I enjoy being a girl!

Are any of you familiar with that song?!?

"When I have a brand new hairdo
With my eyelashes all in curl,
I float as the clouds on air do,
I enjoy being a girl!"

Etc...

Anyway, this may be a random tangent of thought, or perhaps I'm just in a really good mood today :)... but I feel great! 

There have been a few posts about women who oppose or enjoy wearing makeup, and reasons why or why not.  I think every women has their own way of feeling beautiful, but when I was looking at their pictures there was such a change in the demeanor between the pictures where they weren't "done up" and when they were!

I saw a lot of natural beauty, which I think every woman should embrace and be comfortable with.  In those pictures they looked more relaxed, and even a little tired.  Yet, when they put on their makeup and a great dress, their face and body language became more sexy and confident!!

In light of this rant, I hope that all women take an opportunity once in a while to show off their best features and flaunt a confident attitude - the way only women can ;)

I hate to sound mean, but it bothers if a girl says, "I think I am ugly," and yet does nothing about it. She doesn't get highlights or a more flattering hair color if her hair is dull. If she complains about having a slight wave in her hair that a $20 straightener and a bit of standard gel could fix.

If she complains about having a dull look when she doesn't put on any make up. I think some women underestimate the power of makeup. Makeup can disguise a lot of flaws, such as uneven skin complexion, acne, slightly off facial features (eyes too small, mouth too big, nose too big, etc.). You could either research these online (type in to google: how to makeup big nose, etc.) or you could go to one of those makeup sellers in Dillard's and shops. They may do a free makeover while trying to promote and sell you their makeup.

If she complains that she doesn't have the money to buy nice clothes. Honey, I am a college student. I don't have much cash to spare. But I am there in the discount section of my favorite stores. I even buy nice clothes that have imperfections, such as a missing button, uneven seam, maybe a strap that isn't attached. Those are things that are either not noticable or very easy to fix!

Man, I've been having huge posts lately... :P

Makeup makes my eyes burn lately. Also, I like eyeliner too much so when I wear it I don't look so hot. I notice that if I put on some mascara and lip gloss, I look nicer in pictures, so that's what makes me feel pretty makeup wise :) I do like dressing up now and then, too. It's true that looking good makes you feel good on those special occasions!

As a tall girl, (I've been 5'8" since middle school), I've been conscientious of dwarfing guys. It makes them insecure when you're taller, so I have avoided heels. And, standing 6' tall in heels, i've just avoided them all together because it definitely draws attention! Most of my friends are 5'5"ish.

Lately. I don't care. I'm over it, they should get over it too. My male roommate is very short, and recently told me to stop wearing 4" heels. I said no f-ing way.

I am just starting to assert my femininity and I'm sorry if it immasculates you. Not my problem.

So, just a rant to say, wearing heels makes me feel confident. I don't care about protecting the feelings of insecure boys any more.

I like fake eyelashes.  *changes avatar*

I agree with both of you!

muttlover - those are all complaints I don't understand, either.  Women have so much opportunity to work with what we have!  We can wear makeup, play with our hair, change up our outfits, etc.  Any women who complains about her "flaws" has so much opportunity to do something about it - and that's something I love!  I can wear sweats and a ponytail, or I can wear a sexy dress and do my hair - I love the versatility!

happyfish22 - I understand where you're coming from!  You know you're limitations, but you enjoy being able to do what you can! 

I believe that women should feel comfortable no matter what!  I'm not saying that everyone has to cake on the makeup to look or feel beautiful.  However, we can if we want to, or put on just a little to make our best features stand out - and if you're not sure how to do it, but have a secret desire to learn, then go for it!

Original Post by greeneyedbellydancer:

As a tall girl, (I've been 5'8" since middle school), I've been conscientious of dwarfing guys. It makes them insecure when you're taller, so I have avoided heels. And, standing 6' tall in heels, i've just avoided them all together because it definitely draws attention! Most of my friends are 5'5"ish.

Lately. I don't care. I'm over it, they should get over it too. My male roommate is very short, and recently told me to stop wearing 4" heels. I said no f-ing way.

I am just starting to assert my femininity and I'm sorry if it immasculates you. Not my problem.

So, just a rant to say, wearing heels makes me feel confident. I don't care about protecting the feelings of insecure boys any more.

I'm 6'0". I don't immasculate men, I make their penis disappear. :P

I guess I was lucky to find a guy only a mere inch shorter than me. I live in Miami, and most Hispanic men are shorter than other races.I am taller than most of the people here in general.

I would love to wear heels, but putting me at 6'3", I'd be afraid someone would call the police saying Godzilla has returned.

Original Post by greeneyedbellydancer:

As a tall girl, (I've been 5'8" since middle school), I've been conscientious of dwarfing guys. It makes them insecure when you're taller, so I have avoided heels. And, standing 6' tall in heels, i've just avoided them all together because it definitely draws attention! Most of my friends are 5'5"ish.

Lately. I don't care. I'm over it, they should get over it too. My male roommate is very short, and recently told me to stop wearing 4" heels. I said no f-ing way.

I am just starting to assert my femininity and I'm sorry if it immasculates you. Not my problem.

So, just a rant to say, wearing heels makes me feel confident. I don't care about protecting the feelings of insecure boys any more.

 Lol!  I understand!  I'm 5'9", so wearing heels makes me taller than everyone else.  However, my husband is only 6'0", and we're both not comfortable with me towering over him!

If I really wanted to wear heels I would, because I think they're super cute and really accent femininity!  It's out of pure lack of coordination that I don't wear them.  I'm likely to fall and break an limb if I even try - I've had a few close calls ;)

But, kudos to you!  :)

I always feel my hottest when I leave the salon after a trim.  I don't do much in the way of coloring or styling my hair, but I always have the stylist do a blow-out, and it always looks awesome.

Aside from that, and the occasional girly day, I don't really do much with myself, but I do feel it's important to at least make yourself presentable.  I feel naked without some form of eye makeup- just a little liner, a sweep of brown shadow, and a coat of mascara. 

I don't understand the women I see in the grocery store with their pajama bottoms on and their hair looking as though they didn't even brush it.  Not judging, or trying to suggest people need to dress up to go to the store... just saying it doesn't take much effort to pull on a nice-fitting outfit and run a comb through your hair before leaving the house.  

Me too!!!

Original Post by brtaylor:

I don't understand the women I see in the grocery store with their pajama bottoms on and their hair looking as though they didn't even brush it.  

 Well, keep in mind that when you see that, you may not be seeing them in their typical state.  They may just be getting over the flu and just need to pick up Nyquil and some soup. 

That being said, on a regular basis, I agree that there's really no reason to not be presentable.  Even when I'm in a hurry and have kids in tow, I still manage to run a brush through my hair before it goes up in a ponytail.

I agree! I mean, as much as I enjoy getting ready and looking nice, if I'm going to the store or the gym I'm not going to go through my regular routine and pull out all the stops!  However, I always brush my hair and teeth, wash my face, and make sure that even if I'm in my sweats they're not my ugliest pair and I at least kind of match! Lol. But I also don't go so far as to judge others and think that just because they may look like hell on their trip to Walmart, that's how they must always look!

On a regular basis, though, I just feel like I (along with everyone else) am always presenting myself.  There is only one opportunity for a first impression.  And I'm not one to care what other people think of me, yet I want people to know that I do care about how I present myself and that the effort is worth it for me to put my best foot forward.

I love makeup, but I think it should be something that's FUN, not something you NEED to leave the house or not feel ugly. I knew a girl who couldn't even run to the corner for milk without being fully made up, she was a mega-bundle of insecurities too.

I've also gone to the store in my pajama pants--usually if it's late, I discover I need something, but don't feel like getting fully dressed. Anyone who has a problem with it doesn't have to look at me.

P.S. -About the last line in the OP, "the way only women can"--you haven't seen some of the boys in some of the clubs I've been to!

Original Post by samantha81:

But I also don't go so far as to judge others and think that just because they may look like hell on their trip to Walmart, that's how they must always look!

 after being forced by a pharmacist to go into the pharmacy to pick up my pain meds an hour after getting four widsom teeth removed, i judge NO one on their appearance at a place like that :P

but i'm with you samantha! i LOVE being a girl! i love getting dolled up, i love make-up, and clothes, and doing my hair. that's not to say i don't feel beautiful completely natural, and some of my favorite pics of myself are from when i'm sans make-up doing something awesome like skiing or hanging at the beach.

but being dressed up and done up makes me feel good, and SASSY! (see avatar pic) :D

Original Post by santonacci:

Original Post by brtaylor:

I don't understand the women I see in the grocery store with their pajama bottoms on and their hair looking as though they didn't even brush it.  

 Well, keep in mind that when you see that, you may not be seeing them in their typical state.  They may just be getting over drinking too much don julio and just need to pick up Nyquil and some soup. 

bedit

coffincritter - LOL at your last statement!  I still maintain that, regardless of the men who try to pull of a feminine look, they still can't do it the way a woman can!  We're just born with something that men aren't, no matter how hard they try ;)

jules 817 - I'm with ya!  I love doing my hair and makeup in the morning.  I have to be at work by 7am everday, but even then - getting ready instead of sleeping for an extra 30 minutes is worth it to me!  I love what good makeup and cute clothes do for me, and I just feel better about myself all day :)

I just think women should flaunt what they have!  :)

I LOVE doing my hair and makeup and getting dressed up nice. When I'm wearing a nice pair of heels a great outfit my makeup looks good and my hair is cooperating, I feel great! I feel confident! And that is what makes me sexy! I don't dress for anyone but myself. The shirt I'm wearing...I like it, my haircolor I like it, straight hair...felt like wearing it straight...

I'll admit...I am always wearing either cover-up or foundation because I am insecure about my skin...there I said it...I'm insecure...since I turned 20 my skin has gone haywire on me. My teenage years my skin was great...turned 20 and my pms went crazy and so did my skin...I'm waiting for my BC to kick in and clear up my skin.

The whole sweats/ PJ's in public drives me crazy...I understand it might be a new mom who didn't have time to change or they might have been sick or whatever..however a lot of times in my classes I would have girls come in wearing sweats or pj bottoms and oversized sweatshirts and even slippers but have fully made up faces and their haid straightened perfectly. If you had time to do you hair and makeup you had time to pull on a pair of jeans. And if they are going for the "low matinence" look it only makes them look more high matinence because they took all that time to do their hair and makeup just to put on sweats.

I usually feel fake and uncomfortable when wearing make-up and nice clothes.  I wear jeans and a t-shirt every day.  Almost all of my t-shirts are grey or blue.  I do wear make-up once or twice a year some years but not regularly.  I have always wondered why a woman would want to spend money on make-up and then take the time to put it on just to walk out of the house.  Now I know.  It makes them feel good.  Lesson learned.  I will no longer assume that certain things make other women feel the same way as they make me feel.

Original Post by samantha81:

jules 817 - I'm with ya!  I love doing my hair and makeup in the morning.  I have to be at work by 7am everday, but even then - getting ready instead of sleeping for an extra 30 minutes is worth it to me!  I love what good makeup and cute clothes do for me, and I just feel better about myself all day :)

I'm the opposite.  I look better and feel better for those extra 30 minutes of sleep.  They make *far* more difference than any makeup ever could.  Which isn't to say I don't like cute clothes/jewelry.  It doesn't take any longer to put on cute clothes than uncute clothes.  But spending 30 minutes on hair/makeup when I could be sleeping?  Not going to happen.

Original Post by watergirl:

 Well, keep in mind that when you see that, you may not be seeing them in their typical state.  They may just be getting over drinking too much don julio and just need to pick up Nyquil and some soup. 

bedit

 I have never had a hangover from drinking Don Julio (more to the point, I think if one is drinking just to get drunk, DJ isn't the stuff for that).

On the other hand, one time after Soulard Mardis Gras during which I had one, or two, or three too many hurricanes, yeah, I didn't look so good shuffling through Walgreen's. 

susiecue - that's totally understandable.  I've already put a stop to fussing over my hair in the morning, which gives me an extra 30 minutes to sleep in the morning.  I've become quit the fan of a classy ponytail, and it gives me a chance to show off my graceful neck!  However, I love putting on my makeup in the morning!  It makes me feel good, and I love how some decently applied eye liner and shadow make my eyes pop! 

bikini_in_december - I can definitely relate.  In my teens acne was something I'd only heard of from my friends.  My skin was clear and pretty. But when I hit my twenties it's like my skin wanted to make up for lost time and then some!  I've had to go to dermatologists over the years, and been through tons of different products to find something that works for me!  My skin is a lot better than it used to be, but I still like the way a tastefully done layer of foundation makes it look.  Nothing cakey, but very smooth and flawless!

augustnkate - everybody has their own comfort zone!  You should be able to wear whatever makes you feel good about yourself, and not feel like you have to spend time and money turning yourself into someone you're not!  However, the times when you do dress up and make a little more effort - does it make you feel even the slightest bit more sexy?  :)

There's a woman I work with that has days where she dresses up more, and other days where she's more casual.  One day she curled her hair a different way than she had before, and everyone commented on how nice it looked. and  after that she did her hair like that everday!  She didn't change who she was, but worked with what she had, looked great, and even seemed to have just a touch more confidence!

And that's where I think we women have an edge.  We can switch between natural and sexy; we can wear high heels and make every guy in the room lose his composure at the sight of a defined leg; we can exude more confidence when we take pride in how we look!  And I love it!!