Embarassing moments
i am 133 and 5,3 and would like to lose weight but i don't think i look pregnant. The best part was, it didn't bother me too much. Enough to tell you guys though...
Anyway, what are some of your moments?
On a budget airline a while ago, having the air-hostess shouting to her colleague for the extension seatbelt for me.
What is up with people asking not-very-big people if they are pregnant? I took a cruise last summer and one of my dinner table mates asked me if I was pregnant, and I was <130 lbs. That made the rest of the cruise really fun ...
That seems like a question you really wouldn't ask if you weren't sure.
Ugh! the pregnant thing! That's always mortifying...
The other day, my son and I had to stand on the train (he's 5). He was holding on to my midsection for support and started grabbing and jabbing at my flabby belly. I asked him what he was doing. He said, "What's this stuff, mommy?" in the middle of a packed train. Some people laughed. some people felt sorry for me, I'm sure, but I just tried to make a joke out of it. I said,"that's my squishy belly, baby, and I think you had a hand in giving it to me. Thank you." and another woman on the train who was about my size laughed and said, "I hear you. I think we all have a little bit of that problem after the little ones come along." So at least I got a little understanding out of it.
BTW, I'm 168, 5'6", 27yo. would love to be 133. Maybe you had just had a realy high fiber meal or something and were bloating....wouldn't worry too much about strangers opinions, but I can understand the embarrassment.
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good post.
If I would not have good posture, I could easily pass for pregnant but I stand up straight (taught my body to do that when I was young and fat). My co-worker would probably still appear pregnant even if she corrected her posture but maybe not as much.
Either way, its rude to say that to anyone unless you are absolutely certain it is a prego belly.
When I was heavier, I also got asked if I was pregnant. I was working customer service in a furniture store, and a customer asked me. It didn't bother me too badly; I knew I was heavy and had a round belly, so...I could see how she might think that. Still, why someone would ask a complete stranger such a question is beyond me....
My two other most embarrassing moments were: (1) At another job, my boss purchased a new desk chair for me, but it had a weight limit of 250 pounds. I was 265 at the time. The chair broke about two weeks after he got it, and I had to ask him not to buy that model chair again, and explain that the chair couldn't support me. (2) My boyfriend asked me to take his pickup truck (small one, Ford Ranger) to go pick up an order of mulch. I almost got into an accident because there was not enough room for my big belly to fit in the seat and have it be close enough to reach the pedals, so I had the seat back a bit too far and almost couldn't hit the brakes in time.
I don't understand how people can be so rude re: the pregnant thing. It's never happened to me because I am obviously fat all over, not just my belly, but I had a friend who carried more weight in her belly and one time a rude woman not only asked her but after she said "No I am just fat" the woman went on to insist she must be pregnant. A total stranger. OMG.
Embarassing moment A: Broke a stool in the middle of a public market, was sent sprawling on the floor and had a hard time getting up to boot. It was an old, flimsy stool, but you can bet no one was thinking it was the stool's fault.
Embarassing moment B: In a sidewalk cafe in Italy, I could not quite fit in the plastic chair and was not certain it would hold me. AND the ground was uneven and tilted towards a small hill. So I sat teetering on the edge of the wobbly chair, on the edge of the mini-cliff, trying to hold all my weight with my legs which was a losing battle...thank goodness a kind waiter took pity on me and replaced my chair just saying "that's one's no good" with a sturdy armless one before something disastrous happened. Argh.
Embarsssing moments too numerous to count: Whenever I take public transit, no one ever wants to sit next to me because I take up one and a half seats; the seat beside me is always the last to be filled. Sometimes the people just stand rather than sit next to me. On a crowded bus, that's embarassing.
I made a comment at a health fair about the health of my breasts; I'm a man.
I often get asked questions like that at work, I think its so odd that people think they have a right to comment on a total strangers appearance just because they are in a public place or because the person is a customer were someone works.
Things iv been asked
are you pregnat (yep iv got that one too)
Why are you so ugly (this was a little kid to be fair)
Are you a man or a woman?????
Or I will be feeling fairly happy with my self, I will great a person will a smile and they say you look really fed up but it seems to be old people who say this and then they ask me to repeat myself before iv even said a word.
An overweigth co worker recently had a baby and I had no idea she was even pregnant I saw her and really put my foot in my mouth by saying oh I didn't realise you were pregnat and feel very bad about that.
Next time, i will say after last night i could be....hee hee that would shut them up.
Another great saying is...your opinion of em is really none of my business.
have a great day beautiful woman...and handsome men.
Original Post by skwinkle:
What is up with people asking not-very-big people if they are pregnant? I took a cruise last summer and one of my dinner table mates asked me if I was pregnant, and I was <130 lbs. That made the rest of the cruise really fun ...
That seems like a question you really wouldn't ask if you weren't sure.
I was asked at 5'4 and 115 lbs if I was pregnant. The girl then goes "Oh. Well you look like you're pregnant. Maybe you should go take a test." I patted my belly and said "No, no that's the auto-immune disease I have that causes my body to attack the lining of the small intestine and bloat considerably. But thank YOU for pointing that out in front of a group of people!" I wouldn't have minded if she had apologized but she acted offended that I told her no, which pissed me off.
Original Post by kezflake:
I often get asked questions like that at work, I think its so odd that people think they have a right to comment on a total strangers appearance just because they are in a public place or because the person is a customer were someone works.
Things iv been asked
are you pregnat (yep iv got that one too)
Why are you so ugly
Are you a man or a woman?????
Or I will be feeling fairly happy with my self, I will great a person will a smile and they say you look really fed up but it seems to be old people who say this and then they ask me to repeat myself before iv even said a word.
An overweigth co worker recently had a baby and I had no idea she was even pregnant I saw her and really put my foot in my mouth by saying oh I didn't realise you were pregnat and feel very bad about that.
I've been asked if I was a man or a woman before--but then again, my hair was only a couple of inches (at the most) long at the time, so I forgave them...somewhat.
And I hear you on the overweight coworker being pregnant. I had no idea one of my coworkers was pregnant, either, until they put up the announcement on the board saying she had her son! I managed not to put my foot in my mouth and say, "She was pregnant?" out loud when anyone could hear me.
When I was on vacation a couple weeks ago, I pretty much pigged out every day on Latin American food. I didn't get fat but my stomach was super bloated..And I went to do some shopping & the sales lady took me to the maternal clothes section.
I don't know how to speak spanish so I couldn't even explain to her that I wasn't pregnant! The weird thing about my body is that my arms and legs are skinny, but the minute I eat something my stomach BLOWS up.
BTW- This incident happened when I was 117lbs..and I'm 5'8! So you can understand how this made me feel even WORSE about my body image
You know what I think it is? A lot of the new styles almost look maternity and I think people just get confused. I know I've seen an average sized woman before in one of those type of shirts/tops and wondered myself. I wouldn't take it as an insult...I think it's just the clothing styles.
Original Post by amilagirl:
You know what I think it is? A lot of the new styles almost look maternity and I think people just get confused. I know I've seen an average sized woman before in one of those type of shirts/tops and wondered myself. I wouldn't take it as an insult...I think it's just the clothing styles.
It is the style.
I have a close friend that is underweight (due to thyroid problems), and the new styles make even HER look puffy.
Original Post by ratinhat88:
kezflake, I don't see HOW anyone could ever ask you the question, are you a man or a woman? You are obviously a woman, and a very beautiful one! People are so stooooopid sometimes, I swear!
I agree: you're lovely, and quite clearly a woman. I wouldn't worry about it: you'll always be pretty, and that person will always be clueless, apparently.
See most men know better than to ask if you're preggers. They've done that to at least one woman who wasn't at some point in their life and pretty much gotten their head handed to them.
If it's man, "Wow! Your tie must be cutting off the blood flow to your brain?"
If it's a woman, "Wow! Your IQ matches your shoe size. Is it hard going through life that stupid?"
i love the new "maternity style".... i hate the maternity store since having my daughter but i love the style! it covers the awkward "is she pregnant" belly.... my daughter is almost 14 months and even i think i look 3-4 months pregnant... as if i'm in the stage where people shouldn't ask unless they KNOW
i wanted to add a story... 4 days after i had my daugher i went into the maternity store for sweatpants. i had my newborn with me in the stroller..... and a woman asked how far along i was.... how rude! i had a small baby with me and my belly was SUPER JIGGLY from not having a baby it in..... i know this doesn't really count- but seriously i had a very tiny baby don't people know that our bodies won't reverse from pregnancy immediately???? my kid is over 1 and i'm still battling those last 10 pounds!
Hehehe. That reminds me that while I was pregnant with my first child, I was already two weeks late and practically walking backwards because of my huge belly. We had a young couple over for dinner, and when I mentioned something about being impatient for the baby to be born, the woman opened big eyes and said:"You are pregnant????" I laughed so hard I almost got the baby there and then... LOL
Then she told me she never assumed a woman was pregnant since she had made the mistake of asking when the baby was due to a fat lady who got really mad at her... So I guess you had the bad luck of meeting someone at the start of his/her learning curve!!! LOL
We all say something stupid at some point in our life. It is true some people are more tactless than others, but that enables us to learn tolerance and to develop our sense of humour. Take it as a challenge!
I remember I was at the gym pool taking a water aerobics class. I had had my son already but was still fat (I was fat before I got pregnant). An old lady asked me when I was due.
me: "6 months ago"
end of conversation
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