Due in 4 weeks and so emotional

Hello ladies,

i am expecting March 18 and the last few days i cry at everything, especially when my three year old yells at me. I know that this is totally normal but i feel so unloved by my husband and son. i guess my son is acting up because mommy can't bend over and play like i could before adn it is hard to lift him. He is 40 lbs and my back is so sore. I am not allowed to be emotional, whenever i cry my husband gets upset with me.

No one see,s to give a **** that i am pregnant and almost due.

sorry for the whoe is me... i get so frustrated sometimes.

thanks for listening...

If only everyone could experience pregnancy...life would be so much easier! My husband would tell me I was being irrational when I would get upset over small things. Boy, that's the wrong thing to say to a pregnant woman (even though I was being irrational)! It's still so damn irritating when they say things like that! At least you realize that it's a temporary state (that doesn't make it any easier to deal with, I know!). After my son was born, I cried every day for a week because I felt like my older daughter didn't love me since I couldn't spend time with her. It seems like at some point right around 40 weeks (give or take a month during pregnancy and postpartum) that there's a hormone dump. I had it with both of mine...first pregnancy was before birth and, as I mentioned before, the second one was after.

Have you talked to your husband about how you feel? Mine was really understanding after I told him and he felt like a pretty big jerk. He started pitching in more around the house and with the baby so I could spend some one-on-one time with our daughter. I felt much better after we fell into a normal routine and there wasn't as much stress on my shoulders (impending birth, first nights at home, etc.)

I also felt like I was in the shadows during my pregnancy because my high-maintenence, self-centered sister-in-law was getting married 1 week before I was due. Everything was all about her wedding which really irritated me. I kept thinking that the birth of a human being was much more important than her SECOND wedding but nobody else seemed to agree. Looking back on it now, I realize that everyone was there for me whenever I needed them and that was the important thing.

Hang in there, girl! You're in the home stretch and things will get better! Everyone cares about you even though they don't show it. Soon enough, you'll be holding your new baby and things will feel calmer and more complete! :)

Thanks, i feel much better now. I know what you mean about feeling like your child doesn't love you. mine ahs been yelling at me " i want daddy, your not my friend anymore." etc... Last ngith when he yelled at me i didn't think i could stop crying( i didn't cry infront of my son) and i lost my appitite( it was right before supper)

Anyway, my husband is great and  he knows that i am emotional and is supporive i just think i am going crazy.....

Are you having anymore??

Pregnancy sucks. For me it helped to focus on the end product instead of the process. I still cried like a baby, but at least it helped me stay focused.

Pamper yourself as much as you can & stay self-centered. Screw everyone else, they can take care of themselves, including your 3 year old. Make every day TV/movie day & keep him busy with crafts. If he starts to get to you, try to ignore him or leave the room. He will get over it.

Try to get some alone time when your husband is home. Whatever you like to do, go do it. Meet friends, go consignment shopping for your baberson, get a pedicure. Whateva.

Focus on you, cause nobody else is ever going to. Even when you're pregnant.

Original Post by luvmyboy:

 " i want daddy, your not my friend anymore." 

I cannot tell you how many times I have heard this come out of my daughter's mouth. She's definitely a daddy's girl since I'm so consumed with the baby right now (breastfeeding takes a lot of time!). I'm sorry he says it to you but at the same time it makes me feel a little better knowing I'm not the only one whose kid says this. I have found that ignoring it is much better than reprimanding.

Any more kids? At only 4 months postpartum, the most recent pregnancy and delivery is much too fresh in my mind to answer that question!  

Glad you're feeling better! I always feel crazy when pregnant...you're not alone!