why is everyone so over-confident that i m going to regain my weight soon!!!!!

well, i m 5 feet 5 inches 30 years old, 4 years back my weight was 123 lb, after that i had a baby and my weight rocketet to 154 lb, 5 months back i joined calorie count, now after lot of hard work and determination my weight is 121lb, i m really proud of it, to reward myself i revamped my entire ward-robe, the problem area is that the moment any of my in-laws see me, they have a sarcastic smile on their face and they say lets see how long u r going to keep it off? infact some of them r having bets about how soon i m going to regain it back, some say in a sympathetic manner why did i bother to buy byself a new ward-robe since i m going to re-gain the weight really soon!!!!!

sometimes, these comments amuse me, sometimes i ignore them, some times i use this comments to motivate me to stay thin, sometimes i just loose patience GRRRRRRRRRRRRR,

has anyone else faced this situation , if yes how did u tackle this, because i m just tired of hearing these comments day in and day out.

Oh the in laws can bite you! I know from experience that my in-laws were evil manipulative and a major part of the reason I gained weight in the first place. They just don't want you to look any better than them. Show 'em up, girl! And I have a story for you to add to that! All my friends made a bet about 9 years ago how many months it would take for my boyfriend at the time (first one) to get sick of me and dump me... well guess what? Nine years later and I've been with the man ever since, and married for 3 now! Don't listen to em!

Maybe they think it is time for another grandchild and this is their way of dropping the hint.

1)  Use it to motivate you. Prove them wrong!

2)  It sounds like you may be blowing it out of proportion. I'm not saying I don't believe you (I do), but it will make you more aggravated if you let yourself believe it's mentioned more often than it is. They shouldn't have a reason to mention it very often.

3)  If you aren't exaggerating, maybe you are bringing it up too often and it's getting on their nerves. If you mention your weight loss or your new wardrobe all the time, then it may seem like your bragging and rubbing it in other people's faces. This could be causing them to insult you. It's perfectly okay to be proud, but take other people's feelings into consideration as well.

I'm not trying to insult you, but I feel it's important to take both sides into consideration and these are things to consider. I hope you don't take it the wrong way.

Congratulations on getting back in shape!!! I'm the same height as you and am currently trying to lose lingering baby weight from my second child.

 What eva said!

I know it's probably easy for me to say, but try not to let it get to you.  If it gets too bad, could you ask your husband to talk to his family and ask them to stop?

Do they know what you did to lose the weight?

 Remember a lot of people you come across who are fighting to lose weight are usually doing a fad diet like Atkins, Cambridge, Lighterlife, The Cabbage Soup or some other super x ab ripping hip blasting bum lifting diet.  It’s commonly known that most people who undertake these diets lose a lot of weight then put it all back on as soon as the diet’s finished.  That’s probably the angle your inlaws are coming from.

 Ignore them, you feel good and look good and that’s all that matters!

Some people can't help being life's Statler and Waldorfs.... the grumpy old men in the balcony on the Muppet Show making rude remarks about the acts.   Who knows? If life's quiet, winding up the daughter-in-law could be their only form of entertainment.... it happens.

I wouldn't respond if I were you because that'll only encourage them   The best reponse is staying a healthy weight. 

tell them you've done a good job so far, and would they like you to tell them how you did it so they could look as good as you do now?? ..... they might not be so smug!!

on the other hand, might not help the situation much either!!

if they say it again, perhaps question them?? ..... 1) what do you mean put the weight on?? 2) do you doubt me??  3) remind them you are setting good examples for your child, and would they kindly be supportive of that??

although jazz, i don't have in laws,  partner or a child, so perhaps listen to the other posters!! 

good luck :o)

keep up with ur work out to prove them wrong.. i hate when people take the joy out of something you have done.. you should be very proud of yourself!!!! screw them

thanks for all ur replies, trust me i never bragged in front of anyone about how i did it, because it was my personal battle, well i think i will ignore their comments,

well i think as trhawley said may be its their way of hinting at another grand-child, well i and my hubby have decided that we r going to wait for some time, well i will remain dumb for the time being, and use their SWEET comments to motivate me.

thanks once again

People like that irk me!  I just cannot for the life of me understand why some people have to be so hateful to others.  I compare hurtful comments like the ones your in-laws are saying about your weight loss (congrats!!  ) to saying "Oh, your cancer is in remission, but you know, it's going to come back again!".  WTF?!?  And no, I have never heard anyone say something like that, but to me, they are just as hurtful.

You just keep doing what you're doing and stay positive!  (easier said than done, I know).  They're just jealous!

If they are betting on you to gain it back, place your bet with them too! Take their money when they lose the bet and buy SOME MORE new clothes! Congrats and keep it off!

Original Post by carolann5111:

If they are betting on you to gain it back, place your bet with them too! Take their money when they lose the bet and buy SOME MORE new clothes! Congrats and keep it off!

I like this idea, lol...ask them to agree to a deadline date ~ say, one year from today ~ and bet $$. Then, when you reach the date, barring another pregnancy of course , hold them to it! Every one who has made a disparaging remark about your gaining it all back has to pay up, treat you to a lunch, a new pair of jeans, an "afternoon out", or w/e.

Make them accountable! Make it all in good fun so there are no hard feelings, lol, but let them know that you mean business!

Original Post by littlesimongeorge:

Do they know what you did to lose the weight?

 Remember a lot of people you come across who are fighting to lose weight are usually doing a fad diet like Atkins, Cambridge, Lighterlife, The Cabbage Soup or some other super x ab ripping hip blasting bum lifting diet.  It’s commonly known that most people who undertake these diets lose a lot of weight then put it all back on as soon as the diet’s finished.  That’s probably the angle your inlaws are coming from.

 Ignore them, you feel good and look good and that’s all that matters!

I guess sometimes we forget that those of us who choose to lose weight slowly in a healthy manner are in the minority.  I saw a friend I hadn't seen in awhile at a small party, and he commented on my weight loss.  Later in the evening, when I cut myself a slice of cake, he said, "You shouldn't be eating that after all the weight you've lost!"  I informed him that I have been eating cake the entire time I've been losing weight (in moderation, obviously).  But I guess he just assumed that I must have crash dieted to lose the weight, and that if I went back to eating "normally," it would all come back.

However, just because most people who lose weight do put it back on doesn't make it acceptable for your in-laws to make such hurtful and disparaging comments.  Honestly, I don't care what their intentions were; that's just rude!

I agree .  Get in on the bet.  If they are going to speculate, you might as well make some money on it.

Getting in on the bet is the best idea I've heard all day. I bet your suggesting that might actually shut them up. Jealous people really suck.