Embarrassed about Weight

Ok...so I have a great relationship with my husband -- truly. We run a business together, we enjoy each other....devoted....we're completely blessed.
BUT...
I've never told him how much I weigh.  I've always struggled with weight -- EDs-- etc.  And I just don't tell people how much I weigh -- I'll say I want to lose 40 lbs....but no other details.
AND
I'm pregnant.....how am I going to get through the appointments without having him know??

I know its absurd -- and we're really just thrilled we're expecting -- through the roof....but its this silly little thing that's worrying me about our first appointment....

Any advice??  (and i know i should just get over it....but what if i can't???)

Wow...that is a tough one.  I truly don't think I could have recovered from my ED struggles if I didn't  confide in my husband.  I think everyone needs at least one person in their life that they can be totally honest with, and I strongly feel that one person would have to be my spouse.  We have been married over 21 years now, and I don't feel I could have ever made it without honesty.

Do you really think he would care about how much you weigh?  I would think that would be the lowest-priority concern he would have about your pregnancy.  You have enough stress during this time without trying to conceal such a trivial matter; sharing the pregnancy experience is an opportunity to enrich your relationship on all levels.  Don't you think getting it off your chest to your one special support person would be a relief?

I didn't want to tell my now-hubby how much I weighed either, when we were first dating. For some reason he wanted to know, and it took me a long time to tell him. I don't know what it is about weight and people knowing, but it just feels like such a big deal - I understand. When I finally told him, he just said "Ok."

Guys are often simple creatures. He won't care either way. He probably won't even listen to the number when the doctor is talking. Just don't make a big deal of it, and I'm sure he won't even notice.  

I'm not sure how it works at everybody else's prenatal appointments, but I see a midwife and I privately weigh myself and then let her know my weight when I'm in her office.  If it works like that, you could explain to your midwife that you'd rather not share the info in front of your husband or something.  I can't imagine he'd have to be there for the sliding of the weights on the scale!  That seems ludicrous.  Best of luck!

ALL OF THE WOMEN ABOVE HAVE GREAT ADVICE. JUST THINK REALLY HARD, GO DEEP DOWN INSIDE AND ASK YOURSELF WHY YOU DON'T WANT YOUR HUSBAND TO KNOW YOUR WEIGHT.  I DON'T HAVE INTENTIONS TO BE RUDE, BUT THERE IS SOMETHING GOING ON BIGGER THAN YOUR PHOBIA.  YOUR BABY.  IF IT'S STILL STRESSING YOU OUT, TALK TO YOUR OB.  GIVE THEM A CALL WHEN YOUR ALONE AND DISCUSS YOUR FEARS.  I'M SURE THEY WILL BE WILLING NOT TO DISCUSS WEIGHT IN FRONT OF YOUR HUSBAND. GOOD LUCK AND CONGRATS!

I would not worry to much my OB never told me how much I weighed unless I ask or unless there was a big differance from my last visit that she was worried about. Good luck and congratulations on the little one to come

I used to never want people to know my weight but one day I realised that they pretty much know by my size anyway. I mean I can tell what someone weighs just from looking at them, so I was like why am I trying to keep this a secret when they can tell anyway? Now I'm not scared to tell people my weight anymore. Feels a lot better not having "the secret" anyway.

Hi,

I've never told my weight either. I've been married over 7 years, have 4 kids and never 1 time discussed or told my weight to my husband. I got REALLY big during each pregnancy and my doctor's nurse would weigh me privately then take me into the room (where DH would be, if he came that time). It was never an issue. Recently I've lost weight - alot (all of it, yay) and I had just stepped off the scale in the bathroom when my DH walked in. I was smiling at my loss and he said, what? You weigh _ now? He said the number EXACTLY - I was like did you see that? and he said, no I can just tell. Now I guess I've always known that, but it was actually horrifying to hear him say that. So as a PP said, its not really a secret, but I'll bet your DH will pick up on the fact that you don't want to discuss it, or just tell him not to talk about it.

Good luck

Erica  

Thanks everyone!!!  It seems so silly when you write out the question....it really is just this silly thing i'm worried about.

my first and foremost of course is keeping our baby healthy -- and i do adore my husband...its just an old old issue, and i've never been in the position where i needed to confront someone learning my weight....and i think, although silly, it just really threw me for a loop.....