My First Topic; My Confessions.

Okay, my first ever topic. Hopefully I'll get a lot of inspirational responses from everyone :]

Well, I guess I should start by saying why I'm here. Obviously, like everyone else I want to lose weight! But to me it's a life-style change. I need to exercise more as well. I've never been an athletic person, but I never really needed to be. It runs in my family to have fast matabolisms. And I did until about a year and a half ago when I suddenly started gaining weight. It came as a shock when one day I realized I had gone from an extremely skinny 96 pounds to an overweight 116 pounds. I am 5 foot 2 and I think I should be 103 pounds but I'd be happiest at 100. Right now I'm 110, 108 on some days. Actually, I don't tell anyone how I feel about my body, but now that I've found this site I guess we're all in the same boat. To be honest, I hate it. I hate my body. I find myself constantly looking at other people hating how much prettier/skinnier they are than me. I know it's a flaw I have and I should be comfortable with myself but I'm not. In fact. I have nightmares constantly about being at the beach or at the pool and having to be in a bathingsuit. I know it's stupid and I shouldn't care that much but it really bothers me. And you know it's that time of year; bikini season. Which is a big part of the reason why I joined now. I've wanted to lose weight for awhile but this just gives me that extra push to get me going. Before this to lose weight I've been making myself throw up on those days that I felt really fat. It's not like a bulemia thing, I don't do it after I eat all the time, just when I'm having a rough day. I know it's not good, trust me. But anyways, I want to tighten up and lose about 10 pounds before i go down the beach and to st. martin for 2 weeks. I leave in a month, and I know thats not much time but I'm willing to do what it takes. Because that means A LOT of bikini-wearing. And I'm not happy with my current bikini-look. I hate being self-concious and I'm really envious of those who are happy with themselves, good for you, thats great. My boyfriend was asking me tonight why I care what other people think. I don't know, because I do. Doesn't everyone? They say they don't but they do. We all care. But I wanna look good for me. I want to feel comfortable with myself. And I feel like everyone is always hinting that I've gained weight. My mom whenever we go to the doctors and I have to get weighed is always either looking over at the scale or if she isn't in the room when she comes in is like, "so how much do you weigh?" Yeah, real casual mom. And lately people have started saying, "oh you've lost weight!" Yeah why, was I fat before? I guess I'm paranoid. I just really want to look good. Not just to please other people, but for me. And I hope this site can help me do it. Good luck to everyone else as well! :]

You weigh 110lbs and you think you're fat? Not much advice to give on how to lose weight if you're already thin. Sorry...

yeah but I'm really short. I'm 5 foot 2, and most of my weight goes to my legs and stomach.

According to your height and weight, your BMI is 20.1, which is right in the "normal" range. If you got down to 100lbs, your BMI would be 18.3...which is considered "underweight". Just becareful losing that much weight...

thanks for the concern, but i really do need to lose this weight, trust me.

Nothing wrong with eating healthily, not just for weight loss but also for overall health. But instead of trying to diet your legs and thighs thinner, have you tried swimming/walking/climbing up stairs etc? I think you'll find that exersize is more effective for toning your lower body bits than dieting.
By all means, see where the diet takes you, but try to maintain a reasonable and feasible outlook on it. If you don't lose the weight it's not because you are failing, but maybe because your body has reached it's ideal weight.
Good luck.

yeah, im not a big exerciser - mainly because i have asthma - but i'm going to try and work out more! thankss :]

You're in a normal weight range, and you are 16 years old, which means that your body needs nutrition to grow. Eat healthy, by all means, tone if you really want to, but you do not need to lose anymore weight. 

Number 1: I am 5'2. I weigh around 130lbs at the moment. My highest weight was 180ish, and my lowest 125lbs.

You are at my goal! 110lbs, perfection my darling. I know, I know, I hate it when people say that I'm already perfect, because I'm self-aware that I am far from, however, I don't think you need to lose FAT, maybe just work those muscles!!

You might put on weight, but it will be MUSCLE weight. And weight training makes you feel so empowered and beautiful, I love it!!

Number 2: I have/used to have(?) asthma, and light exercising at first really helped expand my lungs, making it easier for me to breathe all the time! I've take my inhaler once in 2 months, whereas I used to be taking it once every 2 days!

Good luck with your goals, but remember, strive to be HEALTHY not to be THIN. You are so beautiful already xx

Oh, I forgot to post this!! It's a brilliant site. xx

Copied posts from duplicate topic in the Lounge:

#1 bub55 Jun 14 2007 02:51
you sound just like my 20 year old daughter. She's 5'2" 108 and thinks she needs to lose weight. She looks great. When I was 26 I dieted to 117 (also 5'2") for my wedding. I looked great. I would love to look like that now. It's kind of all in perspective. For some unknown reason, women love to think they aren't thin enough or pretty enough no matter how gorgeous they may look. Then a guy with a huge beer gut will look in the mirror and go "hey, stud, lookin' good" Why are women never satisfied with themselves. I have looked at your photo and you look terrific to me. If you have some problem areas, just try to tone up. At your age, you see every flaw. Now when I look at photos of myself back then, I think what happened to that beautiful young girl. Be proud of yourself. Strut your stuff now. I'm sure your guy likes you like you are. (which, like I said sounds just right). PS my daughter gets tons of attention from guys and she's just your size. Just concentrate on eating healthy food, exercising and you'll look great on the beach. Don't take your cues on what you should look like from Hollywood. Those people aren't happy!!! And guys really don't like women to be stick thin, anyway. By the way, if people are noticing you lost weight, they probably don't think you were fat before, they may think you are getting too thin. My daughter's friend used to have a really cute figure and got into being obsessed about being thin now everyone thinks she looks like a heroin addict or aids victim. Not a good look. The key is just to be healthy...not emaciated. 


#2 alayney Jun 14 2007 03:01
The way this message started, I thought you were going to say you gained ALL this weight and you're now 210. I think what happens is, you young girls start developing a WOMAN'S body and you think you're getting fat. Well, you're not. It's NORMAL to start putting on some weight during these years. You're not meant to be a stick person. Some people ARE extremely thin, not by their own doing, and they aren't happy with themselves either, but some people's bodies don't develop on time or they're just naturally tiny for some reason.

It seems you're just not happy with YOURSELF and you're blaming it on weight. You need to try to develop some confidence within your brain, not with your body -- you're not overweight. I know what you mean when you think "was I fat before?" Yeah, that pretty much is paranoia. I've felt that way before too. But you CHOOSE how you react to that, and you chose to take it in a more negative light.


#3 dearbhla Jun 14 2007 07:49
Hi there,

I looked at your picture too and you are teeny tiny and very pretty.  Don't allow yourself to get obsessed with every tiny change in your body.  Train to get fit if it would make you happier but don't obsess about the lbs!  My younger sister is the best looking girl I have ever seen in real life  - she's 5 foot 11, golden blonde hair, tanned and very pretty - very slim  - and she just hates the way she looks.  When she was your age her body changed a little bit, she put on a few pounds and got a slight curve to her hips  - which is just the way she should be or she would look like a boy!!  She has now spent the last 6 years telling herself that she's fat.  I just think it's so sad that such a beautiful girl should make herself miserable for no reason.  I'm not as pretty as my sister and I don;t have her figure but I had a lot more fun in college and had a lot more confidence with guys.  Don't send yourself into that trap of constant negative thinking.  Think positively, notice all the great things about your body, work out a little bit, and HAVE FUN!!  Everything will fall into place.

#4  allmiiluhvx3 Jun 14 2007 10:52
Thanks everyone I really appreciate all the positive responses :] I think I just need to work out more and be more confident. I'm not used to this new weight and when I look at myself in the mirror I'm not happy with what I see. But hopefully this site can help me change that

ATFG, that's kind of an interesting 1st reply given the reaction to vmc's response to your thread on why you feel like leaving CC...

Workout more!

If you start a running program now you'll start to feel better about yourself not just because your legs will tone up and other stuff but also the endorphins will help make you feel good.

I see nothing wrong with your current size though.  You need some fat down there just incase you have 1 last growth spurt left.   Imagine you got another 2 inches or so taller!  If you diet too much now you possibly won't ever get that bit of growth.

So run girl run!   Get some exercise.   The asthma will get better.

I am 5'2 and 125lbs and I couldnt even imagine being 100 or less. that is just underweight. I think you should see a counsler or something. It seems to me you might have a problem.

If you feel like you need to lose a bit to feel great, just do it the healthy way.

Why is your throwing up "not bulimia"? 

You look beautiful to me, by the way.

allmiiluhvx3-  You are gorgeous and look great. 

I agree with alayney.  You are growing into being a woman.  Extreme dieting and throwing up will only stunt your growth and harm you.

110 pounds/108 pounds in a great weight to be at for your height. 

I have to throw this in.... just because some of us are within our "normal" or "healthy" range doesn't mean we still don't have places to tone up!

thanks everyone :] you all made very valid points. i realize i should work out more than anything but yeah, my asthma only bothers me when i exercise. i saw another post about an 8 week running schedule and maybe i'll try that :] i appreciate all the concern and support!

I look back at when I was 16 and I was convinced I was fat, upset about my body, hated wearing swimsuits, blah blah blah.  Everything that you said.  And now I'd kill to be at that weight.  I absolutely wasn't fat, looked good in fact.  Just to give you some perspective.  Teens really suffer from the whole media thing that shows these teeny little models when in reality hardly anyone looks like that.  You sound perfectly sized to me.  I agree that exercise is a good thing, not necessarily to lose, but for cardiovascular health and long-term weight maintenance.  I don't think it's possible to be "fat" at the weight of 110 no matter what your height is unless you're a little person or somthing.  Maybe your body isn't completely perfect, but no one's is.  That's reality without plastic surgery and airbrushing.

Yeah, I guess. I should see my doctor about getting a new inhaler. And it's deffinately true that when you see those models and stuff you're like fuckkkk, look at them. I'm not  sure, I don't think I'm fat or obese by any means I just think I'm overweight and have too much fat on my body.

It is bilemia and you are in denial. If you don't stop this kind of behavior now, you will do grave and serious damage to your body, including your esophagus.  

Try seeking the help of a counselor  ...the first step is admitting you have a problem.