Ever going to find Mr. Right?

Does anyone ever question why they havent found him? I feel like im never going to find anybody... but i really dont know why. I know im only 17, but it seems like for some reason i must be doing something wrong here... my sister and mom were both married in their (late) teens and its worked out wonderfully for the two of them... i cant help to feel like i should get the ball rolling!

I really dont get it tho... people keep telling me im really mature for my age, i try to take care of myself.. im super tall (5'10.5), and (although i really, really HATE IT), modeling agencys have tried to come after me forever...(i AM underweight tho..) Im bubbly most of the time, and try to always look at things in perspective. I try my best to be myself all of the time, and i recently have gone through issues in the past year that have really developed me into a stronger person. I feel that i am ready for a serious relationship because i have grown as a person significantly in the past 2 years. I just dont know what im doing wrong...

Does anyone else feel the way i do?....it seems like im kind of on my own right now...

Honey, you're young. You have your life ahead of you. You're also not like your mum, or your sister - okay, they married young. Doesn't mean you have to either.

Wait it out. Don't push these things, don't push love.

As for being tall? Tall rules. :D I'm 6'1.

Original Post by lalabanana:

Honey, you're young. You have your life ahead of you. You're also not like your mum, or your sister - okay, they married young. Doesn't mean you have to either.

Wait it out. Don't push these things, don't push love.

As for being tall? Tall rules. :D I'm 6'1.

No way! 6'1 wow, thats beautiful!!!

I've come to love my height after years of feeling akward with it. I even wear HEELS now!!!

thanks lala

Your sister and  mom are NOT the rule.... most marriages DO NOT LAST when you marry young. Sorry. Those are the statistics... and to be honest, if you are only 17 your sister is probably close in age (19-25?) and your mom might be 44-50... Hate to tell you this, but there is still PLENTY of time for both or either of them to get divorced! Plus, you don't really KNOW how happy their marriages are. Sure, it would be great if they are in wonderful marriages, but sometimes a marriage that looks "honky dorry" is hell (been there, done that!)

That being said.... YOU ARE ONLY 17! Have fun with your girl friends. Go to the movies. Enjoy your hobbies (sew, knit, kick boxing, yoga...) Go to COLLEGE! Get a degree! Get a job! Find yourself! And make a promise to yourself NOT TO GET MARRIED UNTIL YOU ARE AT least 30! Okay, maybe 27. But don't worry so much about being married. It is great, but NOT that great--and really LOUSY if you are with the wrong person! Being alone and doing the things that make YOU happy and satisfied is important too. Travel. Learn more about yourself. Have fun. You are ONLY 17 (hmmm--said that before)! I know you feel OLD and mature. Great! Really, there is nothing wrong about feeling mature and old for your age. Enjoy it! But PLEASE--don't worry about finding the right guy and getting married. Take up a sport (golf or tennis, anyone?) get a dog, or a cat, or even a fish. But a husband... nah... wait until you are 30! Go to Europe, Australia, China! Make a list of 25 things you want to do before you are 20 and make another list of 50 additional things you want to do before you are 30. And THEN GO AND DO THEM! Along the way you will learn about yourself and find your sole mate and it WILL last a lifetime.  Trust me. Write back a post and let us know what you think....

Hey thanks for the reply!

your suggestions were really great, but most of the stuff you mentioned i have a few issues with hahha...

i dont have girlfriends unfortunately anymore. (the big problem i ran into last year.  Depression and an ED were the results of that.) Travel? i hate it! (i know weird right?!) i dont have time for a job because im studying so hard this year... i need to get into a good university and become a dermatologist. I have a horse which i really love, but i unfortunately cant see him much because im studying so freaking hard...

But i will write a list like you said of things i want to do... and i WILL do them because thats the person ive always been- (get-up-and-just-do-it!) :-)

Ha, I wear heels too, sometimes. Not TOO often - I don't always like having to duck under doorframes! XD

I like the idea of making a list. Also, about friends: I've dropped out of contact with a lot of my friends because of my ED and recovery, in truth. People seem to have less time for you when you're unwell. ;\ Being diagnosed with lactose intolerance also makes it a LOT harder to go out and eat or relax casually with people not so much because I worry, but that they worry they'll make me unwell. Bleg. But there are millions of people in the world, and you've got time not only to make new friends and connections, but to find that right person for you, too. Don't sweat. :D

Do you like gardening? You could set up your own windowbox of herbs. Awesome to dedicate yourself to and look after. I have one - it's got chillies in it, too!

don't worry about finding the right guy. i know it sounds cliche, but it'll all come together when you least expect it. =]

dude!! i wanna grow my own chilis!

I second the idea for you to go out and have fun while you can. If you try to settle down too young, you may resent your significant other for keeping you from experiencing things that other girls your age are/did.  I wouldn't necessarily say that you need to wait until 30.

Also, don't settle. I know people who have wanted a relationship so badly that they settled for the first person to come along. Not generally a good idea. It's better to be alone forever than stuck in a relationship with someone who makes you miserable simply because you want a relationship.

You sound like a lovely girl. I'm sure you'll have to beat the boys off with a stick soon enough.

I thought I found my Mister Right when I was 17. He bought me a ring ( a LEGIT ring, pawned all his video games, stereo sytem and all his musical instraments and proposed in front of his parents). I said yes- fast forward six months.

He'd completely changed.

He was into drugs, dropped out of school, and was sleeping with several other girls before I found out and he still hadn't called of the engagement.

I can't imagine what my life would've been like if we got married. No, wait, acutally I do- HELL. Absolute hell. He went from being a 4.0 honors student to a junkie within weeks.

Moral of the story- We're young, we're volitile. If you find mister right at 17, life is so fast paced between the ages of 18 and 25 that you might regret what he changes into. Or, worse yet, discover that you have changed and can't be with him.

The perfect Mister Right is very rare, and if he comes by, don't let him go!

When I was eighteen, my 'Mister Right' got bored of me and dumped me. When I was nineteen, my next 'Mister Right' extorted money from me to get cigarettes, used me as a sexual toy and abused me. I had a hard time escaping from him.

Being patient will lead you to meeting Prince Charming. :D

I found him :) we met when we were both 19...kids...at 21 we moved in together. we are now 28 and married for 2 yrs:) no, we don't have kids. still enjoying just being together :)

I never thought i'd meet ANY guy b4 I met him but I knew from the first day that he was mr. Right :)