Do you ever just have a day. . .

Where you want to cry?

Maybe not cry. . . but feel extremely discouraged? Last week this happened to me; I went to a buffet and ended eating at least 1,200 calories worth of Chinese food (on accident-- who KNEW how many calories were in hot and sour soup alone!!). Since then I've been trying to peek at the calories at restaurants before I go there so I know what to get. . .this has been working. . but then . .

Today the same thing happened! I went out to a seafood restaurant, and got double lobsters and a baked potato (only a 450 cal meal). I even remembered to bring my own "I can't believe it's not butter!" But then my mother ordered bottomless fried shrimp and kept popping them on to my plate! I probably only ate 10 max (and they were small!) but when I got online to log the calories, come to find out that was at least 300 calories I didn't plan on (not to mention the tater sauce I dipped in a bit!) Now I feel like crap and am dreading the scale tomorrow morning.

What sucks even more is that every memeber of my family is considered overweight, and they're completely comfortable with this. Great for them! I wish I could feel that way about my body. But it just sucks because A. They are constantly eating crappy food and slipping it onto my plate (literally my house is loaded with junk food). And B. They make me feel bad about myself when I accidentally wonder out loud how many calories are in something. Or order a salad instead of coleslaw, etc.

Do you ever have eater's remorse? Or just a day where you know you are going to go log your meals and see something you don't like? I'm supposed to go to a friend's BBQ but I think I would rather stay home and work out for a bit instead so I can feel better about myself.

Ok, first of all... we do all have those days.  dieting or watching calories is hard.  it doesn't make it any easier that your family is unsupportive of your healthy lifestyle approach.  they apparently aren't comfortable with their selves if they make you feel bad for wondering how many calories are in things.  Good for you for wondering what you're putting in your body!!!! 

There will always be people who are afraid of changing themselves or the people around them changing.  I hope you don't feel bad for very long because you are making the right decision caring about yourself.  In some way, you need to let your family know this is important to you.  They don't have to be a part of it if they feel uncomfortable.

I think you're doing a great job about being careful.  Just stay optimistic and ask for their support....and...if you don't get it, we'll always be here!!  Good luck!!! 

And yes.....I have for sure had eater's remorse.......m&m mcflurry anyone??

If I have days like that I don't log them and consider them a 'cheat day', then get right back on eating healthy the next day/meal. I know just knowing the amount of calories I ate will bum me out and make me continue the vicious cycle "Well I'm already screwed, why not eat some of this too then".

I have a question though... when you say "they are constantly eating crappy food and slipping it onto my plate" why do you eat it? Just because it's there doesn't mean you have to indulge... Sure, if you want it have a little, but if she's tossing 10+ shrimp onto your plate that you don't want... why add those extra calories?

Don't feel bad about making healthier choices. If you honestly need to feel bad, feel bad for them... As nice as it is to live in blissful ignorance, it's rarely a good choice.

You're entitled to have a bad day as you are only human :).  Counting calories can be stressful at times and it can almost become an obsession if you let it.  I've learned that I don't have to "eat perfectly" all the time, nor do I.  I'm pretty flexible with my diet and strive to eat healthily 90% of time.  One thing that really helps me is that I don't eat out often.  I do most of my own cooking and that makes a big difference.  When I first started on CC, I had gone to Zaxby's for lunch one day and I got a grilled chicken sandwich b/c I thought it was the "healthiest" thing on the menu.  Boy was I wrong!  That thing had like 1000 cals in it b/c they use brioche buns.  JUST the bread had like 500 cals.  I was floored.

It really is a good idea to look up nutritutional info online before eating out.  That way you'll be armed and ready when you go out to eat and you'll know exactly what to order.  As far your family is concerned, do your best to walk to the beat of your OWN drum.  They don't have to live in your body- you do.  Perhaps you should mention that you feel like your efforts are being sabotaged at times and you would appreciate it if they would let you handle your own business.  Just know that you're doing a great thing by trying to get fit and healthy.  It's not easy and you will make mistakes or have bad days, but that is what life's all about.  Just learn from it and move on while always keeping your eye on the goal. :)

i had that feel this morning!

i went out to eat at a friends last night, and she made corn on the cob, potato, beef burger, and butter!!

i logged it in this morning and i am so over my daily calories i wanted to cry!

but you know what, i had a lovely evening, so today is a new day, and i am back on it!!!!!!!

by you eating well and consientiously, it is highlighting for your family how unhealthily they are being, and they probably don't like it! if they put something on your plate, say no thank you, if they still put it there. leave it. its hard to see it there, but if you keep eating the food they put there, they will keep putting it there.

a big congratualtions on choosing to eat more healthy, its a great step, and keep on it. Well done XX

and lastly- you didn't mention aything about exercise?? ....maybe get a little more active- and after a meal like you mentioned- go for a long walk, you may feel like you are being pro active after they've fed you up!!!!!

i knoww the feeling :]

i overate yesterday as well...
i did absoutly perfect alll daaayy loonngg.
logged my calories and everything
untill my friends showed up and brought pizza hut with them.

yes pizza hut, my number one downfall

so i totally pigged out and got all bloated feeling and nasty. blechh.
so i when i went to bed and woke up, i was totally bummed out. i didnt even want to go near the scale. but you know what? everyone has those moments, and today is a new day :)

got to stay possitive and remember you can always fix your mistakes :)

Don't step on that scale!!!

Seriously, there is no way you can have gained any significant weight from an extra 300-500 calories, so rest assured your actual body mass probably didn't go up.  You don't need to see that 1 lb of water retention or whatever the heck it is clinging to you. 

For example, I ended up having 1/2 of a cupcake, 6 wings, a few fries, and a decent chunk of cheesecake yesterday.  I braved the scale, and I'm a pound up, but considering that was ALL I had yesterday (not in any way typical for me, I woke up horrifically late), and walked around 3 miles, it's probably not likely that it's a "real" pound. 

Don't sweat the small stuff.  Enjoy the memory of the shrimp because you're going to go back to healthy tomorrow :)  (Next time, have a couple less shrimp and skip the sauce entirely!)

EDIT: pesky typo :)

If you do have a bad day...do not beat yourself up!  We have all done it...it is normal...and I do not just mean eating...it applies to everything in life.

DO log and record what you ate when this happens.  You still have to be accountable to yourself.  It is funny how the brain will let you think ..."Hey, you did not log it...so it did not happen!"  Do NOT let that happen, because if you do, the next time will be easier to justify...then so on and so on...Do not sabotage yourself!

Give yourself a break!  Remember all the good things that you are doing and all the good habits that you are starting!  Also, just take it one day at a time.  Each day is a new day to begin!

Good luck~

parrothead ... you are so right! if i turn my laptop off early at night, i can go on and eat calories after and not log them like its not happening!!! now i have to keep the laptop on until i actually go to bed, to ensure i don't try and trick myself!!

You all have helped me feel so much better about this :)

I decided to add one maintenance day a week to my eating plan. I really can't eat a TON of food, so on the maintenance day I probably eat 2,500 calories MAX, and my normal burn rate is 2100 calories a day + however much I exercise. So basically I have a day where I don't gain, lose, or feel guilty about it :)

I have also stopped beating myself up if the scale goes up instead of down. I am committed this journey weather I take a day off or not, and that's what really matters! Over the past week I have begun telling myself that it's ALL a learning experience! And that has helped as well.

Thanks to those who offered encouagement and advice :)