Any1 else being called Anorexic & getting negative remarks?

I cant tell you how sick i am of being called Anorexic and people saying, "EAT SOMETHING".

I started losing weight because i gained about 29 pounds within a few months of graduating

I was at 149 and wanted to get back down to 120.

One girl said, Thats gross (weighing 120). Im 5'3..theres nothing wrong with weighing 120.

2 others a-l-w-a-y-s tell me to EAT and say im anorexic. The worst part of it is that they are skinner than me!!!! Who are they to judge?

I eat 1350 calories a day...i do eat. These are people I work w. and dont even know how much i eat during the day.

I have ONE MORE POUND to go..I should be feeling great.

why do people have to be so negative?

I feel your pain. I weigh 180, down from 215 in Jan. I am a big girl. My husband tells me all the time, "you need to eat, What have you developed an eating disorder?" I mean seriously, I wouldnt be able to function if I weren't eating. I also hear this from people at work. These are people who either A.) are overweight or B.) are way thin and eat junk all the time. I eat 1350 a day and I think that is a ton of food. I wish people would just shut up. Who's buisness is it if I want to be healthier. So what if I pass up on the junk food in the break room, I have a perfectly balance healthy lunch waiting for me along with all the snacks I might need. I have started to pretend like I can't hear them when they say these things, I hope it will eventually stop.

Oh and Congrats on the loss, 1 lb and you're there!

Oh yeah, I was the same height and weight of you and people would always ask me what I ate and if I ate today-if I didn't want to eat something they would say you won't gain weight.

I see you being at a normal weight. Perhaps you look smaller than 120 which could be why or they could be jealous-who knows, as long as you are feeling good and healthy, don't worry about others.

 

I know exactly how you feel.

Either they are jealous, or they don't understand what you have to deal with.

 

Just stop focusing on their comments and be your OWN judge for weight loss :]

Oh man that sucks! I agree with the above poster saying the people are either overweight themselves or are thin and eat junk food. I have the overweight friend who makes remarks about being dumb when I order egg whites instead of eggs or whatnot, and then I have the worse ones who are thin and eat large amounts of food yet if I go and try to eat something not as bad they pester me until I give in and eat something that I don't want to. I LITERALLY had one of these friends make me finish her large (!) blizzard cause she ate a ton of it and I was "skinny" and was fine and she didnt want to waste the rest. I didn't even WANT the blizzard...And 120 at 5'3 is fine. I was half expecting to read that someone 5'9 wanted to be like 105 but was heartened by it being reasonable :)

congrats! :)

I get that all the time. At first I just ignored it now it really bothers me and hurts my feelings. I am 4'10" and weight between 90-93LB. I have worked so hard to get to this weight. I workout 6 days a week and watch everything I eat. I feel good at this weight and like how I look. I eat between 1,400-2,000 calories a day. When people make those comments they are just stupid. They have no idea what I eat in a day. They just see me resist snacks like donuts, cookies, chips and so on and assume I am "anorexic". If we made comments back like, "do you really think you need that donut" "you are getting pretty fat" and so on we would be "mean" but it is Ok for them to comment on our weight? Mostly it gets to be because I work so hard to maintain. It is not natural. I cannot eat whatever I want and stay at this weight. If they worked as hard they would get results to. It is all about what you want and what kind of commitment you want to make.

 I am 5'2'' and was 157 and am now 113lbs.  I have only gotten those kinds of comments from 2 people.  My mom who wont stop saying I am anorexic and a close friend/coworker who asked me to stop losing (I only have 3 more pounds to go).   

I think my mom was just so used to seeing me heavy (I was always a chubby girl) that she assumed the worse.  But it got to the point where I told her if she didn't stop making the comments I wouldn't come around her any more. I shouldn't have to defend myself everytime I see my own mother. And it's not like she never sees me eat - I'm always eating at those family functions - I just tend to stick with the fruit and veggie tray (for the most part)  : )

Edunph hit is on the head.....people get used to seeing you a certain way.  And when you lose a lot of weight, even if you are still in a normal healthy weight range, as you are, to them its not normal or unnatural. 

 A couple of years ago I lost enough weight to get to 135 (I'm also 5"3") and even at that I was getting negative comments!  "You need to stop" "you're getting too skinny" etc.  That was rediculous because it was coming from people skinner than me!  it made no sense at all.  And I was nowhere near what I should have been.  120 is just right for someone 5'3".   Well I've gained it all back and have to start over.  I don't know if I finally gave into to all the negativity or what...but now it's all back and i have to do it again. I will NOT stop this time until I hit my goal weight, then I have to be careful and maintain...not regain!

Congrats on your weight loss!

 

 

Thanks everyone who replied to my post. It makes me feel like I can finally block out those negative people, i was right.

I was surprised to hear how many other people are dealing with this like I am.

Good luck w. your weight losses!

If people are concerned with your weight, you might should really consider it. I know that might not even be the case, but the number on the scale really doesn't mean that much. I mean, different people carry weight differently, so maybe 120 might look gross on one person and good on someone else, I don't know if I'm saying this right, but really consider how healthy your being. I doubt 1350 calories a day is healthy for anyone and I also think strict dieting leads to eating disorders, so maybe loosen up

nerdfacee:

Although I do agree that 120 on one 5'3 person and 120 on another might look different I don't think its an unhealthy goal. I am 5'4 and was 120 for years and still had plenty of "jiggle" at that weight.

However what I do NOT agree with is that 1350 calories is unhealthy. It just simply isn't.  You need a basic 1200 calories as a minimum (adult).  As a 5'4 F 25 yrs old and 135lbs set at sedentary I burn 1690 calories a day. To lose weight I need to consume less than that. I usually aim for 1400 and include exercise into my day.

Maintaining a calorie count is also not a "strict" diet. You can fit a lot of food into 1350 calories - you just have to make healthy decisions about it. Counting calories is about being more aware about what you feed your body - it does not automatically result in the assumption that you have an ED.

People all over the world are battling obesity because they aren't aware of what they are eating or what portion sizes should be. Teaching ourselves to be healthy and eat properly does not = ED.

mary004 - Good work! Hope you reach your goal soon!

Mary004,

Anytime I try to lose weight, and heaven help me if I start to succeed, my MIL always freaks out and says I'm anorexic.  She is never mean about it, just seems panicked, however, I really think it has more to do with her diffuculty losing weight.  Most of her girls (4), are tall and larger framed than I am, so she also compares me to them.  I think that your weight goal, and your calorie consumption is very healthy.  Don't let other ppl influence you, or get too much under your skin.  Often, however well meaning they may be, they project their own fears or issues onto you and your experiences.  If you really want to try to get them to be quiet, quote your BMI (which seems like it would be fine, since mine says that at 5'7" I could go down to 118 before being "anorexic"), or better yet, see your Dr. and ask him/her...then tell them she/he said your good to go (as I'm sure they will).  These are the "experts", not the lay ppl around you trying to mash you into whatever preconcieved portrait of you that they have.

Congrats and keep up the good work:)

Kate

HI :)

Ive only been looking at this site for the past 3 days and i was delighted to find a couple of posts that listed whatthey ate each day and wheni put inmy 2 cents worth i did get some criticism ( mostly from recovering anorexics and "normal" ppl who weighed 20-30 pounds more than me). I thought how mean and hypocritical!!

My stats are. im 5'8 ,61kgs and 24.

I have never dieted inmy life but in general i just eat healthy and i have never actually gained or lost for than a cpl kilos. I just naturally fall around 60kg(132 pounds) I woud like to drop down to 57kgs which will put my BMI from 20.4 down to 19. The lowest BMI reccomended for me is 19 so why are ppl reluctant to support me?? I have realistic goals, im far from anorexic and according to this site my goal weight is HEALTHY.

so its 11am in perth and today ive had a cpl slices of homemade fruit bread. Its my day off and im feeling a bit down.

I'l post more later

seza

I know exactly where you are coming from. The other day in the car, my little sister says to me:

"Do you know how I like to smoke, and Liz (my other sister) drinks alcohol a lot. . .and we know we do these things and we probably shouldn't but we do anyways? I mean maybe we have a problem almost kinda? Well I think you have the same kind of problem with your weight."

First of all, I am 5'7 and weigh 135lbs (on a good day). I am right where I need to be (exact middle of a healthy BMI) and am only trying to lose a little weight and gain some muscle so I can lead a more healthy lifestyle (I have never exercised in my life until this summer after I noticed my weight slowly creeping up. . .15lb gain in 3 years). I don't starve myself, I eat 1,200 to 1,500 calories a day, I exercise for an hour a day, and I try to make healthy choices.

Do I have a problem? No freakin way!! Someday I really want to have a family that likes to hike, be outside, enjoy the farmer's market, kayak, bike, etc etc. I was raised to be a couch potato. I am adjusting to HEALTHY lifestyle choices now so I can be a better me in the future.

It's sad that my sister compared my calorie counting to alcoholism or smoking weed. Sometimes I hate how unsupportive my family can be. If nothing else, it would at least be nice to have a hiking buddy :(

ALL THE TIME.

friends, family everyone... 

but the funny thing is they are all overweight and I know its their inner mind telling them they should do the same.

Unfortunately they do not have the will power or determination to lose weight so they make negative remarks on my weight loss.

ESPECIALLY with my family ..anything I do , im cold = maybe you should eat more. i feel like im getting sick = EAT MORE.

like cmoonnnnnnnn.