Finding it hard

Hi

I'm about 5ft 7 and weigh 110lbs.  I know that I need to gain weight but I'm finding it hard mentally. I have quite a bit of fat in certain areas and when I see this it makes me not want to gain any more weight! Does anyone else have trouble with this and how did you get over it?

It is the exact same for me! I can see I need to gain weight in my upper body but then I find i could stand to lose some weight in my legs and my face. It definitely does make gaining weight harder mentally, because I'm paranoid that all the weight I gain will just go there.  I try to do exercises and stretches for my legs throughout the day so I don't feel as if excess weight is piling on.  It somehow helps mitigate that feeling and ease my worries for a bit after -- even though I know it's all in my head.

Username,

I am the same height as you are and I know that even when I was 94 pounds I thought that I had meat or extra fat on my body. But this is all a mental thing and not true at all. Yes you do need to gain weight, yes you do need a little bit of cushion on your body, and yes exercises while adding more calories each day can help with toning eventually.

I would say that first things first you just need to focus on health and if that means adding on a few pounds then what is it going to hurt? I think that you will be much happier with your body in the long run when you weigh a bit more and have a more womanly figure.

Good luck, I am here for your support!

hey I'm the same height and just smaller in weight than you and i'm also finding it hard going. i really want the upper body weight back but I'm worried about it coming back to my waist and legs. Just that worry is enough to set me back, something i really can't afford.

i don't know how to get over it, i guess its just a case of finding a way to talk about your worries and getting them out in the open so you have a support network. You've made the first step by speaking out about it, i was too scared to until i saw you had.

Thanks everyone!! I'm gonna try and ignore the scale for a bit while I start eating more and try not to worry about where the weight goes until I'm at a healthier weight.. haha probably easier said than done!!