calling me that late annoying too, because i'm not a phone person either.

but if you like him...send him a text or something, cause he likes you :)

i think you're trying to find any reason not to like this guy so this thing can end before it begins. if you actually wanna see him again, why not drop being annoyed at what someone doesn't do as your first response, and call him back and say something like, "i missed your call, but i appreciate the thought."

you don't have to be stuck in your ways. as a matter of fact, adjusting one little thing like making a phone call--or answering a phone call--might make dating a little easier.

Am glad you had a great date, Pg.

As I was reading it I thought - Damn! Tom pretty made good time to Vancouver! Maybe this bike thing is worth looking into.

;)

Original Post by bagga:

I know I don't answer the phone when I'm doing the naughty ritual of petting the puss cat!

 I heart this post. <3  <---- see?

I think its good she didn't answer so he realizes she means 9pm. But should DEFINITELY call him back with what dalmalama says "missed your call, appreciate the thought"