Are there any fat chicks out there who think they're Hot?

I know I do:) I hope no one takes offense to the term "fat chick", but anywho... I've been heavy my entire life, got teased as a kid, the whole 9. But somehow, I never let that effect the way I saw myself. Since i was a teenager, i always thought I looked pretty good, despite being bigger than the other girls. I Loved buying clothes, and wearing makeup, getting my hair done, etc. and you couldnt tell me I didnt look good! Now of course, I've always realized that there were many out there who would not appreciate my beauty, but oh well, i just tried to tune them out. I'm writing this because I am so sick of reading posts where people think they're hideous just because they're fat, or their life is miserable and they cant breath again (like that old Toni Braxton song) until they loose like 50lbs. It almost makes me feel like- if you're hideous at 160- I should kill myself! Now dont get me wrong, i realize that weight loss is important for health, and will make most people look better- its just that in the meantime, I think we should appreciate ourselves more. Know that you ARE FABULOUS NOW- and will be even more so when u trim down a bit. Vanity should not be for thin folks only.  Oh well- this is just my rant for tonite. If you're big and sexy- Holler back!

I agree with baby-creature..I don't look good when I gain weight. But then again, I have never been above the weight in my pictures, and I am about 6 pounds lower than that now...but my self esteem is stupid. I have hated myself for so long and I'm really sick of it. So thanks for this awesome post!

I totally feel hot - then I look in the mirror & come crashing back to reality - but I tend to ignore that, so yea, I'm totally cute!!!
I really hate the whole thin=beautiful mindset.  I saw someone on tv & thought they looked big, but it turned out they were a size 12.  12!!  What I wouldn't give to be that **small**!!  But it looked big on tv & that made me sad!
Shakti & Baby-creature: Do you eve carry on a conversation at yourself, and laugh at something you said? I do that constantly and {after making fun of myself for talking to myself & actually laughing out loud about it} realize that I'm a funny girl & that I LOVE talking to me! That was a big first step in self esteem. Go with what's on the inside FIRST - the outside follows!!!

I agree, some people can be fat or skinny and look great.  I gained and now I look dumpy.  Clothes don't fit right and face looks too fat.  I would trade in my bigger boobs and hips for thin and firm anyday. 

As for black women having higher self esteem, it is probably very true.  I saw a documetary on this a while back and black women are more comfortable in their bodies.  Hell, I have met more white women with low self esteem then black women.  I don't know why, but it is just the way it is.

Now as far as men liking this and that better, I don't care!  I want to weigh what makes me feel better.

Wow- I took a break this weekend and came back and saw all these responses! I'm glad so many of us feel good about ourselves, and those who dont- keep working on it!

I feel hot! ^__^ I'm an African American girl too and at times, it does feel like we have more self esteem. But when I was little, my self esteem was as low as it could get. But it slowly crept up as I got older, had more maturity, and met better friends who love you no matter how big or small you are, which is very good!

Usually when I'm in a good mood, I feel cute. Sometimes I feel down on myself, but that's usually because I'm in a bad mood or I have PMS or something lol but overall I'd say I'm a spicy hot tamale! *sizzle*

I look fabulous, thin or fat.
Vain me? yes. ;)

Yeah, I feel gorgeous most of the time (I have my bad days). I and I think I keep getting prettier as I get older. Is that possible (?).

Geeze, you guys....now you have my brain just a buzzin!!  I've been reading all of your posts, and you know what?  They are JUST as inspiring as the posts from the ladies/men who have lost their weight and met their goal!  So now I'm thinking....

What if...now, stay with me here....what if a girl just decided to LOOK good.  By that I mean...the hair...the make-up....the skin....and ate well, and tried to be active..?  Regardless of the weight?  I wonder.  I feel "pressure" all the time to watch what I'm eating, etc.....and sometimes I wonder if the pressure itself is holding me back.  Hmmmmm.  I bet you'd lose weight, you know....if you concentrated as much on LOOKING good and FEELING good as you do on eating healthy.....just a thought....?

....bump.....really want some feedback on this....

Oh I know I'm to sexy for my body:-) My hubby tells me this every day. I look at life this way, I don't care what other people think...

Laurie,

I think that's definetly the best way to go about it... you want to focus on EVERY aspect of yourself getting better, physically, emotionally, physocologically, alllll of that stuff!

I have always thought that I looked pretty good.  I know I looked better 10 years ago.  The weight kinda snuck up on me slowly.  I had a big reality check after baby #2.  I've only been on CC for 2 weeks but knowing that I'm making a conscious effort at being healthy everytime I eat has helped so much.  My husband thinks I'm hot and tells me that often.  That always helps.

for what it is worth...

I am the mother of seven, four adopted, three by birth. Of these three are girls ranging in age from 20 (white) 16 (AA) and 15 white/Native). My beautiful AA dd has the stereotypical AA body (if there is such a thing). Big bootie, small waist, bigger boned. And she is stunning. She has NO issues with her weight or size. Both of my white DDs are similar in their levelof self confidence. My birth DD (20yo, is an athlete and carries a ton aof muscle. She has alwyas been proud of how she isis strong and how she looks. Mostly, though what comes across is her own belief in herself. my youngest, also adopted, has many mental health issues but none so far related to weight or size.

It's mom who is currently OCDish regarding her weight and size, lol. I guess I was able to raise my girls with enough self esteem that that size is not an issue for them. My boys actually preger girls with (as my son puts it) some meat on them. No skinny chicks for any of them (they are 18, 17, and 17 (twins!)).

BTW, I quit the laxatives cold turkey and instead have found a dietry supplement for colon health that is gentle, effevtivea and natural. I can say that losing weight, while very satisfying, is not the panacea to internal happiness. Yes, I feel physically better and for me more attractive on the outside. The inside still needs a TON of work.

Louise.

I feel like like I'm hot big or medium I have'nt been small since I was a kid. I normally always feel sexy. except recently I went to a motorcycle show and their were all these 20 something girls that had great bodys and I started doubting myself. So I decided to lose weight so I wouldn't feel depressed again over something I can fix. But I'm foxy.

Wow!

Rainbownine- that is cool. I totally believe confidence begins at home with positive reinforcement.

Laurie Laurie- i agree with you totally. A well rounded approach to beauty and well being is best. I have everything but the diet and fitness areas down! trying to work on those now:)

I'm just starting to get to the point where I can say I feel like a hot mutha of three!

I used to consider a myself a "big" girl until I met one of my best friends a couple of years ago.

This is a skinny little guy who was trying to tell me he was only attracted to "big girls".  I asked, "Oh, like me?"  His eyes widened.  "Gain fifty pounds, and we'll see."

I was 180 at that point, and I couldn't believe it.  But yeah, there are some guys who are all about big women, like the friend I was describing.  Even my dad, who's a total health nut, has a huge crush on Sarah Rude (the redhead from "Almost Perfect").

That girl from that show has lost a lot of weight now though.

Yeah she did, she lost tons of weight and cut her hair and bleached it blond.

She looked FAR better bigger and as a redhead.

Now she just looks like every other skinny, blonde floozy in hollywood.

(Not that I think that some skinny, blonde women aren't beautiful... it's just... appreciate what make you unique!)

I personally think she took it too far.

Yeah!  I have only been a member since yesterday, but I was afraid I was the only "fat chick" who felt she was fabulous!  And I don't want to be a skinny minny either!