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how deep does a cut have to be to leave a scar?


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and can you tell if a cut or scratch is going to leave a scar?

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if you're self harming - then you need to get some professional help

i'm just asking.

I agree with fidget but if its a cat scratch or something you can minimize the scarring with vitamine E and other essential oils - google it 

Judging by all your 'Just asking' threads, I think you need serious psychological and physical help, my friend...

Any scratch can become a scar to some degree- how deep a scar is dictates on how the scar would look though...

depends on the healing, even a shallow scratch can leave a scar if not left to heal properly.

i used to SI and i find this quit offensive...if ur guna cut urself because ur unhappy then you dont tent to care about the scar it leaves just about how to inflict as much pain as possible on urself. but it sounds to me you want to no hw to cut yourself for attention without havin to have the scars after.....like fidget84 said get some help coz ur sicker that people with real mental disorders

 

Original Post by busta12:

i used to SI and i find this quit offensive...if ur guna cut urself because ur unhappy then you dont tent to care about the scar it leaves just about how to inflict as much pain as possible on urself. but it sounds to me you want to no hw to cut yourself for attention without havin to have the scars after.....like fidget84 said get some help coz ur sicker that people with real mental disorders

 

You're right, you used to cut yourself for the right reason, so you earned those scars.  Don't let this poser take away your accomplishments.

Also, your writing is the most disturbing thing about this thread and I'm pretty sure that cutting yourself to get attention still qualifies you for having a mental disorder. 

Okay. Yes, this is related to SI. Yes, I am seeing someone about it.

I am doing it a lot less and still working on it. I'm not asking how to do it or anything. Sorry if I offended you Busta12. I'm not asking for attention. I'm also not going to go into detail about my situation, reasons etc.

I was honsetly asking a valid question about scarring.

Original Post by busta12:

i used to SI and i find this quit offensive...if ur guna cut urself because ur unhappy then you dont tent to care about the scar it leaves just about how to inflict as much pain as possible on urself. but it sounds to me you want to no hw to cut yourself for attention without havin to have the scars after.....like fidget84 said get some help coz ur sicker that people with real mental disorders

 

So...cutting yourself because you're unhappy gives you more cred if you want to leave a scar? I don't get what offended you about her post. Maybe I find it offensive that you believe that the only reason to cut is to inflict pain.

Anyone who even contemplates self-harm is in need of psychiatric help.

OP- even the minutest cut can leave a scar, especially if it is done on a certain area or with a certain instrument. Some scars don't remain totally visible. Some stand out as permanent reminders of how tortured you were at a certain time in your life. I've heard that Vit-E can drastically reduce the visibility of scars.

P.S.--if you're thinking about self-harming, try holding ice cubes in your hands instead. It's one of the techniques my therapist has me trying. It does work, sometimes. :)

ok everyone stop.

from the get-go i knew this post was about DSH (deliberate self harm). Call it survivors intuition. but this is not going to help anyone by ppl becoming antagonistic or competitive or justifying the reasons for self harming.

Self harm is 2 things. 1. A method of coping and 2. a method of communication. Clearly the o.p's method of communication here was to alert us to the fact that she was self harming. (and yes, it was a very obvious 'i am hurting myself' post). You are clearly using it to cope with something.

Self harm should not in any circumstance be belittled or invalidated. Whatever pushes a person to inflict pain on themselves, indicates that they are crossing their threshold to cope appropriately. By relative standards, some people can cope with a phenomenal amount, and based on environmental and biological circumstances other people can only cope with so much before they begin to do anything  to reduce the intensity of what they are feeling.

We are all aware (and if not - then take note), this post was not about finding out about whether something would or wouldnt cause a scar, if the scar then meant suffering was 'real or pure' etc etc. This post was about alerting anyone to the fact that the op isnt coping and is hurting.

This is an online forum, where in reality, people are powerless to help. You need to seek some real support now, you need to engage with your therapist and in the meantime engage with some distraction techniques to endure the intensity of whatevers going on until it subsides. the intensity will subside. techniques: holding ice-cubes, have a hot shower, count back from 1000 in 3.5's, draw, run, punch a punch-bag, scribble furiously, go into a forrest and scream, cycle a bike really hard, skip, call some friends, watch a funny dvd / youtube clips. enagage in something which will not inflict damage on you or others.

i want to say thankyou for the rplies, especially to fidget84. i am so scared to actually talk to my therapist/anyone about this, but i am having a lot of thinking about what to do, what to say, and how i want to deal withthis. so thankyou.

Trust your therapist.  Tell him/her about it.  They need to know from your lips.....as they probably are already guessing the truth.

Dont be afraid. 

Please please please get help.  SI is such a vicious cycle to get into.  I know it's so hard to open up about this kind of thing, but a therapist will definitely help you learn more appropriate coping mechanisms.  I've been there, but thanks to a therapist I can actually trust, I'm doing so much better.  

If you ever want to talk or if you're feeling like harming yourself, feel free to PM me :)

Original Post by busta12:

i used to SI and i find this quit offensive...if ur guna cut urself because ur unhappy then you dont tent to care about the scar it leaves just about how to inflict as much pain as possible on urself. but it sounds to me you want to no hw to cut yourself for attention without havin to have the scars after.....like fidget84 said get some help coz ur sicker that people with real mental disorders

 

Why do you find it offensive? You don't have to be unhappy to cut yourself, nor do you have to want to inflict pain. Several times I've cut myself, I did it for Blood, and I was grinning like an idiot once I got it. I agree that there is always an underlying problem, but that doesn't have to show when you cut yourself. Hell, when I DON'T get scars I get upset cause I feel I didn't do good enough. And what if they don't have to have scars when they cut themselves? Many people don't, hence the reason they invented scar creams. Don't assume anything without knowing everything.

To the question; I find that when I cut myself quickly without caring, rather than slowly and trying to go deep, I tend to get scars, and bleed more. It's very odd, but that's how it works for me. Good luck with whatever it is you're doing. Other than killing yourself. Cause I don't want to wish anyone luck with that.

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