do you have a favorite?

Okay, well I feel guilty even typing this but I was just wondering if any of the parents of more than one have a favorite? My daughter is three and I love her to pieces but, she is very high strung and demanding (I blame her father, but that is another story). Anyways, I feel a tremendous amount of guilt over the fact that my son is just so much easier to relate to, he is one and there is no drama, just hug me, love me and feed me and I am good.

maybe it is not having a favorite per se, as much as it is easier to give affection to my littlest one, because he seems to want it more, while my three year old is harder to please

I hope somebody understands what I am trying to say, I just don't want to hurt my daughter, I want them to know that they are equally love, just in different ways and with different challenges.

everyone has a favourite.  most people won't admit it.  but when they do, you know they're being very honest .

don't feel guilty.  just make sure you don't make it obvious (or that your daughter is your husband's favourite, and that he makes it as obvious as you do.  you don't have more than two, do you?).

Original Post by pgeorgian:

everyone has a favourite.

I don't actually agree with this, at least not with kids.  But I do believe there are many times when you might like one more than the other, depending on how easy they are.  Just wait, it might all change in a year or so.  Four is a pretty awesome age, and we all know about the twos.

Don't beat yourself up about it.  I think what you're feeling is pretty normal.

I agree entirely with what Rosieblue said, and I don't think everyone has a favourite either.

It's very likely that your easy little one will catch up at some point and become a little monster for a while, and that your little girl will settle down for a bit and give you a break. They tend to take it in turns... In fact, I strongly believe that they can sense when the time has come for them to either take their turn or ease off!

Out of my three kids, there is ALWAYS one of them who is being particularly demanding or unbearable at any given time! It's an unspoken conspiracy between the three of them to keep us on our toes at all times... No rest for the wicked...

Good luck!

Definitely, my "favorite" is the one NOT making me pull my hair out at the time!  Sometimes, I DON'T have a favorite!

I felt the same way when I had a baby and a toddler - babies are ever so much cuddlier, and they don't throw tantrums.  As your children grow, you will probably find that, as nat said, they will switch from time to time.

Like puh8suwrux I prefer the one not making me pull my hair out too.  I have been blessed with to very busy active children no mellow ones for me.  I switch by the second some days on who I like more...some times its neither lol.  I do have days were I feel like a favor my son which is the oldest so my first but then my sweet little princess reminds me I love her just as much.

Original Post by pgeorgian:

everyone has a favourite.  most people won't admit it.  but when they do, you know they're being very honest .

don't feel guilty.  just make sure you don't make it obvious (or that your daughter is your husband's favourite, and that he makes it as obvious as you do.  you don't have more than two, do you?).

This is so true! My brother is my mom's fave and I'm my dad's fave. I used to resent my mother because she made it so obvious, but now that I am a parent I am more understanding about it. Now I'm 26 and he's almost 21 and he's still momma's baby. I have a 14 month old son and another one due in 3 months, so we'll see if I am more attached to one over the other.

My daughter is also 3 and very big girl like.  I think my husband "favors" her and I "favor" our son.  I love them both equally.  I don't think its favoritism I think it has to do with chemistry.  Girls/Fathers, Boys/Mothers.  Something about the chemistry.  

My son is so sweet and gentle and is such a little boy flirt and loves to be hugged and kissed by ALL women.  He gets lots of attention for all kinds women.  My daughter on the other hand loves to cuddle with her father and is different with me.  She will play and hang out but cuddling is for Papi (daddy).

The fact that your son is also the baby might have something to do with it.

Although, I wouldn't have much of an argument if you had two girls.