Does a fat woman looks LESS attractive in guy's eye?

I know that this question may not really belong to this forum but it has been bugging me SOO BAD!! I'm a Thai girl (16 years old) and all the girls here are VERY skinny. I'm 16, 5 ft1 and 108 pound and I was considered chubby here. My waist is 28 inches and I'm wearing a Large shirt size. I don't know what do these people eat! I tries to eat as healthy as I can (especially when I'm in the State).

 

  Now...here is the thing. I kinda like a person who is my best friend and we talk to each other about almost everything. My friends (including that person) always call me a pig or fattie and now I got really worried. I mean..I know that that guy likes me back to and all but I'm not confidence with how I look or feel.

 

*** To all the guys who may be reading this...to you, does it matter if your girlfriend is fat? Does physical appeal (like abs or whatever) really matter to you??***

 

I know this is another stupid question but I lost weight once and got down to 102 pounds and I got this stupid ED (i hate this stuff). And now I would do anything to prevent me from thinking like that again. If you are an adult (my parents don't really talk to me abt these stuff), any suggestion?

 

Thank you so much.

i think a heavier woman is more attractive.

Original Post by bettypage4:

Original Post by amazighus:

Looking around at the answers above, I kind of feel some people are trying to fool themselves in believing that they don't care about physical appearance whatsoever. You might not base your relationship on it but you can't date someone who you have no physical attraction to at all. That would make you "not human"

Watch how you judge us, amazighus. You are talking to some experienced fools. We have been around the block and learned a thing or two.

If you settle for a man who is only interested in "physical attraction" , then you need to have some intelligence so that you can support yourself when your husband dumps you for his new "physical attraction" to a younger prettier woman. Looks fade. Look at Bridgette Bardot (thanks gi-jane for that post).

@ charming_imy27 Honey, do not live your life trying to fit some man's ideal of beauty. Go out (or dig around deep in your mind) and find what really matters to you. Be the kind of person you want others to be and you will find a much better group of friends and boyfriends. When you stop trying to find a boyfriend is usually when you find the best one. :)

You might have been around the block and you learned a thing or two, but I am a guy, I know guys, I know how they think and what they talk about around other guys. Obviously we don't all think the same and the older we get the more mature we get. anyways, I was just answering her honestly. I didn't say that people above me were fools, but if you believe that beauty is in the eye of the beholder and that guys don't value physical attraction especially when they meet the person first time, Then that's just plain wrong.

Let's just take an example other than weight. Some guys are attracted to latinas more, some guys are attracted to blonds more, some guys love petit asian women, some guys like curvy white girls, I didn't come up with this but this is common knowledge ... There is nothing wrong with having fantasies and liking a specific kind of girl. The wrong thing to do is basing your whole relationship on the physical side. I've been there, done that and learned from it. and to all the girls that think guys are jerks because of this, don't forget how many times we get rejected/dumped by you for no reason. there is the good and the bad in both sexes so don't come here attacking me for something that happens on both sides. I'd rather be honest than a hypocrite. I would rather tell her the truth so she is ready than fill her mind with fantasies about guys not caring about physical side and that if he shows interest right away it must be because he loves your personality. it takes months to really know what the guy/girl is really after

Hate to be the anti chick here, but as a woman I have to agree with amazighus.

SOME GUYS JUST DON'T DIG OVERWEIGHT OR OBESE PEOPLE. They may like them as people but to have a full relationship you need many components... That does not make them superficial what-so-ever, it makes them human. Human beings NEED physical attraction to have a complete relationship, like it or not, whether or not its politically correct these days.. There's a line where you begin to see the difference in friend and marriage (read: life time commitment) material.

My boyfriend and I have maintained our relationship through the love of our personalities and specific physical attributes. We love each other. There are, however, physical attributes about me that he DOES like about me. This does not make him superficial, it makes him a man who knows what he likes to see in a woman.

To him, an obese woman means a woman who doesn't care enough about herself to maintain a healthy weight (he makes exceptions for, say, hypothyroidism). To him it means marrying a possible future adult-onset diabetic that could've been avoided. It's entirely different; I am attempting to LOSE weight and make positive changes in my life, therefore making me more attractive to him as a whole.

Please don't throttle the men here who speak their honest opinions. Guys are allowed to not like certain body types, just like us women :)

"Erase" since the moderators have took out what my original meaning wa

Don't put words in my mouth. I never said she should be ok for them making fun of her and calling her names. Obviously you have a lot of issues of your own and you should handle them in your own way. never make assumptions about other people or else you are just a hypocrite since you are talking about being real and not judging. You are judging me from 1 post and calling me an ****, a superficial person, that I think I am from the "cool" kinda people and bla bla bla. You are not even close. you should take your own advice first before giving it to others. work out your issues and just because you dated I don't know how many guys (this says a lot about your judgment since it seems you settle for anybody who shows you interest) it doesn't mean you know it all.

P.S: I hate keyboard warriors

"Erase" this too moderators, since there is no free speech!

I, again, appreciate all the time everyone has spent to responce my post. I would take every advice and think about it. I'm pretty sure I can use all the advice when I grow up enough to handle having a boyfriend. (Well, so far, I have never REALLY looking for one and obviously I have never have a boyfriend before.)

I just don't want this thread/topic to become a bad arguing post or whatever (I'm just talking in general). Every answers/responces have their own benefits that I will need to halp making decisions about sevseral things and I'm very thankful for that. I appreciate all the real stories that teaches me how cruel people and be and I also appreciate everyone for being honest with me.

After reading over 40 answers, I actually know that -- whatever I do -- it's not worth to suffer myself for a guy. I'm studying in the State and maybe that is a part of the reason I feel this. Asian people and my friends probably still look at things in somewhat Asian way (that includes about appearances). Thank you thank you thank you again for all responces....they are all valueable!

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Anger management.