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Don't wiegh
I'm not going to wiegh this time. I am almost 50 and I've always been obcessed with the scale. I have a friend that didn't wiegh and she's done great. Of course we should when we go to the Dr. But you can opt to tell the nurse not to tell you.
I didn't weigh for for a long time. I kept an accurate food log as well as a log of my activities. My faith is completely in the math of Calories In < Calories Burned, so I didn't feel the need.
Plus, after a couple of weeks, I could begin to see the changes.
When I finally weighed, I had lost 41lbs.
I weigh every 2 weeks now to make sure my resting metabolism number is still where CC says it is.
Yeah I was the same way addicted to the scale every day i was on it to see if I was going down but I noticed that it oonly brought my spirits down and made me eat more because i thought it waasn't working but I'm new to this and Iknow now that the scale is a no no probably ever 2 weeks for me to
Lluva,
Have I said hello before? If not hello. I weigh daily to let me know how I'm doing. I may be addicted...but if I skip it, it doesn't bother me.
But different things work for different people. You have to do what works for you.
Personally, I need to weigh myself every morning. I tried once a week at one point, but I found I was lying to myself and fudging the numbers, so I effectively got zero done that whole time. Weighing every day keeps me accountable to myself. If you can get away with not weighing though, that's awesome. Weighing everyday can be a hassle and it IS a downer when you gain.
I have begun using the "Beck Diet For Life" book. She insists that you deal with the power the scale has over your life and mood once and for all. I really fought this at first for obvious reasons. She asks you to weigh every day for the rest of your life, and at first you keep a graphed chart so that over time you can see the natural ups and downs of your weight even when you are controlling yout eating. Eating out effects your weight usually due to sodium content or maybe your portion was too big or hidden calories, maybe your time of the month...even if you are a little constipated. The thing is , over time it has helped me to let go of the control that number has over me. It is just a number that gives me information. Nothing more, nothing less. It has become my accountability friend that I greet every morning without anxiety. I am totally honest here.
This is just one change she asks of you. The book is based on cognitive therapy and really deals with the issue of why we overeat and how it is governed by the thoughts we think. if you really do want to go on your last diet and are willing to do all this book tells you to do, it is worth it's weight in gold. In the past I have seen a couple of therapist. One was a cognitive therapist, but it was all "lip service". Beck makes you work for the mind changes and you have tools in hand daily that you can reach for at any second to help you through cravings and emotional eatingg.
Completely off topic -
What is with the Beck supporters creating new accounts everyday, coming into this group, randomly replying to the most recent topic, and then vanishing off the face of the earth ? That is, until a few days later when another account is created.
http://caloriecount.about.com/low-carb-diets- gt9-795
http://caloriecount.about.com/weigh-week-june -th-gt9-470?highlight=3095#p3095
Ok, so it has only happened 3 times. Sorry it was fresh on my mind from a few days ago.
Well then, welcome beckforme glad you have joined us! And austinlover, any updates on how you feel so far without weighing ?
That is hardly a welcome. Why the hostility? Both accounts are mine. I posted the first time and when I came back again I could not get my account to recognize the password I had put in so I created a new account on my other email address. Why are you referring to me as a "Beck Supporter". I am here only to share my journey and gather support and input. I did not expect to find haters on a diet website. Are you somehow threatened by Judith Beck's book? Having struggled with weight loss and compulsive eating issues my entire life, I have found so much truth and practical help in her book I wanted to let others who are struggling to see there is another approach out there. And I am not clear what you mean about me vanishing off the face of the earth. I just posted yesterday.
On second thought I think maybe this is not the place for me. This is tough enough without this negativity. It seems new ideas are not welcome.
ibeckforme,
Sorry I wasn't here to greet you. My computer was in the shop with the security tool virus.
I am dealing with the negativity of my own thoughts. Any help is welcome. I only recently stopped calling myself a stress eater and dealing with "comfort food". I think by changing my language some, it will help me to deal with my overall attitude about food.
I also weigh daily, but I do fuss about it if i don't lose after a few days. I haven't really thought about the scale as just an informational tool. I still kind of see it judging my progress for good or bad. Hmmm. Gotta consider that one.
textmom,
Tthanks for the kind post. I am finding that my mind is soooo the reason I overeat. That is why this book is helping me so much. We tend to become what we think. I used to go to one of those "weigh in" diet clubs and I would do anything to try and make sure I lost at least 1/4 of a pound because I did not want to feel the way I would let that scale make me feel..... I would take off all my jewlery, go with out socks, take an extra water pill.......and then how offended are we when we do follow the diet perfectly and the scale goes up a pound for "some reason"....and how about when it does go down and it is just not enough for us. ..... I have watched that Biggest Loser show on tv and I often see them get on the scale and lose only 3 or 4 pounds and they look devastated. That is so sad. We can avoid the scale like I have done my whole life or we can face it. By graphing your weight daily it shows you how quirky your weight can be. The scale only gives us a number, it is not who we are. We need to not give it power to hold our self esteem and govern our mood. It is just information. I am at the point now where I look at the scale as my new accountability friend who I will visit every morning for the rest of my life because it has no power over me. The graphing will prove to yourself that the number is what it is. It has been very freeing for me. I used to also take laxatives and purge to please the scale but that is also in my past. That scale is no longer the big boogeyman. I have slayed him and he is impotent, haha!
ibeckforme,
That is so true. I've been graphing here on this sight and it's so revealing. I stay on my program and I lose or gain in a pattern I can see. I am going to change my attitude right this moment about the scale.
I have been reading Jon Gabriel's book about positive confession and meditation, imagry in weight loss. It is interesting and informative.
That book sounds like a great read. I'll check it out. You know my husband of 30 years is such a positive upbeat guy and I wonder why he has stayed with me all these years. He has told me so many of the things I am leraning in the beck book about change your thoughts/change your mind/change your behaivor....well I just always thought him a pollyanna and thought he just did not get it....he just couldn't understand my suffering. What a shame we can't always learn from those closest to us. When we hear it from others sometimes it just clicks. I believe in my heart we are here on this earth to help and support one another. How wondefrul is this website. I just hope we can all lose the weight and live lives that are not defined by the weight we carry everyday.
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