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Male - Low BMI - No sex drive - No libido


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I'm 29, 6'3'' and in the mornings I usually weigh 130-132 pounds.  

I just joined this site as I'm just coming to terms with the fact that I may have an eating disorder.  I have foods that I feel safe with, consume a lot of same kinds of foods, etc.  I've realized the major fear I have around gaining.  

I don't know if my BMI is THAT low for consequences and things, but has anyone else totally lost their libido with a low BMI?  I mean, I have no sexual interest whatsoever, and haven't for over a year.  

Edited Dec 27 2011 11:40 by coach_k
Reason: Moved to Health and Support as more appropriate
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It definitely sounds to me like you may have an eating disorder. Have you talked to anyone (doctors, therapists, etc) about it?

Given your stats, your BMI is about 16, which is very underweight, especially for a male (a healthy BMI is between 18.5 - 25.0). To put it in perspective, even when I weighed 130 lbs, and being 5'7", I still looked way too thin. The loss of libido is to be expected. When you're underweight, levels of hormones like Testosterone drop. To complicate matters, these hormones are derived from fat, and since most people with eating disorders avoid foods with fat, this could be a major contributing factor. Your sexual drive won't return until you gain weight and allow your body to repair the damages done during your restriction. Although, I highly recommend you see a doctor and have them help you develop a meal plan and work at the issues that may have triggered this behavior.

Hope this helps a bit!

i can totally relate to what you have said i am 23years old and 6ft 2inches and weigh about 130lbsish i dont know exactly i haven't weighted myself in 5 days is. i have no sex drive at the moment. i have been seeing a Councillor now for about three months. i said i was trying to recover then but i wasn't really i was still letting the ed take control. only in the last three days have i been trying to recover properly im not going to go into details about how many calories ect.. but if you want someone to talk to just message me.

i defiantly agree with goobyb you need to see someone

Man I know what your going through! When I was fat I had no sexdrive. And when I got too skinny I had none. BUT! Listen there is hope if you focus your attention of gaining muscle mass (Not to be huge I'm not into that maybe you are :P ) Then you get the best of both worlds my friend A healthy sex drive and a lean body. See the key is this. If your too skinny you libido drops too fat same problem. BUT! with increased muscle mass (even just a few pounds) It boosts testosterone even with an extremely low Body fat percentage. So to regain your vigor you need to gain some weight my friend muscle or fat. And don't be scared I know what your going through I'm recovering from an eating disorder I obtained from slimming down. I wish you the best of luck my friend! 

goobyb - I still eat fat, like peanut butter for example, just not a lot of it because most foods with a lot of fat seem to pack a lot of calories.  

That should be the least of your concern now. In fact, it is highly encouraged to eat foods high in fat because they are so calorie dense.

Original Post by chrisj88:

i can totally relate to what you have said i am 23years old and 6ft 2inches and weigh about 130lbsish i dont know exactly i haven't weighted myself in 5 days is. i have no sex drive at the moment. i have been seeing a Councillor now for about three months. i said i was trying to recover then but i wasn't really i was still letting the ed take control. only in the last three days have i been trying to recover properly im not going to go into details about how many calories ect.. but if you want someone to talk to just message me.

i defiantly agree with goobyb you need to see someone

Was there a particular point where you remember losing your sex drive?

i would say i lost my drive about 3 months ago its started when i got tired during the process and i felt like crap as i couldnt perform it was horrible thats why i am doing everything to get over this im not counting calories i am going to eat what i want and when i want i am going to let my body make the desistions yes i will have my breakfast lunch and dinner aswell as snack but if im hungry and my body wants something then im going to have it.

even if i get reactive eating at the end of the calories are calories and the more the better when it comes to recovery. i have only been recovering for about a week and half but im fed up of this ed ruling my life and it can get lost i want my life back.

you only live once 

sorry for the rant 

Here's the deal: living a life at such a low weight is not really living life. I maintained a BMI of 15.5 for over five years, and they were the worst years of my life. After gaining to a healthy weight, I'm almost there, my life has changed around. I have interest in people again, a warmth in my body, and a spark of life in my eyes. Food is the medicine for this terrible disease. The more of this medicine you take, the faster you will be better. You weight less than my teenage girl friends who are 5'4" at the most. I'm definitely not making fun of you, but letting you know just how thin that is. Your body is very malnourished and unhappy. The bare minimum calories you need to take in to recover is 3000cal a day if you remain sedentary. If you choose to move around a bit more, like walking to and from the store and such, you'll need more than that. Most males who are recovering from this and getting to a healthy weight eat between 4000-5000cal a day. Slowly increase and you'll gain at a good rate. Never give up! Life doesn't begin until you are healthy again!

hi again everyone

 

Not too happy been trying to recover since he middle of december.

but for the past week i have kind of restricted again not as bad i only had about 1500 cals-2500 cals i know it sound alot but im trying to recover. over the recovery period from my lowest weight i have gained 16lbs when i last seen my theropist she weighed me i felt good but it snook in and made me restrict.

also the fact i have started to gain my man boobs back didnt help i hate my body.

but today its 5pm and i have reached atleast 2500 cals before dinner i am really trying but i dont understand i have gained 16lbs on less than 3000 cals

is this a fast weight gain.

im just scared to eat like 4000-5000 cals like everyone suggests i think i will gain rapid fat it really scared me.

 

btw i am 23years old 6ft 3 male and my bmi is about 17.8 but i have a large bone structue so my theorpist said the bmi doesnt help really.

 

any advice or stories

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Original Post by chrisj88:

hi again everyone

 

Not too happy been trying to recover since he middle of december.

but for the past week i have kind of restricted again not as bad i only had about 1500 cals-2500 cals i know it sound alot but im trying to recover. over the recovery period from my lowest weight i have gained 16lbs when i last seen my theropist she weighed me i felt good but it snook in and made me restrict.

also the fact i have started to gain my man boobs back didnt help i hate my body.

but today its 5pm and i have reached atleast 2500 cals before dinner i am really trying but i dont understand i have gained 16lbs on less than 3000 cals

is this a fast weight gain.

im just scared to eat like 4000-5000 cals like everyone suggests i think i will gain rapid fat it really scared me.

 

btw i am 23years old 6ft 3 male and my bmi is about 17.8 but i have a large bone structue so my theorpist said the bmi doesnt help really.

 

any advice or stories

Well, I'm not that great at math, but that's about 2-2.5 lbs a week-not that much. Gain is always faster in the beginning. I got my BMI up to about 19 and now I'm pretty much maintaining. Just hang in there, you're metabolism will catch up. But 1500-2500 is not enough for a male. Try to get your calories back up to at least 3000-4000. Probably your body insecurities are due to a distorted body image. Just keep going. It will get better!

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