EDIT: [Flaws.] Personal Traits!

Edit:

Considering there were a few uprisings with the topic in question [Flaws.], I have changed it to something more subtle. Something that it probably should have been in the first place.

PERSONAL TRAITS!

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Let us know what personal traits/characteristics you have that may or may not annoy those around you, but you keep unchanged nevertheless, simply because they make YOU who you are!

Why define yourself by your flaws? Why not define yourself by what you feel is positive?

Thats not to say ignore your flaws...but nor should you simply accept them (well, some you cant do much about, like missing an arm). Its important to understand that people DO have flaws, but you can still live trying to improve upon them.

There is no "who we are"...there is only "who we are at this point in time". Ideally, people should constantly be trying to grow and improve, its not a negative thing....

Psht.  I have no flaws, just some spiffy attributes.  Whether you like them or not is totally not my problem.

And PG is so coming to my birthday party in October.

Original Post by themassivetribulation:

Sometimes I get the feeling that there is less individuality, less 'uniqueness' simply because we try to correct our flaws.

 Speak for yourself!  We can be unique and still try to improve ourselves at the same time.  They're not mutually exclusive events.  Part of living in a civilised society means we all have to conform to certain rules of engagement... it's why we have laws.  We can't afford the luxury of leaving murderers to roam the streets and value their 'uniqueness' and individuality... 

I don't think Western society has ever been more live and let live than it is today.  Anything goes.  So anyone who gets obsessed with changing themselves to be exactly like someone else.... well, that would be a major flaw in itself, wouldn't it?

Original Post by gi-jane:

I don't think Western society has ever been more live and let live than it is today.  Anything goes.  So anyone who gets obsessed with changing themselves to be exactly like someone else.... well, that would be a major flaw in itself, wouldn't it?

 I couldn't agree more. My question was simply a flaw that defines us. Something that we can be proud of, no matter what people think of it. Something that cannot be changed. Whether that is physically or mentally.

Of course we can thrive to be better. Do what we can to change who we are to make life better for ourselves. But it doesn't mean that we have to comform to the norm just to be part of a 'acceptable' society or something.

But we do have to conform to a certain extent or it's called 'anarchy'... If it's something benign that can't be changed e.g. short-sightedness or a fondness for trainspotting, then it's not an issue.  But if your flaw is something society has decided is unacceptable/illegal/antisocial/offensive then you're not going to be able to indulge, however proud you are of it. 

I'm sure the people that wanted to hike naked through the Alps were very proud of themselves... but the authorities really didn't see it that way. http://www.guardian.co.uk/world/2009/jan/29/n aked-hikers-switzerland-fines  LOL!

Original Post by gi-jane:

I don't think Western society has ever been more live and let live than it is today.  Anything goes.

Perhaps society is more 'live and let live' than it has been, but that's not to say anything goes. Try walking in the footseps of any minority. As a bisexual woman, I discovered that discrimination and stigma I thought our society had left in the past is still alive and well.

Not sure what you mean by flaws. 

I am unique and people sometimes do not like the fact that I speak my mind.  To me that is not a flaw, I just don't like putting up with B.S. 

The fact that I am very cynical is not a flaw, I just think two or three steps ahead and if I don't see a positive I let it go.

Most people do not like my voice.  As my E.T. progresses, my voice gets more vibrations in it.  If you can't understand that it is a side effect of E.T. then tough, it is your problem not mine.

Some people think that it may be a flaw that I do not move as fast as they want me to.  Again tough, I am a slow moving person, I do not feel the need to rush through my day.

I dance to my own beat, that doesn't mean that I am flawed, it means that I am me.  I am comfortable with myself and too old now to care what anyone thinks or says behind my back anymore.

Original Post by spoiled_candy:

I dance to my own beat, that doesn't mean that I am flawed, it means that I am me.  I am comfortable with myself and too old now to care what anyone thinks or says behind my back anymore.

nice!

 (((candy)))

love your entire post, but especially this ^^^

mine would have to be: 

• independence to a fault, in that sometimes i would save myself a lot of heartache if i would ask for guidance or advice before i get waaaay down the road on some tangent
• impatience... with whiners, self-victimizers and crybabies
• cynicism
• stubbornness

i think these can be considereded assets and/or flaws. depends on the situation.

I think there is an upside to every "flaw."  It's how we can be lovable in spite of being annoying.

I complain and whine, but I also feel deeper empathy than most people because I understand that stuff sucks.

I hold people to high standards, but I hold myself to even higher standards.

I am easily influenced, but I am open-minded. 

I have a great depth of emotions and can get depressed and easily hurt, but I also have more capacity for love and happiness than most.

I worry too much, but because of that I am more responsible and conscientious

Most of the positives about these things I really value about myself, and if those are the trade-offs--well that's okay with me.

Yeah I have a decent amount of flaws

- I'm pretty damn arrogant, sorry guys I know I'm hot
- I'm too obsessed with doing what's different to do what's right
- I BURN people a lot and get sick of people easily
- As a scholar I'm lazy and depend on general intelligence rather than hard work. The problem is, I'm just addicted to having fun and will always rather go out than finish an essay/assignment/whatever tedious task im destined to not hand in
- I care what people think even though I think I shouldn't
- I overanalyse everything. I'm that girl who gets a text message from a guy and am like 'OHMYGOD THERE IS A FULL STOP OHMYGOD WHAT DOES THAT MEAN'. Seriously, i know better
- I have a really disgustingly ugly thumb

Nice. My flaws:

• I'm non-confrontational to the point that I'd rather write you off than work it out.
• I'm addicted to caffeine and have no desire to change that.
• I tend to be idealistic despite my cynicism.

Original Post by huggitbear:

I think there is an upside to every "flaw."  It's how we can be lovable in spite of being annoying. 

absolutely! some days im loveable, and some days im just plain annoying. haha

I am the "me" in my life.  I'm not trying to change who I am, because then I would become someone else.  Personally, I like myself.

- always late

- huge procrastinator

- stubborn

Of course the actual list would be fifty pages long, I am only human after all. These three are just the more poignant ones and the ones I am most likely never going to change.

I honestly like the direction your replies are going. Maybe I should have reconsidered the title of this topic. It should have been: personal traits (things that annoy others but you love and will keep unchanged). ^^

Maybe it's best to take it that way. It would make more sense anyway.

Original Post by themassivetribulation:

I honestly like the direction your replies are going. Maybe I should have reconsidered the title of this topic. It should have been: personal traits (things that annoy others but you love and will keep unchanged). ^^

Maybe it's best to take it that way. It would make more sense anyway.

 go on then, you can change it. before anyone gets uppity about the word and takes the thread somewhere else.

Flaws? Let's see!

I'm shy.

I'm jealous.

I'm insecure.

I'm fat.

I give everything 150% and when I fail or do badly I take it VERY badly. I guess I'm a perfectionist at the things I do.

I sometimes think I'm intellectually superior than others, I never say it or show that I am, I just think that I am to myself. Even with doctors, I assume they're always wrong and I'm right.

I let what everyone MAY think of me rule my life and decisions.

Traits? Ok...

I'm kind, respectful. I care for other's feelings more than my own. I've got good manners.

I have empathy, and a lot of it.

I'm artistic. I love to draw, paint, sew, cut, glue, sprinkle, write and color.

I'm smart. Though, read above, lol.

I'm extremely open-minded.

I hope for world peace, will probably never happen but I hope/think I am wrong and it will... some day.

I'm a HUUUUUUUUUUGE Earth lover! Gotta love this planet, we wouldn't be here otherwise!

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I'm very flawed and with that said, I think it's what makes me what I am. I LIKE who I am. There are things about me I'd like to change for obvious reasons, but I generally like my personality/character. I'm always told I'm too nice for my own good, that may be true, but I see no reason to NOT be nice. ;) World peace won't happen if people continue to NOT be nice.

I am very organized, I can not leave work with anything still on my desk

I am non-confrontational unless it has to do with my Children or grandchild

I am obsessive when it comes to work-out

I am stuck in my ways and I always want my way

I love these things about myself because without them I wouldn't be driven, or fun or protective!!!!

I do not tend to follow the crowd, I always want to do things independently of a group

I am very stubborn, if I don't want to do something I won't do it and it will be very hard for you to change my mind

I am brutally honest, sometimes I wonder if I cross the line with my level of bluntness but I find it very hard to sugar coat some things or tell a person something I think they want to hear

I am able to bounce back emotionally, after dealing with personal situations and failed relationships back to back I think that I come back and move on very well

I can be the most loving, empathetic, and giving person....on a good day, lol

I can also be a straight b!tch depending on my day

I always say that I don't want alot of attention on myself but secretly I like to be the center of attention in a subtle way, lol