Everyone needs someone to listen to them...

I think that everyone needs a shoulder to cry on or someone to just to listen to them for time to time..So I decide to start this thread to lend an ear to anyone who has any type of problems they need to just get off their chest..I am usually the person that everyone comes to when they need a helping hand, advice, etc.... So I am use to listening to alot of problems...We have to much going on in the world today and we don't need added stress in our lives..I recently became very stressed out about some things going on in my life and it took "one person" that took out the time  to listen to me vent about my frustration to help bring down my stress level..So here I am...

aww, thanks for this, i hope others will avail too.

well i dont want to say too much but recently two people that i know had bad things happen to their loved ones. now i am normally a very caring, giving person but the first thing that popped up in my mind when i heard about the sad incidents were how these two people were going to affect my life now. i felt like such a selfish person for thinking of that first.

but i know its just some way of protecting myself. i opened up to these two people, one a very very long time ago & the other just 2 years ago, but was pretty much backstabbed. they didn't do it maliciously, just very selfishly and in a manipulative way. its all pretty much in the past now, but what recently happened to them affects me in some ways. i have of course expressed my sorrow to these people but i guess im just afraid of opening up to them again.

I understand completely about being afraid to open up to people again..See I am the type of person that always gives my all in anything but usually I don't get that in return from people..I am always there for them but hardly can get the same in return.But I decided that I am just going to continue being me..Recently, I just tried to work things out with my dad again..Needlessly to say, we had a very strained relationship but through the advice of others, I decided to give it a try and work things out with him again..And its been almost two months now, and I am happy to say that things are going great between us now..We talk almost every weekend..So I understand about being afraid to open up again..If you do decide to go that route again, just make sure when and if the right time for you to do it..Besides, we are all human...lol..

Aren't you a sweetheart.  Well, my best friends/stepsister of 35 yrs doesn't call me back, I've call her 3 times in the last month or so and she doesn't bother. I've always been there to help her when she was sick and when I broke my leg last year she just wasn't any help at all but she has always been wrapped up in herself so I let it go. But I've been on summer vacation for 5 weeks and she hasn't called once. So I've decided to let go.    I've been sick alot lately and I have 20 people coming for picnic tomorrow mostly family /kids and my   basement /den flooded this afternoon and try to get everything dried out.   I have classes and a ton of homework this weekend.  I feel like everyone is asking too much from me and I have to too do much for everyone. My kids need to realize mom and day are getting older and we are getting tired.  My son wanted us to go to an amusement park next week with them (he wasn't paying for us) and I don't get paid during the summer.He said the grand child would like us to be there. I see her every week and we do lots of stuff with her. I think they would be better off taking her cousin so she could have a child to ride with.  I told him that I can't afford to spend money on a park /hotel and food to walk around a park. (which I have problem still walking because of leg) .  My hub and I decided to go away for a weekend outselves and see a play and play some golf.  I'm trying really hard to stop doing for everyone since there are so many of them and only one of me and when hub and I need anyone or anything can't get any help.   Okay ,I let it all out.   Now I can go cook the mac salad, mac and cheese, and potato salad, and pie for tomorrow.   My life need to slow down. : (

Exactly, you need sometime to yourselves..It is exhausting always doing for others and never doing for yourselves..Take a step back from time to time and take care of yourself.. I also have to take out time for me away from kids and hubby.. It is a great stress reliever when you give yourself a relaxing, much needed break..P.S. and it also helps you keep your sanity...