Exercising Restraint
I brought the junk food into the house instead of my too frequent trips down to the gas station a couple of blocks away with my rendevous with the brownies. Can I resist? I lost 80 lbs on my own 10 years ago staring down the candy jar at work and a plethera of fast food/nice dining within a mile.
I have been really uncomfortable physically and highly annoyed with some things going on. I chose to take a break from a few of the people I was dealing with and suspend most of the outside activities in which I was involved.
I guess I need to deal with a whole new set of people who treat people like they would like to be treated but this is not the norm a lot of the time even in the religious circles that preach this behavior. With people I have known for a while, I can passively ignore a few things that annoy me and see what happens. This kind of stuff has never happened to me before on this scale so I'm really unsure how to respond. I always avoided the people that always had to put someone down to make themselves feel special. These are some of the people portrayed on television and I really feel should be an example of how not to act. What is a normal, well adjusted person who has been through enough to be scarred up on the inside to do?
Can anyone relate to thinking I should eat something and my stomach starts growling, having difficulty sleeping at night so I visit the fridge or making a decision or thinking and I start to feel hungry?
I'm still losing weight at the moment because I'm at 229 and pretty physically active keeping up the house and yard but when winter sets in, it gets more difficult. (This isn't sports injury pain and the doctors can't find anything wrong and will not even return phone calls.)
Original Post by miss_cas:
I brought the junk food into the house instead of my too frequent trips down to the gas station a couple of blocks away with my rendevous with the brownies. Can I resist? I lost 80 lbs on my own 10 years ago staring down the candy jar at work and a plethera of fast food/nice dining within a mile.
I have been really uncomfortable physically and highly annoyed with some things going on. I chose to take a break from a few of the people I was dealing with and suspend most of the outside activities in which I was involved.
I guess I need to deal with a whole new set of people who treat people like they would like to be treated but this is not the norm a lot of the time even in the religious circles that preach this behavior. With people I have known for a while, I can passively ignore a few things that annoy me and see what happens. This kind of stuff has never happened to me before on this scale so I'm really unsure how to respond. I always avoided the people that always had to put someone down to make themselves feel special. These are some of the people portrayed on television and I really feel should be an example of how not to act. What is a normal, well adjusted person who has been through enough to be scarred up on the inside to do?
Can anyone relate to thinking I should eat something and my stomach starts growling, having difficulty sleeping at night so I visit the fridge or making a decision or thinking and I start to feel hungry?
I'm still losing weight at the moment because I'm at 229 and pretty physically active keeping up the house and yard but when winter sets in, it gets more difficult. (This isn't sports injury pain and the doctors can't find anything wrong and will not even return phone calls.)
Yes you can resist the junk foods and such. Get them out of your home so you dont see them.
Your post left me with several thoughts, but one overwhelming one.....you are obviously having difficulty in this particular time in your life. Have you thought of talking with a therapist? Emotional eating will do nothing but make you sad in the long run.
If something is bothering you with your circle of friends/colleagues, dont retreat to your home and give up your activities....deal head on with the problem. You are avoiding the issues and it obviously is spilling into your psyche...you are having problems sleeping.
Please learn an effective way to deal with this. Eating is not the answer. Learning new tools and empowering yourself is the answer.
Now you have a choice....it's up to you to decide what to do.
Good luck....I've been there many years ago and thankfully learned to empower myself. It can be done.
I found yoga a huge help dealing with all kinds of issues. Find a yoga studio (not gym yoga--there is a difference). There are several aspects to yoga...it is a great workout and will make you strong and flexible. You can do yoga at any weight, shape, or size. It can help with stress and pain management--including fibromyalgia. You can do it year-round. It teaches you to breathe. It helps you realize that the only person you can countrol is you...live in the moment...let things go... don't sweat the small stuff, and everything is the small stuff. I could go on and on.... but seriously, you can meet new, like-minded people in the yoga studio. Friends come into your life for different reasons. Some are there for awhile when you need them (a reason), or a season, and others last a life-time. Either way is okay. Good luck!
Thank you for the advice. I used to deal with some anxiety from a very stressful job with meditation and yoga but am now almost unable to enjoy it. The only therapist in town my insurance will place me with just bugs me. I am not an overly sensative person, I have been treated pretty badly most of my life by family and strangers...being passive actually saved my life. If someone had a problem with me, I chose not to deal with them as I am not a masochist and really don't care what they think. I have been told I am not assertive enough. When I chose to be more assertive for a while and I was being treated like I was a b----. I have talked to countless medical doctors for an explanation and tried a plethera of treatments, my problem is incurable and does not respond to any treatment or medication.
I have empowered myself over and over to solve my problems and failed 13 times. I was a successful enough person before my medical problem started.
There is just more involved for me than a lot of regular people. I know the situation only gets worse and more complicated, that's life. I just have to adjust. I got rid of the ice cream the wrong way and I should be sick of it now. I know not to keep it in the house but my neighborhood has so many diet 'inconvenient' options to break the rules...it gets difficult.
Original Post by miss_cas:
it gets difficult.
It's always difficult. No-one's life is a bed of roses, I don't care who they are. Stress is ever present. Nasty people are ubiquitous... you don't have to be sensitive to find them offensive. And even if you're scarred on the inside you can still choose how to behave on the outside.
Maybe you don't need a therapist. But I think you need to separate 'sorting out your problems' from 'living healthily'. Healthy eating and exercise is something you can do regardless of what else is happening around you. You can almost treat it as an oasis of calm in an otherwise horrible world. Something you do for yourself that doesn't involve other people at all - a nice, private pastime or a hobby from which you can derive personal satisfaction and self-respect. That's rather how I see it.
Good food and exercise act as mood-enhancers. Getting lighter should hopefully reduce any aches and pains and give you more energy. This won't solve your problems but it could make you better able to cope, could help you sleep better, all kinds of things. It won't keep you away from the fridge in the middle of the night either but that's something you have to work out for yourself.
Good luck
