First Day...always get worried

So today is my first day with this website, and my first day getting back to being real about my goal to loose 65 lbs. But I am so nervous and worried. Well truly, I am actually scared. This is my third big attempt to loose weight so I can be healthy and wear and do whatever I want without being incumbered by all this weight. But, I fell off the band wagon in the past and so I am scared to start this all again because i don't want to fail again. I guess I more less want to know that I am not the only one out here you feels that way when trying to acheive there weightloss goals..I am 23 and 315 lbs and ready to really make a change. :) But I don't want to let this fear slow me down, more or less, I don't want to get in my own way... how have people in the past gotten around this? I hope to hear from someone! Thanks

Here are some things that I find help:

- Make small changes that you can live with.  Don't jump in at 300% because you will probably be overwhelmed. Start by making some goals, like walking x mins every day, drinking tons of water, doing resistance training a few times a week, not eating after dinner, etc.  Pick one or two goals and add a new one each week until you are eating well and regularly exercizing hard.

- Make small goals and reward yourself with food-free prizes when you meet them.  Make sure these goals are reasonable.  Trying to lose 5lbs a week while exercising and eating 1000 calories a day is too extreme, pick a healthy weekly loss (usually about 1% of your current body weight in a week) and make up the extra deficit with exercise, rather than starvation.

- Tell people.  Don't be embarressed, most people aren't 100% happy with their bodies and will be super supportive.  To hell with the people that aren't.

- Be honest with yourself when it comes to what you put in your body and your exercise, it doesn't affect anyone but you.

- Don't think of it as a day-to-day project, look at the big picture.  If you screw up one day, just get back on track the next.  Try not to weigh yourself too often, once a week or less often is sufficient to see the losses and not see the daily (natural) fluctuation.

Good luck!

I totally agree with Thermal and I'll add that what really helped me was to stop feeling sorry for myself and change.

in other words I tell myself "start changing or stop complaining , pick and choose because if you don't try you're not allowed to complain. "  I started losing weight on my third attempt and have been doing pretty good for about 1 year and a half. Take things slow and listen to your body when it needs a break. BUT don't confuse this with listening to your mind telling you to stop because "you don't feel like it" tell that one to shut it lol  :P

If ya need a buddy let me know!!!  I still have about 50lbs to lose and I'm aiming for next may! :P 

You can definitely do this! I really think the key is setting small manageable goals for each day/week/whatever.  At first, sometimes it helps if you make that something that is not about weight.  So, if you eat a lot of fast food, just say you won't have any for a week.  Or, if you enjoy beers at night, promise to only have one.  You could also just make it about adding exercise--promising to go to the gym 4 times this week.  You get the picture.  Then you are adding healthy changes into your life that will set you up to lose the weight.  

I agree about the advice to tell people. I think you will be surprised how many people will come back with something like "good for you, I should do that too."  Then you can offer to to try to help each other make good choices when you go out, etc.  

Once you get started and start noticing a change in the way you look (which, obviously may take a while) that will be super motivating too!

First of all, congratulations.  You have already taken the first step by reaching out to others.  I say-what do you have to lose? (Besides 65 pounds-lol!).  I understand where you are coming from, because I started out at a similar weight 2.5 years ago.  Because of hard work and the tools here at CC, I am down 144 pounds to date.

START SLOW.  If you try to accomplish all of your weight loss goals the first day or week, you will burn out.  Maybe make it a goal to take a walk, or just be consistant in tracking your calories.  As you start to feel better physically, the mental changes will come too.  You will become stronger in all aspects.

FORGIVE YOURSELF.  No one is perfect.  If you can't let go of the past guilt about "falling off the wagon", or food guilt, as I look at it, you will not move forward.  This I know for a fact.

FIND SUPPORT.  Whether at home or on this website, find people who will support you in your goals, and are willing to listen when you need to vent.  Even a walking buddy could be a place to start.  However, make sure you only rely on yourself to get yourself out there.  People tend to flake out on us-you ulitimately have to be responsible for YOU.

I know you can do this, because I did.  When I started, I didn't think I'd make it through the first day.  I couldn't even walk around the block without stopping to rest.  Today, I love my life, and I love me.

I wish you all the success you could want.  Good luck!!

Thermal has been a great help to me today, and all the replies here are perfect. I'm not one to talk since I have been doing things backward until today when some of the CC people got my "fat head" right.

When you need a support group or some on to tell you that it is ok, you have come to the right place. CC has helped me so much :)

I'm on 225 so you and i can bumble to our more thin more beautiful selves together. Dont be scared or embarrassed, and as I have learnt - making mistakes is ok as well.

NOTHING is so big that you cannot achieve it! and listen to thermal - she knows her stuff :)

Thanks guys this means a lot to hear from so many people, and to know I am not alone, that these goals are not as hard as I would make them seem. What a relief I tell ya. lol. Thank you, every single one of you has great advice and not a single negative person! I love that. Finding support here makes this seem just a little less nerve racking. Thank you, Thank you. You are all awesome by the way for loosing weight and obtaining your goals, just keeping on going, and I will defiently be looking at everyday a little different now. :)

This is also my 1st day on this site (as a member) and my 3rd attempt at loosing weight.  From all the responses, it looks like there are alot of really supportive people here with great advice.

I just wanted to post and say I know how you feel...about being scared, but it says something that you are trying again.

Thanks Coco, I would say good luck to both of us but this has nothing to do with luck, so heres to success! ;)