Family pressures, need advice!!

I am feeling discouraged.

I feel the pressure to be so much smaller. I grew up in a family where I was always the biggest one.  Even when I was at 105 my mom told me I was too heavy.  Now at 116-119 depending on the day I feel like CRAP! Last time I went to see my mom she asked if I was pregnant.

This sucks, I don't want to get caught up in the weight obsession like my whole family (my sister is 20 5'7" and only 108 lbs, my mom is 45 5'6" and 110 lbs, still trying to lose), but I feel like it is some kind of competition that I am always loosing.  I have got myself to a place where all I can think about is how I shouldn't be eating and I feel disgusted everytime I eat something. 

Although I admit I could stand to lose about five lbs, I do not think I'm over weight!  How can I get out of this mindset and be happy with my body again? Any advice is appreciated.

I don't have any advice, but you have all my sympathy. What a horrible situation to be in. Family time should be when you can relax and enjoy yourself. You get enough shallow judgment from strangers and peers, you don't need it from your family too.

I'm not sure if anything can be done to change their attitudes, but for what it's worth, you sound perfect to me.

i second that, you sound perfect & definitely definitely not overweight.

you should feel good about yourself, i know family are important and the things your mother says seem to be very hurtful. have you shared with her how she makes you feel? is it worth having that talk?

if your happy with you then thats what matters.  

Focus on your health and well being rather than some ridiculous standard set by your family. Sometimes it seems hard to accept, but they are far from perfect too, and their mindset that you are describing sounds wrong and dangerous.

Maybe you could take up some sort of sport to tone your body? I have personally found that staying active gives my body a much better shape, and I am so pleased with it that weight is just a number on a scale to me now.

Turn the tables on your family.   Next time they bring up your weight, take out a bunch of articles on anorexia and ask them about their weight telling them that you are concerned about their health.

AS stated above focus on your health and being fit.  Eat healthy foods and don't let them get to you.

Like any habit that we would like to change, it takes time and commitment.  To change your mindset, it just like regular exercise program but for your mind.  And you noticed I said regular not obsessive.  You already have the best part done already, you acknowledge and accept that what you and your family have is unhealthy obsessive, competition of whose the thinniest and weight idea.  Now the fun part begins with your positive outlook that you are not overwieght and you want to be healthy and happy.  Bumming yourself out over what you shouldn't be eating is absurd.  Think about how this website can help with healthy safe choices of food to eat, and quit the not eating crap.  Remember our bodies are made to eat.  We can not function properly without it.  Everytime you miss meals, you are depriving your body of essential fuel. 

To change the mindset, every morning say to yourself you are the best judge of what your body weight should be and not a national weight scale or your family should tell you what you should way to be a happy, healthy you.

Next when you eat, think how you are making healthy food choice and how your body is using it as fuel not just something to get rid of.

If you make a bad food choice, it ok too, just not all the time.  Reward yourself.  Dont beat yourself up and get back on track aftwards. 

We are all in the same boat, we are struggling with our thoughts of what we want our bodies to be and what they are, but we shouldn't be letting others make us feel bad about ourselves.  Don't give that power.