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Scared to go to the gym alone!


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I'd have to say my biggest issue with losing weight is going to the gym alone.  I have a friend who usually goes with me, but some weeks she can't at all and then I end up not going because I'm too self-conscious to go alone. 

I'm 17 and 5'2", and I weigh about 148lbs.  No one believes me when I tell them my weight because I know how to dress so I don't look that heavy.  It's safe to say I'm pretty uncomfortable with my body, and I feel like I'm letting MYSELF down by not being comfortable with my body.  I constantly make promises to myself that I'm going to stop snacking on bad fods, etc and then I just say, "Well.. I'll start tomorrow." and it never works out that way.

Any words of wisdom to be comfortable with going to the gym alone?

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Original Post by megnaay:

I'd have to say my biggest issue with losing weight is going to the gym alone.  I have a friend who usually goes with me, but some weeks she can't at all and then I end up not going because I'm too self-conscious to go alone. 

I'm 17 and 5'2", and I weigh about 148lbs.  No one believes me when I tell them my weight because I know how to dress so I don't look that heavy.  It's safe to say I'm pretty uncomfortable with my body, and I feel like I'm letting MYSELF down by not being comfortable with my body.  I constantly make promises to myself that I'm going to stop snacking on bad fods, etc and then I just say, "Well.. I'll start tomorrow." and it never works out that way.

Any words of wisdom to be comfortable with going to the gym alone?

Trust me when I tell you...NOBODY cares what you look like in the gym... we are all there to get fit...if everyone in the gym was the way they wanted to be...they wouldn't be there.  you should go by yourself, and try it...don't look at anyone else, and to be honest I think you are very very beautiful, and you have so many years ahead of you...When you get older you'll be the hottest thing since sliced bread....so don't worry about people and their looks...if they are looking at you...it's because you are actually extremely attractive.  stay safe, and good luck to ya...

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Hi!

 

I know some people who feel the same way nad I have felt that way in the past too.  I am over it now and go to the gym by myself most of the time now.

 

One thing i have shared with friends who are intimidated/scared by the gym - remember why you are going there.  Keep that in the forefront of your mind.  I am by no means a tiny woman - still a size 16/18 - but when I see others at the gym who appear to maybe be newbies - my thought is WOW WAY TO GO!!!!!

 

And most people at the gym are there for one reason - to work out - so you do the same nad keep focused, hold your head high, and get on those machines!

 

In all seriousness - you may not want to do it alone, but YOU are all YOU can completely depend on.  How good will you feel after your work out when you are walking OUT of the gym alone?  Pretty darn good is my thought!

 

Good luck - you can do this!  No one is there to judge.  You are doign something very good and positive for yourself when you go to the gym, with or without a friend!

 

 

Thanks so much for the words of encouragement!  I'm going to make it my New Years Resolution to start going to the gym alone.  I'll let you guys know how it goes.  Thanks again. :)

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I used to be self conscience going to the gym by myself and your story pretty much sounds like mine. Im 24 and no one believes me when I tell them about my weight. Don't deny yourself food that you love. Just watch the portions that you eat. Eat them on smaller plates and with smaller spoons and forks. Getting over your body image is a hard thing. I still have problems with it at times. Get used to looking at your body by standing in front of a mirror. I know it sounds crazy but it might help. Thats what I do. My last bit of advise would be when you go to the gym zone out. Your work out is more important than what other people think of you. Besides people are usually too busy on their own workout anyways. The more you goby yourself the less self conscience you'll be over time.

I LOVE going to the gym myself-when i go with my friends, its fun, we chat, but i get NOTHING done!

Going by yourself you can just put your head down and get in a really good workout without the distraction; and i know people say it aaaaaall the time, but no-one is looking at you! For example, do you think you could pick 3 people out of a lineup that were at the gym last time you were there?

-me neither!!

You guys are all probably right, I know... it's just in my head. :(

I feel ya, I had a gym membership with two of my friends and as soon as they stopped going, so did I. I used to be afraid to go anywhere myself, like the grocery store or the mall... but I've mostly gotten over it. Exc3ept the gym. Now I only go to the gym at my apartment complex and I still won't go by myself, I only go if my boyfriend will go with me. Once I was afraid to go to a gym WITH my boyfriend because I thought it was crowded. I'm such a paaansy! So don't feel bad :] You aren't alone.

I know it's really easy for me to say this, but I think you really should just do it.  The more you think about it, the bigger it becomes.  I have this same issue - some days I don't want to work out and I start entertaining the idea of not going, as soon as I do that the battle is over and I don't go.  I have really slide off track with this lately.  It is basically about committment, if you commit to doing it - do it! The first time will be the worst, but it probably won't be as bad as you think.  Then every time there after will be easier.  My new years resolution this year is going to be to stop entertaining the idea of not working - stick to the plan, no excuses.  Laughing

You're right - I just have to force myself to do it.  You know, I LOVE to workout... I actually really enjoy doing it, it's just really hard to go alone because I'm self-conscious.  However, I have overcome a lot since getting my membership.  The first time there was a cute guy in the cardio room, and I literally ran in the opposite direction and waited for him to leave. :P

We're almost always far more critical of ourselves than other people are, so try not to worry about what other people are thinking (they're probably busy worrying about how they look). Just go the the gym, focus on your own workout and have fun.

And don't wait until after new years, the gym will be packed then. It's relatively quiet and empty this time of year so enjoy it while it lasts.

I've learned that I get a much better workout when it's just me and my ipod at the gym! :)

Original Post by mbchandler:

We're almost always far more critical of ourselves than other people are, so try not to worry about what other people are thinking (they're probably busy worrying about how they look). Just go the the gym, focus on your own workout and have fun.

And don't wait until after new years, the gym will be packed then. It's relatively quiet and empty this time of year so enjoy it while it lasts.

Ooh... that's true, isn't it.  Maybe it'll be better for me to try out the gym alone when not many people are there.  Good thinking!  Thanks for pointing that out. :)

I felt very self conscience about going to the gym by myself when I was my heaviest, which was 200 and 5'3. I was so embarrassed to go but knew I needed help. From me I went to Curves. It seemed a little less scary because it was for women only and when I checked it out the women there seemed to be much like I was. I slowly became more comfortable there and decided to try other things. I when to a yoga class at our local community centre. I remember starting to cry there because I felt so awful, the biggest person there, the least fit, I felt like everyone was looking at me... I wanted to run away... but I stayed and even went back, each week got better as I realized no one cared about how I looked. About a year and half later I quit Curves and joined the YMCA. I was about 50 lbs less and was amazed that I was ever scared of such a place. I still work out there today, feel completely comfortable, and aways on my own.

I completely understand your fears, but don't let it get in your way of reaching your goals. There will be a day when you will not feel self conscience at all, knowing that no matter what your size you, no one is worried about you, judging you or staring at you. At the gym you will only find people all working towards there own health goals.

Best of luck!

Thanks so much.  That really helps, hearing your story and that you managed to get over it.  I'm tired of being self-conscious... it stops me from doing a lot of things.  I barely swim anymore, and I absolutely love it.  I go to Melbourne, Florida every year and this was the first year I felt too self-conscious to wear an actual bikini on the beach.  Do you know how hard it was to NOT go in the water?  SO FREAKING HARD!

you got great advice from everyone here. I just wanna add a little thing. 

PLEASE FORGET ABOUT THE CUTE GUY OTHERWISE YOU WILL NOT GET ANY WORKOUT DONE. I am telling you this from my experience. :)

best of luck.

I know, I know.  He probably wasn't even looking at me anyways.  I was just thinking about it and I think I'm actually MORE comfortable when the gym is busy, because that way it's not just me and someone else... it's a bunch of people.  Then I get the feeling that the focus isn't just on me, and it makes me feel better.

Time for some tough love: If you'd spent as much time at the gym as you've spent in this thread hemming & hawing & fretting about it then you'd probably have gotten in a few stellar, satisfying workouts already...

So don't think about it for another hour - spend that hour working out and fret about it afterwards if you must (or don't fret about it ever again ;-)

No More Excuses! Take action! You asked for input & these generous folks have given you a ton of good advice, so now live up to your part of the bargain and follow it! Get out of your own way, stop letting your fear of what others might think keep you sidelined, and listen to the half a dozen people here who are encouraging you - time's a wasting!

Maybe set a goal for yourself, like tell yourself you won't post in this thread again until you can report to us all that you've gone to the gym by yourself and kicked yourself into high gear :-)

Just Do it!!!

That is my goal then.  Not one more word until I've gone to the gym ON MY OWN. :)

 

(You might not be hearing from me for a while. ;)  JK!!)

You've gotten good advice here, just one more thing...

I usually bring my ipod (or music player) and then close my eyes and pretend I'm all alone...the music helps block out the sounds of other people.

Good luck!

The gym is MY TURF. MY SQUAT RACK MY DUMBBELLS MINE MINE MINE. I pay a lot of money for that stupid place, I'm gonna strut around like I own it. And man, if I catch you leaving your stupid plates on my bar I'll ruin your day.

 

see how easy?

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