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Help. Im constipated?


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Hello. This must be the most embarrasing thing I will ever write in my life, but I really need help, because im getting tired of this.

I've been on this caloriethingie for about a month now? And I've never left it, The first week, I noticed that I didn't do number 2 as often as I used to do. (1 every 2 days). And then, well, after that I took Movicol. Something that would help me, and it helped, for like 1 day. The second week without anything, I took Movicol again. After that, It was a little easier for me to go to the toilet etc. But today, I have pains.

Okay, im sorry, I will write something not very nice now, so please stop reading if you are easily disgusted. I have this that, when I try to take it out, it doesent. It's so close, but it wont. It's like it's stuck there.

I don't know, maybe there's nothing, maybe it's just gas. lol. But it feel's like something won't let it out. Im scared to try to hard, because I don't want hemorrhoids.
My butt hurts and I'm scared to eat something more, because I don't want to puke up my food. I don't feel stumach pains or anything like that.

I'm 15 and I don't know what to do. I've told my mom but I didn't tell her this much. I don't want her to worry. Gosh, im so sorry, but Im really freaked out. I haven't made a poo for like 1 week now.

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I've gone a week without a good poo before and I was almost doubled over walking between my classes.  It was not a fun thing, and when I finally did it felt as if I was pooping out a rather large rock (and it wasn't even that big in retrospect).

First things first, what are your fiber, water and fat intakes like on a daily basis.  These three factors are big contributors to your bowel movements.  Fiber and water (soluble and insoluble) bulks everything up, and fat acts as a lubricant to grease things up and get them moving smoothly.  Aim for a minimum of 25g fiber, 2L of water and 15-30% of your daily intake from healthy fats.

Light exercise is also a good thing to help get things moving. When you start moving your body, your bowels seem to want to follow suit.

I would reccomend against the use of laxatives, unless they are in the natural form of things like coffee, prunes and the like.  Ground flaxseed is also great because it contains both fiber and natural omega-3 fatty acids (I like to add some to yogurt, oatmeal, cottage cheese, etc)

Since the caloriecounting, I've noticed that I don't drink water as before. I eat apples everyday, still.

My fiberintake is often to low, my fat is also low sometimes. I've eaten 26g of fiber once, but it was just once. Sometimes it's 11, sometimes 23. I move everyday, and we don't have prunes at home right now. And like I said, im scared to eat more, because I dont want to fill myself up.

I'm also freezing very much right now for some reason. Scared to sit on my butt, and I've eaten about 800 calories today. It's low, but im scared to eat something more, should I eat some yoghurt? What if I puke? I'm really scared.

I've never puked once because of constipation.

Yogurt would be great, the natural probiotics (good bacteria) in it will aid in reducing the bloating you're feeling plus they help the bacteria in your intestines with digestion. (Don't ask me to get too scientific here, google can tell you more then I can)

Also, add in some peanut butter/nuts/seeds if you have any on hand.

 

You should definitely work on increasing your fiber with things like whole grains, vegetables, fruit and legumes.  Apples are great, but if they are your only real source of fiber you're not eating much of a balanced diet then. Even if you have to add in a bowl of Fiber One cereal, it's better than nothing (although if you can get your fiber from less processed foods, it's even better).  And with the increase in fiber, your water intake should go hand in hand (or else you might find yourself in this situation again).

A natural laxative is a Senna/Smooth Move Tea which you can get it in most grocery stores.  You brew it and let it steep for about 10 minutes or so, then sip it slowly before bed.  By the time you wake up in the morning, you should be able to go.  It's my last resort if I eat too much fiber on a continuous basis and am feeling a little backed up and bloated, and it has always has worked for me. :)

Ok, first: There are a lot more embarrassing things written on here every day. I should know, I contribute to a lot of them :-)

Second: This might get a tad unpleasant but won't do lasting harm. Hemmrhoids are usually  due to a general tissue weakness (like varicose veins etc.) and if no other family member has them you probably won't get them either. A few burst bloodvessels don't create hemorrhoids at least as far as I know.

Third: I would suggest you go to a pharmacy, talk to a nice person (trust me, they hear much much worse every day) and buy a little medical anema. The old school kind is better but I don't have the heart to reccomend one to a 15 year old :-) It's a little tube you stick in your bum and squeeze. It softens the stool.

Fourth: You must eat fibre!!! And you've got to drink enough water. I know it's difficult while losing weight. I started a workout program that requests me eating tons of protein and I have the exact same problem at the moment! To stay with my calorie limit I eat to little wholewheat bread etc. and I'm unusually constipated (and I do have hemrrhoids, they run in the family)

Do you eat musli in the morning? Add a tablespoon of ground flaxseed. Ridicolously healthy, slightly nutty/bitter taste that goes nicely with oats and milk. More veggies, mor wholewheat. Keep an eye on the analysis function.

And don't worry too much. It'll be fine. But do talk to a pharmacist. If there are too many people around request a private conversation a bit further apart (gaah, I remeber having thrush and tried to talk to the lay while this guy kept standing impatiently right next to me. I finally had to ask him to please keep a distance. Undecided)

Good luck with the weightloss and don't overdo it with the calorie cutting :-)

The above suggestions are great! Fiber is so very important and definitly make sure you are drinking plenty of water and not sugary drinks. Also, make sure you're getting enough healthy fats, all your organs need it for proper function, cutting too many fats from your diet is like trying to run your car very far without any oil...things stop working pretty fast! I had the same problems at your age mostly because I used to not drink or eat much during school because I didn't want to have to stop at the restroom between classes! It's embarrassing but everybody has to at some point:) The probiotics in yogurt can help to regulate you over time. Defnitely do not rely on laxatives for longer than recommended by a doctor or on the box, prolonged overuse can totally mess up your system making things even worse! Your a bit young to start drinking much coffee, but 1-2 cups in the morning can work wonders for some people in a similar situation. The pain can be excruciating as you know, don't be afraid to ask someone you know and trust for extra help! Blessings!

I couldn't sleep all night. I drank some coffee for about an hour ago and I can feel how it wants to come out, but it's stuck! It feels like something is blocking it. This is disturbing me so much, im scared to go to the bathroom and I'm holding it in because when I'm not, it get's stuck at the opening.

I will tell me mom to buy some activia and some prunejuice, but it's still morning and everybody is asleep. No I don't eat musli, I think we have some. Does it help If I eat it? Im scared to eat anything right now, I'm not hungry and I don't want to fill myself up more. My stumach gives me a disturbing feeling and I'm more afraid now. The only thing Im doing is walking around the house or lying on my side on the bed.

You're gonna be alright, don't panic. This episode is not going to do any sort of permanent damage to your body or anything like that. It sounds like you're extremely uncomfortable, so I'm going to suggest a couple things which won't sound that pleasant in the interest of resolving your issue quickly (if it hasn't resolved itself already).

First thing I would do is get some fat in you. If you have peanut butter or avocados those are both excellent choices. If not, take a couple spoonfuls of olive or vegetable oil. Next, drink some water--try a glass every half hour for a couple of hours. Finally, if you're really desperate, you could lubricate things manually with a little vaseline. This is not by any means a long-term solution, but it occurs to me that it might be a quick fix for you right now.

Once this is resolved you should definitely try to work more fiber, fat, and water into your diet.

ETA: Can't stress it enough, do not panic. Stress will make the problem worse. Also, if you can stand it, moving around is a good idea.

Original Post by wegg:

You're gonna be alright, don't panic. This episode is not going to do any sort of permanent damage to your body or anything like that. It sounds like you're extremely uncomfortable, so I'm going to suggest a couple things which won't sound that pleasant in the interest of resolving your issue quickly (if it hasn't resolved itself already).

First thing I would do is get some fat in you. If you have peanut butter or avocados those are both excellent choices. If not, take a couple spoonfuls of olive or vegetable oil. Next, drink some water--try a glass every half hour for a couple of hours. Finally, if you're really desperate, you could lubricate things manually with a little vaseline. This is not by any means a long-term solution, but it occurs to me that it might be a quick fix for you right now.

Once this is resolved you should definitely try to work more fiber, fat, and water into your diet.

ETA: Can't stress it enough, do not panic. Stress will make the problem worse. Also, if you can stand it, moving around is a good idea.

These are all really good tips. The musli is for afterwards to avoif this happening again.

Don't try and hold it in!!! The muscle around our anus is very flexible, it will proably hurt a bit but if you manage to relax it'll be much much easier. It won't do you any lasting harm!

The position we have on a toilet is also not ideal. Cowering is better, but since you probably don't want to collect your poop of the bathroom floor you can put one foot on the toilet lid (if you're flexible enough) That position helps a bit.

Other postions to help things along: Cowering lke you'd do if you do an outdoor pee, kneeling on the floor with the head to the floor and the butt a bit in the air (that is also great for dislodging gas, btw - see? the things we learn when we grow up :-)  )

But you need to relax! I still think a quick trip to the pharmacy will be easiest but all the things wegg said will also help if you can't get to one..

The turd wants out and the more relaxed you are the better.

Don't worry, sweety, it'll all be ok.

I do not know what movicol is.  Is it a stimulant based laxative?  If so, stay far, far away as it will make the situation worse.  Stimulant laxatives are addictive and require more and more as you continue to use them.  Trust me, I've abused laxatives in the past and stopping them is really hard, really uncomfortable, and resulted in worse constipation than I began with.

I would suggest two things.  First try a stool softener (called Colace in the US) to help loosen things up.  It is not addictive.

Another option is a product in the US called Miralax (polyethylene glycol).  It is an osmotic based laxative.  In general it works by increasing the amount of water that is secreted within the intestines. This effect helps to produce softer, easier-to-pass stools. It is not a stimulant and therefore not addictive for probably should not be used for more than a few weeks.

My thoughts on the cause of your problem is that you probably dropped you caloric intake too quickly and have increased fiber as well as reduced your water consumption.  When increasing fiber it is ESSENTIAL that you increase water intake or else it will have the opposite effect.

As you are only 15 years old, dieting is kinda dangerous as you are still growing. Recommended caloric needs for a 15 year old girl are about 2200 calories a day.  That is to maintain weight.  If you TRULY need to lose weight, you should not drop below 1700 a day without exercise and have more than that if you are exercising.  It takes.

Dieting among teens frightens me.  I suffer from an eating disorder and do not wish the hell of it to anyone.  I truly believe dieting in general is bad for anyone.  I think it is much better to get in touch with your true hunger and fullness cues and eat accordingly.  This will help your body find it's natural weight.  My eating disorder was triggered by wanting to lose weight.  I started calorie counting and got totally addicted.  I am not counting calories anymore and am focusing on recognizing hunger and fullness while still eating extra to gain a bit.  Just my two cents, take it or leave it.  

Movicol is a powder you mix with water and then drink it up. It's nothing dangerous and won't make me addicted.

I don't live in the US, and yes you're right. My fiber and water intake did decrease, but I used to eat about 3500 calories a day and changed it to 1400 calories, then 1000, and I'm also overweight, so maybe it's like you said. I can't stop caloriecounting, It feels like it's something I have to do. I've eaten 900-1000 calories for a month now, and yes. It's wrong and not healthy, so I'm gonna take it up to 1200 when i'm ready. Maybe it's to low, but I'm scared of going higher for now.

I'm not a very active person, and my BMR tells me that I lose about 1800 calories a day, so eating 1700 is way to much?

It's just that I've never stuck to something this long, and I've never felt hungry on this caloriethingy. I always used to eat just because, so now I'm more careful. I'm sure you know much more about this compared to me, and I'm not arguing or anything. =)

It's just that I'm to scared to eat over 1000 calories, and I'm also to scared because of my "constipation". I'm trying to drink more water, but I've read that water can make it worse? I've bought some plums and activia. I just hope it will get better tomorrow, cause it hurts when it wants to come out. :/

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I don't live in the US, and yes you're right. My fiber and water intake did decrease, but I used to eat about 3500 calories a day and changed it to 1400 calories, then 1000, and I'm also overweight, so maybe it's like you said. I can't stop caloriecounting, It feels like it's something I have to do. I've eaten 900-1000 calories for a month now, and yes. It's wrong and not healthy, so I'm gonna take it up to 1200 when i'm ready. Maybe it's to low, but I'm scared of going higher for now.

It's just that I'm to scared to eat over 1000 calories, and I'm also to scared because of my "constipation". I'm trying to drink more water, but I've read that water can make it worse? I've bought some plums and activia. I just hope it will get better tomorrow, cause it hurts when it wants to come out. :/

This article might interest you when it comes to eating at such an unhealthy calorie level.

And no wonder you can't poop. With a slowed metabolism caused by undereating, the rate at which food is absorbed into the body is slowed down. Starvation can seriously disrupt the body's normal functions involved in the elimination process.

Nemochan, don't you have a pharmacy you can go to? Seriously you need to tackle the current problen from the bottom end and insert something that softens the stool. Just explain to a pharmacist what the problem is.

And, yes, it might hurt a bit when it comes out, but it's not like you're giving birth -even if it might seem that way.

Also: Just because you take movicol with water doesn't make it any less of a prescription drug. if you take it regularily you will become dependent on it for any kind of bowel movement. It's meant for oaccasional use - which seems to be what you have done.

Your post is raising a lot of red flags. This especially I can't stop caloriecounting, It feels like it's something I have to do. I've eaten 900-1000 calories for a month now, and yes. It's wrong and not healthy, so I'm gonna take it up to 1200 when i'm ready. Maybe it's to low, but I'm scared of going higher for now. It's an eating disorder in the making.

Please listen to the advice of people who in some cases have been at the end of that dangerous road you're on and up your calories to a healthy level. If you mess up your metabolism and/or affect your growth you will deal with the effects long term.

Are you doing any kind of excercise? What is your actual weight and height?

 

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Original Post by kikt:

Nemochan, don't you have a pharmacy you can go to? Seriously you need to tackle the current problen from the bottom end and insert something that softens the stool. Just explain to a pharmacist what the problem is.

And, yes, it might hurt a bit when it comes out, but it's not like you're giving birth -even if it might seem that way.

Also: Just because you take movicol with water doesn't make it any less of a prescription drug. if you take it regularily you will become dependent on it for any kind of bowel movement. It's meant for oaccasional use - which seems to be what you have done.

Your post is raising a lot of red flags. This especially I can't stop caloriecounting, It feels like it's something I have to do. I've eaten 900-1000 calories for a month now, and yes. It's wrong and not healthy, so I'm gonna take it up to 1200 when i'm ready. Maybe it's to low, but I'm scared of going higher for now. It's an eating disorder in the making.

Please listen to the advice of people who in some cases have been at the end of that dangerous road you're on and up your calories to a healthy level. If you mess up your metabolism and/or affect your growth you will deal with the effects long term.

Are you doing any kind of excercise? What is your actual weight and height?

 

 kikt is right!!! It's a terrifying feeling but many people have gone through this! My mom was and RN and had to help remove quite a few impactions. You shouldn't be to that point yet. You should think about what kikt said, tackle this from the other end. It doesn't take much to make you feel like you have a boulder in the way. Sounds like you need to talk to a pharmacist and let them help you find a good suppository!!!

1.  Make sure you're getting enough fiber in your diet.  Google "high fiber food list" for assistance in this area.

2.  Make sure you're drinking enough water, 8-8 oz glasses per day minimum of just plain water.

3.  There is an herbal tea at your health food store called, "Smooth Move."  This tea works wonders.   

I've never been what one would call "regular."  But with doing the three things above, I haven't had many problems.

And don't just let it go.  When I was 12 they rushed me to the hospital with what they thought was an apendicitis attack.  It was severe constipation and holy moly, it was a most INTENSE pain.

Best wishes,

Karen

Are you doing any kind of excercise? What is your actual weight and height?

We have athletics at school 2 hours/week(We run, play fotball, , but other than that = Nothing. I don't really have te time to exercise because of my homework, also I try to hang out with my friends as much as I can on my spare time.

Last time I weighed myself was 1 month ago, and I was 5.2 foot tall(159 cm) and 143 pounds(65 kg). I was told to lose about 20 pounds by my school nurse.

It's over! It's out! :D

This morning was painful etc, but after some plums, activia and movicol who I took yesterday(I ate some plums today too) It was easy for me. I just sat on the toilet 2 minutes ago and plong plong! XD

Im reaaaally happy now. Lol, yay! =)

 

That's awesome!!! Now remember to take some of the great advice from the above posts...You don't want to go through this again!!! :)

Honestly, at your age, I was somewhat similar in size; 5'5" and around 150. The people who saw that number said I was overweight, but I was very active and healthy!!! Before you take your nurses suggestion tooo much more to heart, how do you actually feel? Your body still has lots of changes to go through yet. I took a lot of criticism from well-meaning adults (who were very wrong to do so, I was never shaped like a waif, I was always curvaceous so I never fit in with the rest of my class-mates physically), and it messed me up pretty bad. I'm really just now hitting my stride, and getting in the best shape I have been in for the last 15 years! If you are feeling unhealthy, try to be more active, play sports when you're out with friends or just walk etc. Don't cut your calories down so much! Foods with more calories that are packed with nutrition are so much better for you than low calorie foods with hardly any nutritional benefits! Fibrous foods should be your best friend along with healthy proteinsand healthy fats and some brain-building carbs! Learn healthy eating and cooking habits now! The longer you stay away from processed foods the less you'll want/crave them! This site is full of great suggestions and support!!! There are many of us here who can really sympathize, we've been there!!!

Remember that you are an individual and as such should not be forced into somebody else's idea of what your actual weight number should be!!! I had a friend in elementary school who was always slim, but did a lot of karate and so she weighed a lot more than what you would think by looking at her!!! If you took her weight and height by themselves(not looking at her) she would have been on the heavy side of the weight chart, but she was in extremely good health and very fit and slim! On the flip side , there are people who are skinny but have no muscle tone and are unhealthy! Just be the best/healthiest YOU YOU can be!!!

Never be afraid to ask for help!!! Take care! Many blessings!

Original Post by nemochan:

It's over! It's out! :D

This morning was painful etc, but after some plums, activia and movicol who I took yesterday(I ate some plums today too) It was easy for me. I just sat on the toilet 2 minutes ago and plong plong! XD

Im reaaaally happy now. Lol, yay! =)

 

Yay!!!! And? Is it a boy or a girl?  ;-P

So, I'll play the annyoing teacher and ask, 'What have we learned from this?' :-) You've got to eat healthier, which in your case means enough calories, more fibre and some more fat. You need to drink more water! You need to move more. (It's not called bowel movement for nothing)

Seriously, 2 hours a week is nothing if you sit at a desk, on a bed, in front of the tv all the other times. Moving includes riding a bike, dancing, being silly in public pools, walking through parks, riding a horse etc. Since I assume your friends are in a similar postions I suggest you all start to get out more and start moving your butts!

You need to eat enough or you risk development problems. At 5'2" and 65kg (which are almost my stats, btw) you are mildly overweight but not dangerously so, so you really don't have to lose those 20 pounds in a few weeks! If that much is even needed! I think your nurse is a bit of an idiot. I'm arriving at a smaller number if I'm playing aorund with the BMI tool and it's very likely that you'll still grow a few inches.

You will be able to starve those 20 pounds off you with 800 cals a day before the bikin season starts but they'll pile right back on plus more once you start eating normally again. (And you will start eating more eventually - one way or the other) I used this calculator to see what your maintenance level is (which isn't your BMR by the way - that's what your body uses to keep functioning when you are in a coma) It's also saying what amounts of what you should ideally be eating (notice the 24grams of fat!)

If you shave off 500 cals from that you end up with 1350cals a day and your goal weight in about half a year.

Patience, young skywalker! It took you a few years to pile those pounds on, it'll take a few months to get them off.

But you clearly have the willpower to do it, so I'm confident that you can make it - the healthy way!

x

eta: sorry for posting a second sermon, but gb4 stealthily posted hers while I was still writing mine! And I'm not deleting all that well meant waffling :-)

Ive been through this before and i know its actually scary so first: relax!

Ok, like everyone said above, you should see a pharmacist or a doctor to ask their professional opinion! But ive been through this because cause of an eating disorder (i didnt eat enough to go to the bathroom and eventually got constipated..) and i know how much it sucks.

I woke up crying because my stomach hurt SO BAD. It feels like your pregnant with a rock and it looks like it right? but your ot gonna eb like this forever haha!!

Have you every had milk of magnesium? it taste like CRAP but it helped me.

Also prunes, senna tea, heating pad and water water water. Tell your mom about it too , my mom helped me a lot. Yeah its embarrassing but you wan this over right?

Good luck! Im sorry cause i know how you feel!

ps: when you first poo, it feels soooo awesome!!! im not even joking--when i did my bizznizz i feel on the bathroom floor and just layed there for awhile because it felt so good.

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