Am I fat?!?!?

I am getting really sick of and fed up with these post from young, too thin ladies asking "am I fat?" or "how much do you think I weigh?" 

the next time, I'm gonna tell a skinny 13 year old she looks 185. Just to do it. Because its simple attention seeking behavior and I'm sick of it.

Yeah you are fat ! ha ha

I know what you mean .

I wouldn't be so quick to point out faults in others when you don't know what they are experiencing. It might sound like attention seeking behavior but many girls have psychological issues with this and actually imagine themselves as larger than they are. For every person that is looking for attention is someone who is seriously struggling with it.

Don't assume.

1. You have no idea what's going on there. None. If that girl hasn't eaten in a week, you've just made it two.

2. Do what the rest of the site does; call them out on it.

3. You were a kid once, too. Give them some slack.

I think I understand your feelings but I don't believe its just attention seeking behavior.

Don't you remember how insecure you could feel when you were a teen?

I totally remember being an insecure teen, but i never went up to people (especially relative strangers), and asked "Am I fat?".  Its just becoming more and more prevalent on these boards, and I think behavior like this 1. goes against everything CC is here for. This is a forum and site based on healthy behaviors, not selfish, immature whims of children.  2. I think its a detriment to those of us who are genuinely trying to improve our overall health and fitness to see people who could honestly gain weight calling themselves fat.

If you have nothing nice to say... you should say nothing at all.

It's ok I understand how you feel. I remember how I felt except I would never do that because it's asking for people to ridicule you. If you're fat and 13 you know you're fat. If you're not, you also know you're not fat, you're just insecure. I don't know I'm heartless.

I have to say that I understand those feelings. *w*

Rarely has anyone ever had a problem when they start their post with "am I fat?" It's usually someone asking for an extra boost to their confidence. I've seen the few posts that really are people who have E.D. signs need help, and they get their help. It's usually not even a question, people know they need help...but I've also seen three times as many "Lolz, imma 13 yr girl, 4'9 and 90 pondz! I feelz so fat. you guyz thik im fat?"

I know that people say to not judge, everyone has their own struggle, but after seeing so many fake poseters, it's easy to become jaded.

I ignore these posts and let someone else jump down their throats. ;)

I appreciate the range of responses to this. This post was not meant to be offensive, simply a mode of venting.

I think you need to be mindful that a lot of young people who are underweight honestly look in the mirror and see a fat person.  I know as someone truly over weight it can be very frustrating and annoying but remember they are just as unhappy with themselves and view themselves as just as repulsive as us who are overweight might.

They might be anorexic and they still see nothing but fat in the mirror and if you watch something like 90210 you can understand why, the girls are stick people.

I tend to feel sorry for skinny people who ask if they are fat as it just tells you how little self confidence they have and how unhappy they are and it tends to make me feel good as I have loads of confidence regardless of my weight :)

Original Post by mabenner1:

I totally remember being an insecure teen, but i never went up to people (especially relative strangers), and asked "Am I fat?". 

 They are not "going up" to people. We don't know them and they don't know us. Most of them don't even show their face. They are using this site just like we are...asking advice from total stragers and posting our images online. If we don't like the question and we have no advice to give, then skip. 

We really do need to be mindfull and carefull on this site. We have a vast percentage of members who are seriously struggling with ed's and other psychological problems. We need to be mindfull of them. We are very powerfull here. We can either hurt or help.

great post.

too true.

its immature whining. its a pity those posts arent locked too

Last week a 13 year old girl posted a topic called "Am I fat?" and another thread called something like "my food plan for eating 700 calories a day"

I responded with concern over her caloric intake (it was less than 1000) and her weight (she was underweight). People were rude to her and told her she was just seeking attention, and people also told me that I was basically an idiot for believing this girl. I messaged her privately and pleaded with her to get help. this was her response:

"Thanks! That helps alot. I took your advice and added lots of grains, dairy, and fruits and vegetables to my diet and gained some weight. I now weigh 92 pounds which is normal.

Some people are really rude. I was shocked by some of the reply posts. Thanks for the good advice. I think I'm going to quit caloriecount now since I obviously don't need it. Thanks again and bye!"

I just want everyone to be aware that sometimes the OPs in these posts really do have a grossly distorted body image. Please give them the benefit of the doubt. They might just be seeking attention, but they might also be truly struggling. I'd rather take the risk of sounding like an idiot than further traumatizing someone who could have an eating disorder. Being rude to a 13 year old girl who probably has anorexia makes me so angry. Have some compassion, people! If you're going to pick on someone, at least do it to adult.

Original Post by jcl76:

They might just be seeking attention, but they might also be truly struggling. I'd rather take the risk of sounding like an idiot than further traumatizing someone who could have an eating disorder. Being rude to a 13 year old girl who probably has anorexia makes me so angry. Have some compassion, people!f you're going to pick on someone, at least do it to adult.

jcl76, I completely agree with you.

It can be frusterating to see so many of those posts that seem absolutely rediculous cries for attention. But, have you been to a high school campus lately and looked at how twig-like the girls are??? Regardless of their reason for asking the "am I fat" question, they obviously have body-image issues, and if they don't currently have an ED, then telling them they're fat just for the fun of it will likely drive them to an ED faster than you can imagine.

If those sorts of posts bother you, why do you take valuable time out of your day to read them??? Simply skip over those posts, and read & reply to the ones that actually interest you. You'll be doing yourself and the rest of the CC users a favor.

Original Post by jcl76:

Last week a 13 year old girl posted a topic called "Am I fat?" and another thread called something like "my food plan for eating 700 calories a day"

I responded with concern over her caloric intake (it was less than 1000) and her weight (she was underweight). People were rude to her and told her she was just seeking attention, and people also told me that I was basically an idiot for believing this girl. I messaged her privately and pleaded with her to get help. this was her response:

"Thanks! That helps alot. I took your advice and added lots of grains, dairy, and fruits and vegetables to my diet and gained some weight. I now weigh 92 pounds which is normal.

Some people are really rude. I was shocked by some of the reply posts. Thanks for the good advice. I think I'm going to quit caloriecount now since I obviously don't need it. Thanks again and bye!"

I just want everyone to be aware that sometimes the OPs in these posts really do have a grossly distorted body image. Please give them the benefit of the doubt. They might just be seeking attention, but they might also be truly struggling. I'd rather take the risk of sounding like an idiot than further traumatizing someone who could have an eating disorder. Being rude to a 13 year old girl who probably has anorexia makes me so angry. Have some compassion, people! If you're going to pick on someone, at least do it to adult.

 I just wanted to commend you for your response to this girl.  I struggled with body issues as a teen, and I'm sure to most I came across as "seeking attention."  Certainly my friends and family thought I was insane for thinking I was fat, but they didn't see the pressure I faced in ballet class, or my ballet mistress making me recite everything I had eaten that day in front of the entire class, or being told after Thanksgiving that if I didn't lose 15 lbs by Nutcracker I wasn't going onstage...  You never, EVER know someone's back story, especially not over the internet. 

Now that I am really, undeniably overweight, I will admit that it is sometimes frustrating to see people who are decidedly NOT overweight complaining about being fat.  But I still don't see that as any reason to be horrible over the internet.

Original Post by roxiegirl42:

If you have nothing nice to say... you should say nothing at all.

Well I agree with this to a point.  What if you are enabling the person by being too nice, or not saying anything.  What if alarm bells are going off in your head because something seems wrong but you say nothing because it could be construed as negative?  Maybe I'm just overthinking this, but some of the ED folks on here are really good at hiding their problem.

Original Post by jcl76:

Last week a 13 year old girl posted a topic called "Am I fat?" and another thread called something like "my food plan for eating 700 calories a day"

I responded with concern over her caloric intake (it was less than 1000) and her weight (she was underweight). People were rude to her and told her she was just seeking attention, and people also told me that I was basically an idiot for believing this girl. I messaged her privately and pleaded with her to get help. this was her response:

"Thanks! That helps alot. I took your advice and added lots of grains, dairy, and fruits and vegetables to my diet and gained some weight. I now weigh 92 pounds which is normal.

Some people are really rude. I was shocked by some of the reply posts. Thanks for the good advice. I think I'm going to quit caloriecount now since I obviously don't need it. Thanks again and bye!"

I just want everyone to be aware that sometimes the OPs in these posts really do have a grossly distorted body image. Please give them the benefit of the doubt. They might just be seeking attention, but they might also be truly struggling. I'd rather take the risk of sounding like an idiot than further traumatizing someone who could have an eating disorder. Being rude to a 13 year old girl who probably has anorexia makes me so angry. Have some compassion, people! If you're going to pick on someone, at least do it to adult.

One of those people was me, and no I didn't think you were an idiot... I just figured it was a waste of time. But you know since that you've posted that I feel like a real douchebag. I've been jaded by other parts of the internet (anyone ever gone to 4chan.org?) so that's why I reacted like I did. Not an excuse but you know. Just trying to explain O_o

Since this I'll from now on be kind to any of those people. :x

before you even get into the whole attention seeking anorexic blah blah stuff, its just wrong to have a 13 year old girl posting near nude pics of herself in the first place. at least im over 19 when i do it :P(never nude mind you or for luscivious reasons). screw searching for "pedofilia prono omg" if they want pedo pics they s hould just go to weight loss sites and find plenty of underage chicks posting near nude pics.

Original Post by darkylinky:

before you even get into the whole attention seeking anorexic blah blah stuff, its just wrong to have a 13 year old girl posting near nude pics of herself in the first place. at least im over 19 when i do it :P(never nude mind you or for luscivious reasons). screw searching for "pedofilia prono omg" if they want pedo pics they s hould just go to weight loss sites and find plenty of underage chicks posting near nude pics.

Don't know if you're referring to the specific 13 year old I was talking about, but she didn't have any pictures of herself posted. She just listed her stats and asked if she was fat...no pics!