feeling better, looking better, but not losing pounds nor inches

I'm sorry, but if you're feeling better and looking better, what's wrong? I mean, that's really the important part, who care's about anything else?

I have a friend who started going to the gym, lifting weights three days a week. In a year she lost 5 pounds. Then she started cutting portions, and in 25 weeks she lost another 45 pounds. There is no question that exercise alone made her trimmer and feel better, but she was still way overweight. She didn't lose the weight until she cleaned up her diet and ate less calories than she burned.

The tools on this site are based on averages. However studies show that people's RMR can vary hundreds of calories above or below the average. So unless you carefully tracked calories before you started trying to lose weight, you don't actually know what you need to maintain 136 pounds.  In addition how many calories you burn through exercise is also a way rough guess.  Studies show people tend to overestimate the calories burned thorugh exercise, and underestimate calories they eat.

If you are seeing inches lost then I presume you have been doing this for at least a few weeks, long enough that you should see results on the scale. In theory you might be replacing muscle with fat, but really women don't build much muscle no matter what they do. So likely it is not that.

At your height and weight, it is clear that you are fairly close to your target weight. Because you said "net" calories, I presume you are "adding back" exercise calories, and are eating 1800 calories before exercise? If so, that you are not losing is perfectly logical to me.  I am 128, have been 136, and even with exercise I would have gained or maintained on 1800 calories.

wow shiptona THANKS, so now i know what to do! and i think you are so right about the averages the calculators are using and the case of your friend is a great example. and you're at my goal weight, thanks again :)