This is embarrassing but can someone give me a kick in the ass?

o.k.  so I need someone to yell at me and tell me that I am slipping off the wagon and that if I do I will stop losing weight and stop getting into shape.  that I'm being pathetic and that ultimately the choice is mine to make to either stay this size or to - fight and struggle - and give it all I've got to stick to the changes needed. 

see my thinking sometimes is dysfunctional.  I miss one workout.  I think o.k. but then somehow I think well if you can miss one what's another, then I get disgusted and start to slip in other areas and give up completely.   

To date I have lost 8 lbs, started weight training, and incorporated walking.  Yes, I know theoretically that I'm on the right track.  I know my thinking is irrational, I know that even though I am on a bit of a plateau I will get through it.  I know that I have an education, that I'm not supposed to be here but hey sometimes I think the longest path is the one from the head to the heart. 

please kick my ass!

Hello Chrissae--

I'm going to say all this the most loving and endearing way I can, because I completely understand why you want someone to do this for you... I belong to another site, and I asked the same thing, for people to tell me I'm starting to turn into a failure, and they just turned around and told me they wouldn't say that to me, and that I was wonderful, and beautiful, and thin, etc, etc, etc.

Well, I'm sorry- but I don't like that stuff... I know people were just trying to be nice, but that isn't what I wanted! I didn't want people to be nice- in fact, the opposite!!! I wanted to tell me I was a slob LOL... but they didn't, so I felt like it was okay to have a really bad day of eating and/or not working out.. and lemme tell ya- that didn't work for me... I turned into an even bigger blob because I felt like it was okay to take a break... well that one tiny break led to like 6 months of breaking... i decided I wanted a "rest" period- in which i SHAMEFULLY allowed myself to gain 30 lbs... And, listen, Chrissae, I'm not saying all this because it is going to happen to you. It most likely won't-- I'm just telling you what happened to me when I asked people this same favor LOL.. so please don't feel like I'm attacking you telling you are fat, whatever, because I'm not- we are just here to give one another all the motivation in the world, and if you can't come here to get it, where are you going to go? Know what I mean...?

So I say, GET UP, GET OUT, GO WORK OUT!!! Don't skip- then you could turn into me *shivers* *ick*, and you don't want that, trust me... I don't even want that!!!

So here's your motivation you asked for girly--- go get 'em!! If you want to slack off for today, okay- everyone needs a break and so do their bodies- but you better hop back on the wagon SOON (like tomorrow) or that wagon is gonna leave you in the dust!!! And with the way I acted, it was like the wagon was traveling at like 500mph, and I couldn't catch up to hope back on.

Sorry for the reallllly long post, but I hope this helps you :)

Amanda *

thanks Amanda.  That's exactly it....that soft stuff doesn't work on me at least not in this area, and especially when I'm motivated by sheer poor choices, and instant gratification.  It would be different if my husband just left me and I suffered from low self esteem - know what I mean. 

sometimes, we need the DR. Phil approach.  At least I do.  so thanks again.  btw - your very funny

Hi Chrissae,

I've been there many times before. I also need a kick most times. I spent a week doing nothing because of the weather and i know i should have been at the gym. Sometimes we go through this phase. So get up and start back working out. I'm starting back again this evening after work and also on Saturday morning.

Good Luck

 

When you skip a workout, don't you feel worse or more sluggish that day?  Try to remember how good you felt when you worked out last time and make yourself go.  The first 10 minutes suck hard core, but after you push through that it's all good.

If the positive motivation doesn't work, think about some experiences in the past that have embarassed you because of your weight.  Then go work out in the gym to work through those issues.

I'm busting MY ass here!

 

get off YOURS and MOVE dammit!!!!!!!!!!!!!!

 

I am an All or Nothing kind of person.

Don't think about it JUST DO IT

You guys are soo sweet and funny too.  Thanks. Just what I needed.

Christine, you're highly intelligent, and you know what you need to do. Nobody can do it for you. YOU have to want it. What do you want it for? Do you want to eat healthy and exercise for your health? To live a long, joyful and successful life? Do you want to feel good? or better? Are you willing to give up your looks, feeling better, or better health, just so you can skip your workout and eat like you want, for a few minutes of gratification?  Do you want everybody to believe you really want to do better at your eating and your exercise, but then sit down and get lazy about it?  You can't want it too much if you're going to just give up because of a few little obstacles. Go for it girl! Get out there and exercise while you're able. Some of us can't exercise much at all. Don't take that ability for granted. Some people don't have the ability or knowledge to eat healthy, but you do. Don't take that for granted. Use these God given gifts and be healthy for many years to come, and enjoy that masters degree and the future law degree, for many many healthy years! Take care, and best wishes.

Was that enough tough talk for ya'?

Get movin' for cryin' out loud. When i got out of the army for some dumb reason I though well a month off of pt and I will maintian my weight not. One turns to two and two to three and you get the picture. I went from being able to run six miles in sand to barely two on a hard top surface.

So don't be lazy get up off your bum and move it. otherwise you will gain five pounds then ten then 15.

thanks guys.  If you ever need a kick in the ass let me know.  I'll be there for ya!!

Ok, I've lost right around 100 lbs and in addition to that worked at a gym and become a certified personal trainer. I would just like to say that if it doesn't come from inside you it's probably not going to happen cause someone else gives you some inspiration. I tried to lose weight many times before something kindof came loose in my head and motivated me WAAAAAAAAAAY past the point that any external force would be capable of. So I'm not really here to insult you which you seem to be asking for or on the other hand to tell you that you are an amazing person in spite of your request or the fact that i don't know you, I just want to say that if you don't really want to lose weight then i guess you should just stop now because the only thing that worked for me was a logical grasp of how desperately i wanted to change. If you eat bad that means you try doubly hard in the days proceeding that. Also mixing up your excercise and dietary method can do wonders for "plateaus" and it's not always or even usually devestating to have one bad meal or miss a planned day of excercise. It is ridiculous to let something that minor compromise your entire health regiment. Sorry if that's harsh but that's the thought process that took me from being a slob to being the attractive person with around 7% body fat i'd always hoped i would be. People need to get over their stupid boot-camp obsession as well as their "physical health comes from being happy with who you are" idea, i know from personal experience that neither of these notions did any good for me.

I  sympathize with your situation. I too find it difficult to go to the gym every single day. In fact, I don't. I long ago realized that I failed in my attempts to diet and exercise because I was forcing myself to accept habits that were too drastic for me. Now, the goal is to work out 2 to 3 times perweek. If I work out more than that, great. Two to three times per week is something I can DO, so I stay on track. If I tell myself to work out 7 days per week, I'll end up not working out at all. Also when it comes to calories, I give myself a generous limit and shoot for that. Weight loss has been slow, but it's been painless and I know I can keep this up indefinitely.

The important thing is that you look forward to your plan. If you're struggling, it might be too difficult to maintain longterm, and long term maintenance is the key.