Am i fat??? [picture] :(

I'm 17 and 5'4... i weigh 9st13. I just hate my body so much, i'm trying hard to lose weight but its so hard... never had a boyfriend or anything cos i was huge during school. I've lost about 1 stone so far...

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Just want some honest opinions.

x

this must be a joke...you couldn't possible think you are fat. you are beautiful and have an amazing body. you have a waist and i want that so bad...i'm thin but like a stick shape...you are really thin but have a nice waist and sexy-ness. i am so jealous!! do not do anything to jeopardize that, if you lose weight i'm telling you you'll want this body back and when it comes time to gaining it back, it will not settle so nicely. your body is perfect so EMBRACE IT!!

I'll be the second bi girl in this thread echoing the sentiments that your body-shape is adorable and thin and very VERY attractive. I see no reason why you'd have trouble attracting guys, and I feel your size has zero to do with why you're single.

You're not fat - you're just naturally curvaceous. Nobody 'fat' has a waist anywhere near as slim as yours... I bet there are a lot of guys out there who would go nuts over somebody with a natural hourglass figure like yours if you give them half a chance. If guys are staying away from you it's not because you're 'fat'... but it might be because you're feeling bad about yourself and sending out 'stay away' vibes. You are beautiful and you need to learn to love yourself just the way you are. 

You are definitely not fat; you're very good looking! I just want to add that when I was in high school I felt fat because I had big hips, while most of my friends did not. Don't confuse hips and curves with being fat! You've got a great hourglass figure. 

Original Post by spirochete:

I wish we could code CC to auto-post a picture of my ass and gut whenever someone asks "am I fat"

*grin* and mine next to it.......................girl jessiika, believe me, you are most definitely not fat!
And you know what, try not to get a boyfriend as long as possible, they are a pain in the butt anyway ;-)

I have no idea how much a stone is cuz i'm living in california and i use pounds, but i just have to tell you, i would kill for your body. I am built like a boy, and i wish i had a"waist" and "hips". Don't weigh yourself, don't compare your self to others, especially models because they are VERY unrealistic. Dress to your shape! wear flatering tops and Not low rise jeans- since they would cut across the widest part.  play with belts and ribbons to accent your small waist.

http://burlesquebaby.blogspot.com/2007_12_01_ archive.html

I found on this website the formula for the "waist to hip ratio" and if you have a WHR less than .8 you are healthy, and men are more attracted to women with smaller WHR. take your waist measurement (in inches) and divide it by the biggest part of your hips.

Confidence is Key when attracting men, so until you are happy with yourself,  love you for for who you are and what you look like, then no one else can either.  

Consider yourself very lucky!

Jessiika if you are really trying to make yourself more attractive you need to work on your confidence.

I've been overweight throughout most of my life I never had problems getting a boyfriend because I was confident, fun and outgoing.  There is a man out there who is gaga about any body type you can imagine, don't try and force yourself to be something you aren't just be proud of who you are and what you look like and the right guys will come falling all over you.

If there is a specific guy you are interested in, talk to him flirt a little bit, let him know you are interested and give him an opportunity to ask you out.  Guys are shy and scared of rejection too maybe none have approached you because they don't think they have a chance sometimes they need a smile or two of encouragement.

Wow this is really strange! Can't believe that many people want my shape... I do like my waist but i've heard people say that i'm out of proportion before... i guess their wrong?

Thanks guys, i really appreciate this :)

No, but you have some huge and wide hips. its not fat though.

'Huge' and 'wide'??????  Not by my definition!  I don't see that as being either huge or wide.  Just very soft and lovely curves. 

See..... that's an example of how/why someone might feel bad about themself.  It's all in the intrepretation!  Adjectives such as huge and wide can be intrepreted differently.  And in this case, it could be good or bad even though it's not meant as an insult in either case.

your not necessarily fat, just squishy and untoned. you should do more exercise to smooth out a bit.

Gods, no you aren't fat.  It's just that you have an incredibly tiny waist, and perhaps that makes you focus on your normal hips.  What you want to do is wear clothing that plays up your favorite features so that you don't focus on what you perceive as a flaw. 

Me and you have a very (see: exactly the same) similar body shape. Trust me, I know how it is to have hips and a tiny waist. I used to grab at my hips, which would muffin top without me even wearing clothes, I swear. I was also in the same boat: I didn't have a boyfriend and I blamed my body.

Exercising is a great confidence booster. It'll also slim it down a little, if that's what you're going for. However, I've never achieved stick-thin hips (hips seem to be very stubborn in losing weight for me), and now I realize I do NOT want that. Guys actually really love hips, surprisingly. My boyfriend of a year and a half (who I got and who loved me long before I ever started exercising and eating right) loves me, every curve.

Seeing you though, and thinking "wow" makes me feel better about my body actually. You look great. Really. We've both just got to embrace our hips.

Original Post by healthisinplease:

No, but you have some huge and wide hips. its not fat though.

 Yeah, "huge" and "wide" are two very inappropriate words you may want to consult your mind with before opening your mouth.

Original Post by silentdeadlyrose:

Original Post by healthisinplease:

No, but you have some huge and wide hips. its not fat though.

 Yeah, "huge" and "wide" are two very inappropriate words you may want to consult your mind with before opening your mouth.

 

 seriously.  can you believe someone actually called this girl wide and huge?  how ridiculous.   and the other person who called her squishy and untoned is ridiculous too.   it amazes me how people could look at someone who is so obviously and almost stereotypically thin and beautiful and still call her all kinds of names.  how sad.

jessiika, you look great.  enjoy your teenage years.  there isnt anything wrong with you.

she asked for an honest opinion and got a couple. no offense but a lot of you are pretty out of shape and overweight yourselves, anything compared to you guys is skinny.

Original Post by darkylinky:

she asked for an honest opinion and got a couple. no offense but a lot of you are pretty out of shape and overweight yourselves, anything compared to you guys is skinny.

 Yeah, and your brain is the squishy part on you, it's practically mush. (I'll give you that, though your comment more or less suggests that you are even lacking that.)

You are totally inconsiderate of people on this board. My apologies to the C.C. staff, but Darklinky's comment is uncalled for.

im sorry that i like to be honest. its okay for everyone to critisize any skinny person but heaven forbid anyone should make any comments on the other end of the unhealthy scale. just expressing equal opportunity :D nothing wrong with going to the gym to tone up

jessiika - if you want to exercise, that's fine, and of course, one should always eat healthily, but you are NOT fat at all.

(Actually, it's the anoxeric models from whom many people get their false ideas of what it is to be "normal" who have the problem.)

You are very attractive (and I'm a guy telling you this) and you have nothing to be anxious about.

darkylinky- If anything, your shape appears to be similar to jessiika's. Which isn't a bad thing, I think she has a very nice figure.

I was being completely honest when I made my previous comment (and this current one of course), so I don't think it's correct of you to assume that only a couple of people were the only ones being sincere.