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I just wanted to say being in middle school and not being thin is one of the hardest things i think there is. I dont have a lot of life experience but my battle to be thin is so hard. It is so hard to watch all of the guys drool over the popular skinny, big boobed girls. I have friends, i have guy friends, but i cant begin to explain what i would do to be popular and skinny like them. I cant help think why me. Why didnt she get this extra weight, why doesnt she have to deal with this, worry about what she eats, dread pool parties, or feel insecure. Why doesnt she have to work out and not get to eat seconds. its not fair and i no im just complaining and this is a small problem compared to someone paralyzed or who has like a retarded child but its not fair. Life isnt fair and that sucks.
I teach middle school and I really know what you mean. It probably doesn't help to know that the guys in middle school are SO much less mature than the girls. I mean, they are walking idiots with hormones who still tackle each other and steal each other's baseball hats! I can't tell you how EMPTY some of these girls are, and how unhappy they are, despite their being thin. So I guess what I'm saying is if you can take even a minute each day to be glad you are the cool you, you will begin to notice that you feel a little better, maybe you don't envy the skinny girls. I don't know what your particular weight challenge is. I'm an excessive eater myself, but whatever your challenge, you can address it and still be the fun, sweet, interesting person you are.
Thank you
but they are soo lucky and the skinny big boobed girls are what the guys want
but i will keep tryin and being myself
i know exactly how you feel and you are completly right, its not at all fair. i've been struggling with my weight for the greater portion of my life and i'm convinced that when you are the kind of person who gains weight easily it is a constant struggle and is never going to be easy. but i've been both the overweight girl and the skinny girl (thanks to eds) and i have to tell you that life is never easy, skinny or fat. i still hated my body when i was 115 pounds. i was being ridiculous of course, but the thing is, if you dont learn to really love yourself for who you are now its not going to happen even if you weigh 98 pounds and have dd's. trust me girl, what you do now is totally gonna determine who you are when you get to that goal weight. i nearly killed myself trying to be skinny, and the end result was me looking great and still seeing the same fat girl when i looked in the mirror. that kind of thing will make you miss out on alot. just know that you will get to your goal weight and keep trying. never want to be those skinny girls. just want to be a better, healthier version of you.
i feel exactly the same. i'm 14 (graduating middle school this year) and all of my friends are beautiful, beautiful people and i always feel like the one who doesn't belong. i hate how my guy friends have all had a crush on at least one of the girls in our group, but i'm never that girl. for grad this year we're going to...wait for it...THE BEACH! where i'm gonna have to go swimming, thunder thighs and all. fabulous. i'm gonna be that slightly larger, uglier girl next to the pretty people in the facebook photos. Know what's even worse? how for some reason all of my friends are obsessed with weight. it dominates our conversations. what really sucks is that they eat crap all day while i eat healthy food ( i luv healthy food though) and they're all smaller than me. it's kind of ironic how i'm thinking of becoming a nutritionist, yet i'm having trouble losing 10 lbs. yes, yes i chortle at myself. =)
Life is difficult and one cannot begin to try to understand everyone's daily life struggles. Just know that you are wonderful and unique. If you are eating healthy and staying active (Key) you will find yourself becoming that popular girl because you will be meeting people and making friends with people who have the same interests as you. I find people who obsess about their weight have a hard time losing it or atleast recognizing the progress they are making. Don't get me wrong, I am all for watching what you put in your body and I joined this site to help me become leaner and more fit. I think this site is a good place to get a handle on what it is that you do put in your body. If you are fit and strong and follow a well balanced diet you should be happy - perhaps those skinny girls are struggling the same way you are with their image. Good luck in High School and stay healthy.
Not all the skinny girls are happy. I'm sure your personality is unique and you have a lot of other unique qualities about you. You don't want a guy who judges you soley on appearance anyway. When you get older you'll realize that.
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