Okay, so today this mentally challenged boy (he's in special education classes, and he's pretty slow); told me "YOU NEED TO LOSE WEIGHT" and said it twice. Even though he's not the sharpest knife in the drawer, I still feel TRIGGERED. :( I'm 114-115 pounds and 5'6. I was having a reallyyy good day, until he said this to me. Advice?
There's always going to be people who will trigger you either intentionally or, as in this boy's case, with no bad intentions. Just take a look at your picture! You look lovely and in no need to lose any weight.
Come on! At 5'6' and 115 lbs you really think you need to lose weight? I think some other things are an issue. Especially if a mentally challenged young man can get a reaction out of you like this. He seems to have wanted your attention whether good or bad. Try looking to positive places to help you with some self reinforcements. We all need to be kinder to ourselves. Try to learn to be dear!
LET IT GO.
At your current height and weight, you are still clinically underweight. You need to keep reminding yourself of this!! it is very unfortunate that this young man said what he did, but think of it as just a random comment - he could have said you should walk in traffic - would you consider doing that if someone said it to you?
You've done so well, and come so far - don't let this get to you! I'm around your weight and height, (but much older!!) and a kid in the playground at my son's school called me 'Mrs Fatty Fat' the other day - kids are just odd like that...
I'm the same height and weight as you, and recovering from an eating disorder.
I definitely understand how that would be triggering, but try to shake it off and move forward!
I know that at my current weight people still tell me I look a little too thin. However, when i'm triggered, I find it helpful to rationalise things step by step; i.e. my BMI is 18.5, this is at the bottom of the healthy range, medically I do not need to lose weight, and despite what my eating disorder tells me, I am slim. Secondly, yoga has helped me a great deal in recovery and allows me to have some time out and work through feelings and triggers.
Of course this is very triggering, but you must remember he's mentally challenged, he's probably not aware of what he's saying and might even think it's a way to be funny?
At the end of the day you're CLEARLY not overweight, probably around the same bmi as me which is just borderline healthy maybe a little less even?
so if YOU need to lose weight, that would mean i would need to too. And i know i don't need to ;)
Love yourself, you could even afford to gain a few realisticly?