Envious of friends

For a lot of people, who they strive to look like are models and celebries. I'd be lying if I didn't admit to some influence on this part.

But for me, it's mostly real life people I see around me whom I find attractive and are definately jelaous of. My best friend is the same height, shoe, and bra size as me and in a lot of ways we have similiar physical traits but she's a good thirty pounds lighter than me.

I think having all these skinny friends and being so sick of seeing them prancing around in bikinis w/o me was what pushed me over the edge and formed what I want to look like in the end.

Thoughts, comments? I don't know really what I'm getting at here but uhh.. yeah!

I can relate.

One of my closest friends is super tiny and is absolutely gorgeous to top it off. She's probably an inch taller than me and at least weighs 10 pounds less than me. Her BMI probably qualifies her as being "underweight", but she's just really petite and has been that way all her life. I doubt she's ever weighed over 104 pounds.

I know that 100 pounds on my frame would probably look sickly, BUT I'm still envious of the way she looks.

My best friend is 2 days younger then me.

She's got a job, a boyfriend that she can actually talk to on a daily basis, a kickass family, super outgoing/total social butterfly and a super flat tummy.

You bet I'm jealous of that. But I know she's jealous of certain qualities I have.

I'm curvy as hell, I've got a pretty face, I do better in academics, I can perform athletically better then she can, and my family has done well traumatizing me so that I've creative and fun to be around.

It evens out. She's a big motivation for me to do my best, but I know my limits. I'm not her, and I'm glad! I'm pretty awesome as I am, and I'm loved by my friends the way I am. I love her the way she is and I don't think she should try to be like me either. We all have our strengths and weaknesses.

Just.. don't get too carried away. Comparing yourself to someone else can put an ugly jealousy battle in a friendship, and really kill your self-esteem along the way. Do your best, but just remember that you don't have your friend's DNA so you can't exactly look like her, even after you've lost weight.

I definitely know how you feel. I always have this unfortunate way of looking at what I don't have, even though I'm so blessed and lucky in so many ways.

I used to be so confident and not think about what other people care. This is the first time weight loss has actually worked for me and that's what makes me strive to go smaller and lighter.

Models/celebrities have this unreal factor about them. But when I have friends who are sticks and eat McDonald's at 2am, and then I see them prancing around in bikinis looking flawless, it seems more attainable to me. And even though I have to struggle to get there, looking at my friends makes it look like a possibility. Where as a model's body just seems imaginary to me.

If any of that made any sense at all

I definitely know how you feel. I always have this unfortunate way of looking at what I don't have, even though I'm so blessed and lucky in so many ways.

I used to be so confident and not think about what other people care. This is the first time weight loss has actually worked for me and that's what makes me strive to go smaller and lighter.

Models/celebrities have this unreal factor about them. But when I have friends who are sticks and eat McDonald's at 2am, and then I see them prancing around in bikinis looking flawless, it seems more attainable to me. And even though I have to struggle to get there, looking at my friends makes it look like a possibility. Where as a model's body just seems imaginary to me.

If any of that made any sense at all

Hey, yeh i know how you feel.

It tends to knock my confidence pretty badly that all my mates are pretty good looking and all thin and when i'm around them (even tho i'm only 20-25lbs overweight) i feel like i stick out like a sore thumb. Doesn't help that most of them can get gf's seemingly when they want either.

I'm just hoping that losing this weight will give me the boost of confidence that i need :)

i experience that a lot too, especially since my school is full of slim and fit girls. still, fret not. maybe there is something you can learn from them afterall.

one of my friend is really pretty and fit too. she practically eats anything she wants since she is in the school team and has to train regulary. however, i notice she does not eat the things she dont like. if she does not like an ice cream flavour, she will not eat that ice cream even if it is offered to her. i think this habit allow us to treat ourselves better and eat the food that are good for us, so maybe that is partly why she can maintain her weight easily.

i'm still trying to learn. it aint easy, but it can be done. we cannot change some things, but we can change other aspects. focus on what you can change and the positive actions you have taken instead. this is what matters, isnt it?

lastly, dont keep comparing yourself with your friends. sometimes overstressing yourself about that may lead to overeating and giving up altogether instead. we're all different, with different builds and sizes.  there are many people out there dealing with this, and we will all deal with it together and continue our journey on weight loss towards our goals. forward! (:

My best friend is ultra skinny, and a lot of my other friends are incredibly skinny as well. I don't know about all of their eating habits, but some of them eat like pigs. And I'm not saying that to be rude, its true! They can literally eat whenever, whatever. I don't think any of the them starve themeselves, that's just the way they are.

I know for SURE my best friend doesn't starve herself to be able to eat in front of people like that. I've seen her eat an entire cotainer of cookies I baked before, I see her eat her huge lunches everyday, I see her eat multiple sweets at a time, I've seen her after school snacks. She just doesn't gain weight. She can't.

It does make me jealous sometimes, that here I am trying and having to watch my weight, eat healthy, minimize my sweet intake, not take huge portions, etc. It's not really going to help though, is it (being jealous). I guess I just have to accept, and keep on working towards my goal.

Still, sometimes it just makes you o annoyed.

The other girls in my life are definitely the main factor of motivation, moreso then celebrities because they look good without the help of the money and personal trainers celebs have.  I am so utterly sick of being the "designated fat friend."  I honestly feel that because of my weight (which is only about 30 pounds more than all my other friends) they view me as no competition when we go out at night.  Not to mention how fed up I am with them grabbing their skin on their bellies and complaining they are fat when they look like they could afford to eat a cheeseburger. 

Wow, it's shocking to see how many of us have naturally thin friends. I think that the hardest part for me. I'm not JUST envious of thier bodies, I'm envious of thier lifestyles. I'm envious that I have to work EXTREMELY hard to lose the weight, and will continue to have to work hard to keep it off. I too watch my friends each Taco Bell after binge drinking in the wee hours of the morning, while I sit in the back thinking about how much I have to work out to burn the light beer I drank.

The only thing that keeps me going is thinking, after all this hard work during my weight loss, I can wear a bikini along side them. No more t-shirts over bathing suits, no more "slimming" one peices, no more humilation when I look at beach pictures and notice that I'm the same size as 2 of my friends. And I will tell you, when I'm thin, I will wear all the rocking clothes and look amazing in my new bikini! Just keep your eye on the prize and you'll feel much better.

me too!

i get rly mad when i c friends who eat just as much as me and exercise just as much as me just be so much thinner.

and i definitely work out so much more than a lot of my friends and still im bigger than them.

im stronger and have more stamina than them... but still. i want "the look".

even before my ed, I ate a lot better than my friends but was I the same sort of size as them[even though I'm shorter than all of them]. They eat like absolute pigs, they will eat absolutely ANYTHING! cake, ice-cream, mcdonalds pizza, you name it. but for how much they eat, they've barely gained at all.
They've all grown a little, being teenagers and all, but compared to how much they eat they're all pretty slim.
I'm recovering from an ed and I eat about the same as them now, and I've gained over 10lbs already, while they are still the same size.
It doesn't motivate me to be skinnier or anything, it just p***es me of that they can eat whatever and be totally fine with it. I ate a bowl of ice-cream the other day and I almost started crying. It's not fair :/

Yea, same here. I have never found models even pretty (not necessarily because they're too skinny - they just look so cold and dead anyway...), it's all the other girls around me. Anywhere I go I see these beautiful people and Im always wishing I could be like them.

Ever read any articles about model diets? Starvation diets. Once I heard of a model who lived on diet soda for weeks - maybe even longer. And sometimes the models just die of heart attacks and other complications related to starvation.

While my friends and people I know, they are skinny and eat pizza, McDonalds, candy and ice-cream. Theyre happy people. Now that's what Im really envious of - being thin AND happy AND healthy AND not dying of malnutrition.

I feel exactly the same!!!

one of my best friends is basically flawless-looking. and the worst part is that she pretty much always has been, lol. even in the awkward "growing up" stages she was still one of the prettiest girls in the class. she's 5'8"/5'9" (so yeah, a good 5 or 6 inches more than me), skinny, and NEVER breaks out. she's great at soccer. practically every guy is or has been in love with her at some point. and she can eat whatever she wants, without worrying about her weight. lately she's been saying "i need to lose weight/get in shape", but it's BS. though I will admit that she does tend to be a little more "skinny-fat" than toned, but still.

of course I'm jealous, but lately I've been noticing more of the good qualities I have. many people have said that I'm lucky because I'm tiny (and guys can pick me up, haha). I'm pretty petite, and I have a good body shape. I also have a little four-pack going on. and I have this ability to make people laugh no matter what. haha, but enough about me.

I don't let jealousy get the best of me. I realize that while she has her good qualities, so do I. We'll obviously never be the same so there's no point in dwelling on it.