Still Feeling FAT

I just can't get satisfied.

I lost some weight and I d4ecided to go on maintainanace for a while (have had a couple of binges also :()

Whenever I look in the mirror I just feel disgusted with myself. That's a recent profile picture of me.... What would you say?

Anyone else never satisfied?

I would say you are a teenager.  That means you are a vicious little beast, especially to yourself.  I think back to my teen years (not that long ago, but long enough to know better) and I think I should have had a labotomy.

I wont say universal.  Maybe someone out there is the exception.  But I remember teen girls just loathing themselves.  For something.  There was always something.  Not looking like someone else, too much jiggle here, skins not right, nose isn't right, ears aren't right, breasts, butt etc...  And I remember specifically struggling to come to terms with the concept that there will never be a perfect.  That I could do all kinds of stuff, but never come out looking like a Barbie. 

Humans have moles, rolls, hair, patchy skin, not enough hair, wrinkles, jiggle, celulite, flat bums, fat bums, saggy breasts.  The concept of perfect does not exsist.  You can go to lengths to change the things you dont like, but perfect still does not exist.  The truth is satisfaction comes when you feel healthy, strong, and accepting of your body. 

You look healthy and not at all fat in your profile photo. You are not fat!

I have similar struggles to you...trying to accept myself...it's just one day at a time.

Just remember if your doctor says you're healthy then that is the most important thing. If you're not medically overweight then you are not fat (and even some people who are medically overweight don't look fat!).

I have similar struggles as well... although I'm not overweight, I still don't feel satisfied.

The hardest thing I've realised is... to satisfy your satisfaction. Breakky is right. One day at a time does it. Sooner or later we'll all fall into pace with our lives and come into terms with ourselves.

It all takes a little patience. But seeing it from my perspective, you look fine, dear. You are not fat... by far! You don't look it either. Just be comfortable with yourself. Accept yourself and you'll be happier than ever.

One step at a time does it. Good luck!

I hate to sound like a preachy great-aunt (I am, in fact, a great-aunt) but while you are in maintenance mode is a great time to throw yourself, body and soul, into an activity you feel passionate about.  Something bigger than yourself like politics, the environment, the neighborhood, your school.  It doesn't really matter what it is, it just needs to expand your universe beyond the 2 foot cylinder that surrounds yourself.

Then, if you are "never satisfied" if will be over something worth obsessing about.

Worship your own body and beauty and sexual allure and you will always feel ugly, and when time and age start showing, you will die a million deaths before they finally plant you.  David Foster Wallace

You can get the full lecture at:

http://online.wsj.com/article/SB1221782119664 54607.html

Original Post by tortoisewins:

I think back to my teen years (not that long ago, but long enough to know better) and I think I should have had a labotomy.

 I could not stop laughing when I read this!! :)

Dina04, don't feel discouraged.  Remember that you see yourself every day, and .1 lbs or however much you average per day is very very very hard to see!  I've lost 35 lbs, and I don't see a THING when I look in the mirror.  I see the same person I saw in May.  Best way to actually see the progress is through photos, in my experience.

I hear ya! I'm well beyond my teen years and should know better. Even when I put on some clothes and look absolutely stunning in a size I didn't think possible for me every to get into.

Why? I know and still hate to admit that I'm a Type A personality, driven, controlling and a perfectionist.

The other posters are right and you are going to have to learn to appreciate yourself and your acheivements.

Divert some that energy into something creative or a volunteer opportunity. I always have craft time set aside for myself every week as well as donate some time to charities I believe in.

Hey Dina, I know how you feel hun, I tried not weighing myself at all cos the little weeks make me wonder why i bothered and id give up. I had to get an operation 4 weeks ago and hadn't weighed for 5 weeks, ate 1200 cal and 30g fat a day and watched my food....i dropped 7 kg in those 5 weeks, it has been 4 since i weighed again im sure i lost more but im paranoid about eating anything bad, im not fat at all numerically and size wise (5ft 11 and an australian size 10) but I still feel fat and ugly, nothing seems to have changed. I have reached my goal of 68 kg, but im still losing or trying too......i fully understand, I am glad you brought this up because I need answers too....you are not alone :)