Feeling so frustrated and upset ... Vent ...

Hi guys - I guess I'm looking for a little sympathy - a little support. I've been consuming 1500 calories for the better part of a month - I have eaten well over that a few times and haven't had the water I should - I haven't worked out as much as I should. But I have eaten well for the most part. The scale will go up and down between 197 and 194 but never dip below that. Some weeks I can be so great - eat really well - lots of veggies - workout 4 times - drink lots of water and the scale doesn't move.

I just feel so totally frustrated - this shouldn't be so incredibly hard - I just want to get to 190 - feel like something is working. But I can't. I'm sure its something I'm doing wrong - my thyroid is fine - I have PCOS but I know since I lost 15 pounds back in December I can lose weight. I was on Jenny Craig then - I just can't afford to go back on that.

Just feeling so down - hating myself so much tonight. I stopped on the way home @ old navy - nothing fits for me now - and I look so huge and disgusting. I need a shoulder I guess - just super lost and confused and so mad at myself that I can't seem to lose any weight.

Don't be upset. If the scale refuses to move for a long time and you are working out, try something else: eat the exact same thing every day, the exact same meals, same quantities to keep the calories absolutely constant. It's a bit unpleasant to be doing that for 2 or 3 weeks but it seems to be getting things moving in the right direction. If it doesn't maybe 1500 is very close to the weight maintaining intake and your metabolism just adapts or you are underestimating a bit the eaten calories/quantities. Try something between 1300-1400.

I was frustrated too when I was trying to kickstart my weightloss process last year. Took a lot of tries and stratagems to get it moving, lol.

Thanks so much DKN - I really appreciate it! You know, I could be doing more - I could be working out more - I could be eating a bit better - I'm staying within my calorie range but I'm not eating as well as I should. I'm not drinking as much water as I should. I was thinking I might try starting south beach again tomorrow - and try to take working out one day @ a time.

I think my rant was more about being so insanely disappointed in myself - disappointed in every way. If I saw someone that looked like me walking down the street I would NEVER think the same things about them as I do about myself. All I see is bad - fat - ugly etc. And its so destructive.

aw gabrielle!  that last paragraph fits me to a "T"

you are so right.  we treat ourselves in ways we wouldn't treat our own worst enemy sometimes.

keep your eyes on the prize!  we can do it!!!

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Thanks tamji - glad others understand - I was trying to figure out if its just part of my nature and lack of confidence (a problem I've had all my life) but really it is only related to my weight ... I'm so hard on myself in terms of my fat rolls, the way I dress, the fat on my legs etc. - but I see women much heavier than me that I would never call 'fat' or think poorly of. And in terms of where I am in my career and other other accomplishments I'm okay - just my weight.

Argh so frustrating.

But I appreciate hearing from people - it helps me feel not so alone.

ltp - I did read this and its great and I should really keep it and re-read it regularly - thanks for reminding me!

Mix it up! i had the same problem then i would mix up my calorie intake. i would eat 2000 calories for like 2-3 days then cut calories down to like 1400. for 2 days then back to my regular intake. i read about it somewhere and it helped. what it does is doesnt let your metabolism get use to burning the same. and when you take in less calories it burns them faster and will then turn to fat as a source of energy to burn. I do the same thing with my workout just mix it up and keep my body guessing. I ve lost 60lbs so far.

I second imfocused - zigzagging the deficit has helped me break a plateau.