Ok, I am the mother of a sweet 15 yr old girl. She informed me that someone created a hateful and evil profile of her on myspace. I checked it out, and was sickened by what I saw and read. They took a picture of her and drew obscenties all over it. They wrote unspeakable things about her. I have been awake since 5 this morning, just sick to my stomach.
My question is....do I have any recourse besides having myspace remove the profile? I am so mad and just physically sick about it.
Any of you techies have any ideas as to finding out who did this? Any help or ideas are appreciated.
2nd update- I just got a call from the det. working the case. He informed me that he is subpoening myspace, then will subpoena the provider for IP address and then go after them! He told me that it is punishable by a $2000 fine and up to a year in jail. I know this is a kid, and told him I did not want them to go to jail, and he said that more than likely it would be a fine and probation. AND he will tell us who did it, which is what we really want to know considering they said that they are "friends" with her and will laugh because she will never know who did it. Just wanted to let everyone know that there is justice and let this be a warning to all the kids out there who think something like this is "fun". I am sure their parents will be delighted.
It seems like the polilce are moving fairly quickly on this and I'm glad to hear it. It's such a serious offense.
I'm also happy to hear that your daughter made student council. Congrats to her.
I hope this is all over shortly so you can both get some closure and move on with your normal lives. =)
That's great to hear...I can't stand myspace I've heard so many bad things about it.
:o You mean there are police out there who actually do their jobs? Hurrah!
In all seriousness, I'm sorry about what happened to your daughter, but I'm glad to hear how well she's taking it and that you've made progress with tracking down the culprit(s).
Keep us informed?
been working hard and have not been on CC for awhile. i read all 3 pages and have to say "good for you" they wont think it is sooo funny now will they? your daughter probably has updated the culprit and she is praying daily that somehow she will not be found out. haha.
my daughter is 15 and has a myspace. i too told her the only way she could have one is if i made up one too and we would be friends. we are the BEST of friends. hahaha not really. i wish though. this is a hard time for her right now. trying to fit in and not thinking she does. friends making BAD choices and her joining in and getting in trouble. she is on her 2nd 1 month "groundation" like that? she invented a new word.
anyway, i keep tabs on that site and if she lets a "friend" in that is over 16, i email them and tell them to get lost. i have b&tched out old men and told them to not talk to my daughter and no she doesn't want to be your friend!! i then made her change her profile to "private" i also wont let her change her age. she had it set at 99. i found out that is how older people can look in on her. so i had her set it back to 15.
the good part is that myspace is very easy to work with. they understand and apparently do not want to be sued anymore. i had my daughters profile deleted 3 times and she had to start up a new one each time. the 1st time she deleted me as a friend. didn't like me watching what she and her friends were doing/saying. 2nd time a friend 18 years old showed up. a boy. the 3rd and last time, a friend asked her to "smoke out".
she may not like it and calls me "crazy" but whatever. i told her that my number one job is to love her and my second job is to protect her and i plan on doing them both to the best of my ability. so she can make it an easy 3 years or hard ones it's up to her but i'm not giving up or backing down.
good luck to you.
being a mother of teenage girls has got to be a point towards sainthood!!
Kat
Like you Kat, I have done all the same steps. Her real age is stated and the profile has always been set to private. I laid all the ground rules when she started it up a year ago or so.
We can't protect them from everthing though, can we? The very worst part of the whole deal, is this is someone knows and trusted. They mentioned several key pieces of info. about her that only friends know, so this makes it even sadder.
As soon as I find out more info. I will let you guys know!
seeing as I see you floating around the forums cnj, any word on this situation yet? Is your daughter doing ok?
Not yet, the detective said it could take awhile. I promise to keep everyone updated when I find out something new. Thanks for inquiring!
UPDATE:
Just wanted to let everyone know that it is a done deal. I got a call from the det. yesterday and they have identified that little ****. It is someone my daughter knows, but not too well. (we were worried this was someone who was acting like her best friend.)
He had informed me it was a felony and asked me what I wanted to do. After giving it serious thought, I came to the conclusion that this girl is an idiot who made a bad decision and thought she could get away with it. Well, he told me it could go so far as jail/probation. I did not and do not want to ruin someone's life, just let them know that they cannot get away with this, so I told him that I wanted the parents notified and a written apology to my daughter. He told me he would call the parents to the station and tell them what she had done, that it was a felony, and thanks to my gracious nature she is escaping serious repercussions.
So, I feel that this is good news. The police actually did something about it. The detective told me I have up to two years to prosecute if it continues or anything else happens. I just felt that this kid, who is only 15, made a mistake, and hopefully her parents will discipline her in an appropriate way. I did not want her to have something damaging on her record that could hurt her in the long run, I just wanted her to know that this was serious.
Good for you, Christie. That's great. :D
Hopefully someone learns a lesson here.
What a great Mom you are! Your daughter is very blessed to have you.
When I was 15, people didn't care about what other people said about them on the internet. Times sure have changed...
I guess what I'm trying to say is that I really don't see why this is a big deal. I can see it from the perspective of a parent concerned for her child, but I can't see myself, putting myself in the victim's shoes, really worrying about it. I was a victim of a couple of pranks myself my freshman year, but people stopped doing them to me because I didn't care. The people who liked me didn't care and the people who laughed at me didn't like me anyway. So I never let it bother me.
And in my highschool experience, most of the drama that occurred didn't amount to a hill of beans three or four weeks after it happened. And it definitely didn't matter once I graduated.
Sure, the concept of people being all over the world being able to see these negative statements being directed at you might seem sort of spooky at first, but the more you think about it, the less it matters. To name one reason, how many people in the world know you/care about your existence? Sure some guy in the UK might laugh his butt off at a hate page directed at you, but he doesn't know you and probably will never meet you. He isn't laughing at you personally, he's laughing because "some girl in America got played." He is laughing at the prank, not you.
Anyway, I kind of rambled/soapboxed, but I think your daughter will benefit from reading this post.
Well, Ness, it bothered me more than it did her. If you have read all the posts from the beginning, this was someone who knows her, and sent friend requests to all of her friends from this evil profile. She did not just post something evil, she sent it to all of her friends to defame her. That was totally over the line and unacceptable in my book.
If it really was something horrible enough for cnjjeanmard to be upset enough about to want to take action against, I'm sure it's more than a few capslocked lol-statements for petty giggles. Too much is happening with MySpace these days, people are killing themselves and getting killed over what goes on with that website. What if her daughter had overdosed on something as a result of this event? Would that make it right for the police to be involved? What if after this profile was created and deleted another one popped up, and then another, and then another, and then threats ensued and her daughter had to now live in fear? Then it would be fine for the police to be involved?
Why let it get to that step. I still firmly believe kids, especially teenagers who think nothing can happen to them because they're stupid teenagers, should be punished for their actions and realise the severity of the situation.
And now I'll step down off my soap box.
Just read every post and I think that you are a wonderful mother and i just hope that this little brat doesnt have horrible parents that just blow it off and don't let her know how lucky she is that you are not putting her in jail. These types of parents are out there and if her parents have a " don't give a damn attitude" I worry about this girls future...
anyway I am glad you got this fixed!
