Dramatic weight loss caused miscarriage :(

I'm so upset. I was so excited for a baby (I guess it was obvious from my other post in this forum only 3 days ago). I'm currently bleeding from a miscarriage. My doctor said it may be because I was 195 pounds only a few months ago and am now 127. Apparently the dramatic weight loss has caused certain hormonal and chemical imbalances within my body and I wasn't able to hold a child. I was only about 6 few weeks along, but I was so excited. From the minute I first saw the positive on the home pregnancy test (and then again at the doctors office just to be sure) I was quite taken with the idea of a child
Has anyone else gone through these hormonal/chemical imbalances due to very fast weight loss? Can anyone tell me how long this may last? My boyfriend and I still want our baby Broly.

First of all ((((((hugs)))))))

I'm so sorry you're going through this.  My first pregnancy in '99 ended up in a miscarriage at 12 weeks, and it was because of a hormonal imbalance (but not weight related).  I remember feeling a terrible loss, empty, like I had done something wrong.  You will feel better, though - but it will take time.

During this time, be sure to talk to your BF, my husband felt very left out of the grieving process because I was going through so much physically - but he needs to grieve too, especially since he was so excited about it too.  If you too can get through this, and give each the support you need, when you're in a better position to have a child together, your relationship will be stronger when it happens.

As for the imbalances because of weight loss, I suggest you talk to your doctor about it further.  It would be a good idea to monitor your hormone levels for a while to make sure you're system gets back to a normal balance.  If they don't stabalize, your doctor may have to put you on some kind of hormonal therapy.

(((((Hugs))))))  You're going to be okay.....it may not seem like it right now, but you will.

How did you lose 70lbs in a few months?

Like PP said you need to get blood tests to see what your hormone levels look like. They're going to be messed up from your pregnancy anyway, so they will probably want to do several tests over the next few months.

I've also miscarried & it took me a while to get back to normal. Going through postpartum for no good reason is hard.

It's good that you told everyone so you will have the support. A lot of people wait to tell until the 1st trimester is over, but if something happens they don't have support from friends & family. It's really sad.

 

I guess I should try to maintain my weight right now, with the imbalance it's probably not wise to continue losing weight. I lost it so quickly though that it just motivated me to keep going. Maybe in a few months we will try to conceive. I don't think I could take another miscarraige if it happened.

You poor thing, I'm so, so sorry to hear that! I was really happy for you when I read your other joyful posts about this baby and how much you want to be a great mom. I'm thankful your boyfriend is supportive and can share your grief with you. *hugs*

Big *hugs* from me as well. I was also so happy and excited for you when I read your last post. I think it's a really good idea to let your body get back to normal before attempting to lose any more weight. Right now your health (both physical and emotional) is most important. I'll remember you in my prayers.

I don't know the answer...just wanted to say that I am very sorry. 

All the best,

Rachel

I am so sorry!  I can't imagine what you're going through.  I would agree with the first few posts.  Consult your doctor, and ask as many questions as you can.  I am sure your body will be more balanced in the future, it just may take time.  Again, I am so sorry.

Wanting to pass along my Hugs as well.

I am so sorry for your loss.  Try to maintain a healthy weight and talk to your dr.  about hormone testing in a few months.

Again Im sorry for your loss

I'm very sorry for your loss. I also experienced a miscarriage and it was a very difficult time for me so I can understand what you are going through. I'm just wondering though, at 5ft9 and 127lbs, why do you want to lose more weight? That doesn't even seem to be a healthy weight to be at.

I have to agree with 2tall4me. I'm 5'8" and I weigh 145lbs. I could stand to lose maybe 5lbs but that's it and I'm shorter than you! The most important thing is to stay healthy.

thank you very much everyone. reading your posts makes me feel not so alone in it. i know i have the support of my best friend and boyfriend, but they were the only two who had known about it. i was about to tell my parents when something went wrong, i feel no need in brining it up with them now. it will just make then worry for nothing.

 and in my defense on weight loss;

I thought i would be good at 130 but i still have fat on me, it's not really about the number on the scale, its about toning the 'jiggly blubber' i have. while i know its hard to believe i have jiggly blubber, i do have some and my goal is to get rid of it all and build up nice toned and strong muscle (i hadnt worked out in three months and this is my first month getting back to the gym). i know muscle weighs more  so again, its not the number on the scale, its the unsightly jiggly fat that i want to lose.

Original Post by c_m_shark:

I thought i would be good at 130 but i still have fat on me, it's not really about the number on the scale, its about toning the 'jiggly blubber' i have. while i know its hard to believe i have jiggly blubber, i do have some and my goal is to get rid of it all and build up nice toned and strong muscle (i hadnt worked out in three months and this is my first month getting back to the gym). i know muscle weighs more  so again, its not the number on the scale, its the unsightly jiggly fat that i want to lose.

First {{{hugs}}}

I am thinking this Jiggly blubber is probably not really fat but just loose skin from the rapid weight loss.  Maybe a bit of body dysphoric disorder too.  I have a boss who is underweight as well and thinks she's fat and even had liposuction which she really didn't need I think she had better looking legs with the extra "fat"

so I think getting to the gym and working out and firming up will help with your image of yourself.  Did you know that most women think they are fat even if skinny and if we've lost any amount of weight we still see our fat selves.

Start taking prenatal vitamins now and eat well and give the body time to recover then your ability to conceive and hold onto it will probably greatly increase.

Wishing you the very best.

thanks but i dont have body dysphoric disorder and its not skin. it IS fat, and i am not the only one who sees it. my doctor agrees with me. i am not underweight. i lost 70 pounds and i dont still see my fat self. i see me.

A pregnancy is a very real thing and it is a BIG loss.  At the time of miscarriage your baby already had fingers and toes, just supper tiny ones.  Your baby is whole and complete in heaven rejoicing with God at this very minute. I hope you can find peace in that.  I also had a miscarriage two years ago this April.  It was very difficult to lose something I had already grown to love.  It may help sharing this with your family so they can be a support to you. 

 I also would like to encourage you to wait to start a family until after you and your boyfirend marry.  I do have two young children (2.5 and 9 months) and I could not imagine raising them on my own.  I would not want to start a family without having someone in my life that was in it for the long run.  I know it may seem old fashioned to some, but the reality is that parenting is difficult and hard work and can put a huge strain on a relationship. 

 And one last thing, shame on your doctor for telling you it was your fault.  1 out of 4 pregnancies end in miscarriage just because they weren't meant to be.  With technological advances we are finding out we are pregnant very early on in the process.  And 25 percent of those two pink line tests are going to end in a very heavy period a few weeks past when you should have got your period.  There is a high chance that your weight loss is irrelevant in this.  Good luck to you as you start the next stage of your life.

I hope you are not being too hard on yourself. Many, many of my friends and family have gone through the same thing. Your parents can take a lot more than you may think, you should talk to them for comfort if you want to.

At least you have more info about how hormone/chemical imbalances work. It may or may not be the reason for the miscarriage. These things are out of your control. I don't know anything about your question, just wanted to pass along my best wishes.

well it could also be the medications i was on for a while (before, during, and a few days after when we assume we conceived). i was on anti-biotics, painkillers, and heart pills because of getting anti-biotics for a lung infection, and then i turned out to be allergic to the first anti-biotics. so, the miscarriage could have been caused by the hormonal/chemical imbalance, the medications, or maybe even the whole hospital ordeal that resulted from the allergic reaction and maybe my body just thought it wasn't ready.
 

either way, i thank everyone for their hugs and best wishes. i appreciate it. :)

Hi i just wanted to say how sorry i am and pass along {{{{hugs}}}} as  well. At least you had it early on, i have a friend that had to give birth to her 4 month old baby that had passed.

Good luck

 

Im sorry your doctor said it had anything to do with you...I had two misscarages and niether were my fault nor was your wieght loss the reason for your loss, best of wishes to you, just a heads up I now have three wonderful babies, some day you will/could too :)

I am so sorry for your loss! I know how hard it is, but it will get easier.

I want to tell you that I don't believe your weight loss caused the m/c. My 4 kids are very close in age, and my weight went up and down - by the hundreds- and I still concieved and carried to full term healthy children. I've heard the statistics are 1 in 4 pregnancies m/c for no known reason. Please don't think you did something to cause it.

Erica