Is it just me, or...

..,has there been a recent influx of people to this forum who are already underweight or low-normal (BMI 19 or less) trying to lose more weight? I expect to see that on the Young Calorie Counter forum, but I'm disappointed to see so much of it here. I get so frustrated reading posts where it seems like people who already look extremely thin are talking about how fat and gross they are. I mean, come on, if your BMI is 17 you are probably not as fat and gross as you think you are. Either that or folks will find a way to drop their (low) BMI into the conversation when it really isn't necessary. 

CC has been a great tool for me but I'm starting to think maybe it's time to take a break, because it is really getting to me (and yes, I am aware that I can just not read those posts but I can't always tell just from the title).

Does anyone else feel this way, or is it just me?

No, I agree. Some posts have really triggered me on and off. I've struggled with a past ED. But then binge ate and gained about 50 pounds or so. My goal is to get down to an actual healthy weight instead of being underweight..but when I see posts like the ones you mention it frustrates and upsets me and kind of triggers that *part* in my mind that even if I reach my goal I may be considered still fat even to these people and it's upsetting.

I thought CC was about health not about being skin and bones..it's becoming disturbing and I know if it is triggering me it HAS to be triggering those badly who are just into their recovering. So I've pondered on leaving the site too.

^ silentdeadly, NO! :(
You can't leave!!!

You can still at least make appearances in calcat's group! All we talk about it sex anyways...
WE NEED YOU! haha.

It seems like a lot of people have been complaining about an increase in this type of behavior. Luckily I haven't really noticed it yet.

Don't leave, there's still plenty of us here who are not trying to get uber-skinny.  (Been there, still didn't look like a supermodel.) 

Ha Ha. Awww..Thanks guys for the support. I must admit even though some of these posts can be somewhat frustrating this site IS VERY addicting. I guess you have to ignore these kind of posts and look for the support and positivity of those who are trying to be healthy. Thanks. :)

Don't forget, we have the "block" feature!  To to the offending member's profile and click on block.  You won't see their posts.  I don't usually block, I just ignore.  You can usually recognize those posts by the titles or by the very first words of text, and learn to skip over them. 

I would never have made it this far without the support of other CC members who have been so very kind to me.  Mostly I communicate my personal story in my journal. 

Typically I would just say "hey, whatever, if they want to be miserable with their tiny bodies, fine,"  but I do agree that it can bring you down.

I am not trying to lose...I actually went a little overboard and now I am trying to determine if I should keep maintaining or actually try to gain a little back...but it's hard to make a healthy decision when there are people who are as small or smaller than me talking about wanting to continue to lose more weight.  I try not to be susceptible to pressure from faceless, anonymous people online, but it can be hard.  It's our nature to always be comparing our situation to the situations of other.

I hope no one leaves this site for that reason, but it is important to keep a clear head.  You know what is best for you, and if you're going to listen to anyone else, listen only to the people you have real relationships with...your friends on here who have see your progress and the people who see you every day in real life.  Sometimes when I have a "fat day" (and everyone has one once in a while, no matter how healthy or skinny) my husband has to give me a reality check and say "you might feel gross, but you aren't fat. period."

Do keep in the back of your mind, though, that you may not always know where that thin person started. Hopefully all of us will one day be trying to lose that last 5 or 10 pounds. It couldn't feel nice for the group that helped and supported when someone had a large amount of pounds to lose to suddenly shun that same person when they have been successful and have only 5 to go to meet their goal. Some people really are tiny at a healthy weight.

Now as far as people saying "I'm fat and I look gross"-- I agree. That's not only untrue but also rude. And of course everybody feels gross some days.. but a little consideration for how one's words will be taken, especially on a site where others are struggling with losing weight as well, could go a long way when expressing that.

Thanks for the replies, everyone. SDR, I hope you don't leave. I have decided to stay, myself. I am going to choose to ignore the posts that may trigger me. And of course I am not trying to be unsupportive to those who are losing their last few pounds - but as for someone who is already underweight (not by CC's standards, but under 18.5 BMI) and is talking about losing more, well, I am not going to support that. Especially a teenager who is still growing. I will just stay away.

I know I find it very difficult to read "hi I'm 95 pounds and five foot five.  I noticed a drop of cellulite on my thigh.....help me lose 35 lbs."  Okay maybe not that bad but that is what I hear in my head.  Don't leave, just ignore.

Sometimes I just feel like screaming "TRY BEING 5'0" AND 250 LBS!"

Grrr drives me mental!

~H~

I think CC needs to make cuts on people who dont need to loose weight.

it is discouraging, YES i am in the HEALTHY BMI level but im the high end of normal. I'm trying to loose a few "vanity pounds"- i started at 138, im down to 126 and i want tobe 115. So its discouraing when i read someone who is 5'5 110 lbs and wants to be 95 lbs. Its like well if they are calling themselves fat and discusting....what about me?!? So when iread that it makes ME feel fat and disgusting!!! its so discouraging. I think there needs to be a requirement met in order to be on CC. because they are just discouraging to all of us.

I dont mean to sound like im fat and disgusting because im not fat- i'm happy with the way things are turning out. But it just makes it worse reading that, i agree.

Before c-c got the weight gain forum, there were a lot more of these threads in weight loss.

C-C is about healthy eating and for some members weight gain is serious part of their health and recovery.

Yes it is hard for me to grasp that someone who weighs under 140 lbs can call themselves fat.  Makes me wonder sometimes what they would call themselves if they weighed what I do.

I have seen a lot of members come to c-c with a certain train of thought and very set in their ways and after some kind words of encouragement and some good education on how to eat healthy, they change.

As claire states, use the block feature and ignore triggering posts.