Just wondering...what are your thoughts on reading blogs? Particularly blogs that are primarily ED-recovery focused? Do reading thoughts on ED help you? I've been browsing through a lot of these blogs, but I don't know if they are helping me or not. Some just make me depressed the way they go about detailing their struggles, and because they don't seem to ever get better...but I can't keep checking up on them, hoping and hoping that I see some improvements...
Can anyone let me know of any blogs that have actually helped them? Or do you think these blogs are a negative influence that feeds our ED minds?
Reason: Moved from Weight Gain to Health & Support, this isn't a Weight Gain topic
i think the effect of blogs depends on the person and their stage in recovery. if you've truly committed yourself to getting better then it can help to know that others share your struggles but if you are only half in it then seeing the struggles can be discouraging and cause your progress to be derailed. so i guess it really just depends on the individual. IF you find that you are more amped up and ready to beat the ED after reading them then continue but i wouldn't go searching for them because there are more bad ones than uplifting ones. i think CC is a great place to read about struggles and people actively overcoming them.
I'm not TRIGGERED by blogs, just a bit dejected. Some people seem really engrossed in their ED, and not really willing to recover for good.
I really wish I could find some blogs that have truly recovered for good. I was just wondering if anyone knew any. It makes me happy and feel more hopeful to see someone actively fighting.
CC is a great place, but it's a big mix of different people at different levels. Some seem to be struggling more than others, some seem to have recovered mostly (which may explain some of the absences of previous CC-participators) while others seem to be constantly stuck here.
I hope people don't take offense...but I'm really struggling to find at least a few positive, success stories.
i enjoy reading burp and slurp's blog on wordpress.... just because the girl, Sophia who writes the blog has come so far and she makes the weirdest foods sometimes. she inspired me to be more out there and adventerous when it comes to my food choices.
she gets a lot of hits daily and is well into recovery.
Most of them just plain irritate me. Especially the ones that rave on about how they're so positive and making strides when still heavily restricting - or the ones that glamourise their illness with stylish photographs of fruit and their emaciated selves.
I tend to avoid them for this reason, or take what they say with a grain of salt. Reading them can be damaging, I find, but that's just my opinion. I know it's nice to see others succeed and it gives one hope, but really the inspiration to get better has to come from you.
liney_line: burp and slurp? Haha, thanks for the rec! That's a funny name.
syntax: What you said about the inspiration should come from within me is true. Ultimately, it should come within myself. But I should also say that I think I'm a lot recovered. But I'm surrounded by people who are still struggling with eating issues...some are not full-blown ED, but because I once had a history of ED, I notice it very easily, and it bothers me a lot, because I am trying to get on with my life sans ED.
This makes me quite frustrated at times, and because I am hovering between 100% recovered and not all the way recovered, I long for a solid proof of someone who is fully recovered. I just wonder if it is possible.
i agree most do irritate me, especially when you see the portions of food they allow them selves to have, it makes it even distorted for people trying to recover cause their ed assumes thats a normal size.
i hate the ones where people are always so negative about their family, friends and themselves. those thoughts should only be allowed to be spoken in a therapy room, no offence to anyone who writes blogs. blogs should be about sharing inspiration and the good times in life. not every thought should be posted only the ones which make a huge positive difference to the persons recoverey direction. though sometimes hearing their struggles and how they handled it is good, as long as its well done. i really dont think blogs should be about getting support or to tell how the persons negativity has been for the day, they should just be there to share their life journey, not the entire emotional rollercoaster within.
syntax: You're amazing! Your words are really wise, and they are spot on. I used to want someone else to define exactly how much and what I should eat. But I found out that normal isn't normal for everyone, too. Normal is just being able to eat without obsessing about calories, fat/protein/carb/ sodium content, etc. And I find a lot of health food bloggers to be obsessed. And coincidentally, a lot of those "health food" bloggers used to or struggle with ED themselves. I'm not sure I understand people who call themselves recovered yet go vegan or raw and still eat all these diet foods. And eating the same thing over and over again...
Just wondering: where in recovery would you place yourself? Do you still read some of these blogs?
Liney_Line: Yeah, I know what you mean about those that are always so negative. I literally cannot stand reading that. But I wonder...why do I still get drawn to read blogs? I guess it's up to US to filter what blogs we read...? Do you still read these blogs too?
I read alot of blogs and have one mysef. Personally I enjoy reading them, there are some blogs I dont read because I find them triggering but at the same time I dont see anything wrong with someone putting their thoughts out onto their blog even if they are negative. It is their blog after all and if you dont like it or you find it triggers/annoys you then just dont read it, but I wouldnt say someone shouldnt post up their entire journey if thats what they wish to do.
There are lots of positive blogs out there, just have a look about and find the ones you can connect with and enjoy.
what draws me to blogs is the title of the name lol. then once ive scanned through the images or glanced at the title and a few words. you get the main idea of whether or not the blog will be 'decent' so to say. i dont bother for the ones with so much writing... i really only like blogs for the huge pictures and recipies.... i read more of the ones about real life, not real life ed struggles.
i enjoy kath eats, she never had an ed but what she does is super cool to read over. her blog is perfect, not too much writing but enough and plenty of pictures.
this isn't a recoverey blog either but i suggest everyone checks it out cause its awesome. youll have t go through every page though to see how awesome the food is!!! pretty pretty yum yum has awesome pictures!!! note this blog features weird flavour of kit kats such as sweet potato, red plum, diet coke, mango, ginger ale and more..... its so cool!!!
I do like Kath Eats, too, though I think her portion sizes are a bit small, esp for a weight-gainer. She seems really cool. I'm not a fan of the others like Carrots N Cake, because I think she's gone so...commercial? All she does is do giveaways and trying to promote her blog. It's kinda annoying.
Isn't burp and slurp also about ED struggles?
More or less. She can talk about everything, like bad grades, school thing...Sophia is really a nice person, she gives wonderful advice :)
I love Chocolate-covered Katie. She's sooo nice, she replies to almost every comment (and she has like 40+ min a day!)
I don't really like blog with lots of text...I don't like reading with my computer, lol. That's why I try to keep my post short + lots of recipes ;)
Isn't Chocolate-covered Katie ED? She seems way too thin to me...quite unnaturally. I know she strongly denies it, but I can't help suspecting.
I'll have to check out your blog, vanilla!
Thanks, hope you enjoy it, I don't really talk about ED (except how I hate my doctors but that all), just
stupid random stuffs that are annoying/my pet peeves.
Like how broken I am, how I desesperatly want a pair of boots that are XX$ more than I can afford, how I am going to sue pizzerias that aren't making the crust thick enough, how I hate 'team work' when I'm the only one working...oh and of course oatmeal creations, and some reviews.
But Katie doesn't an ED at all. She's really entertaining and has lots of yummy recipes, hosts great giveaways and is very generous. If all this is a lie, then it might be a little bit freaky, haha, but I doubt it :)
There's a bunch I follow regularly as well, ED and non-ED. Kath Eats is a fave of mine, like pretty much everyone else.
I personally blog as a way to vent sometimes. Not everyone in my life knows about my ED and I feel like not too many of those who do know can relate with my thoughts and reactions to and about food. I feel like the comments I get really help and the relationships I've developed through ED/food blogging are also really theraputic.
oatsnmeals, no you have it wrong. kath is not gaining weight. she never had an ed... sorry if you misunderstood me, i just follow her blog because i like the blogs where people vary their food and go out.... its so tempting and mindblowing to see all the cool foods in the world and the people who are adventerous.
i wanted to start a blog at some point but then after having half an hour of creating it im just like.... cant be bothered taking photos all the time and then uploading them... too much effort! lol. but i think its cool how people who (no offence) have lives can still take time out from all their events to sit down and blog about their experiences. thats whats inspiring for me i suppose.
I used to read recovery blogs but in the end I found that they were ultimately very triggering, annoying, and inauthentic. I often found myself looking for comparison in others through their words and pictures, which sparked up thoughts that eventually put me on the edge of relapse. 'She doesn't cook with oil, so neither should I' or 'Her portions are tiny and she seems to be recovering well so it really wouldn't hurt if I ate less' - thoughts like this plagued me until I felt horrible about my own recovery, which slowed my progress terribly and left me confused and without a sense of self.
When I first started reading recovery blogs, the idea struck me as a little...odd? I know everyone seeks therapeutic help in different forms, but to me, constantly accounting for every bite of food you take in day by day and only focusing on thoughts revolving around the eating disorder seem a bit destructive, a form of coping that only feeds the illness. I know this may not be true for everyone, but when I stand back and read entries in those 'recovery' blogs, I just see young girls living deep within the confines of the disorder, putting on a false image of health to appease pressuring doctors and nagging parents.
Which brings me to my last problem with eating disorder blogs...authenticity and honesty with oneself and with one's audience. Nearly every recovery blog I've come across put on this glorious image of perfect recovery, bragging about the joys of weight gain and the ease one experiences the further she ventures into recovery. Really? I cannot believe it. I guess this is the main reason I abandoned those blogs so quickly; I couldn't connect with the community, because my recovery has been less than perfect, and I am certainly not fully committed nor absolutely decided in whether I want to leave anorexia behind or not. I would love to read something in which a person shares honest thoughts about their disorder and their recovery; positive, negative, and every thing in between. But it just isn't so...people live within the extremes, working hard to promote an image that doesn't really reflect them.
I do agree sometimes you can end up picking up other peoples ed habits such as sodium counting etc from blogs or thinking well they dont eat x because its not 'healthy' so Im not going to either. Ive found myself doing that at times but I thhink its just a matter of where abouts you are in recovery and whether or not you can push past those thoughts and ignore them.
A lot of the threads on this site are quite similar so really thats something thats hard to avoid.
I find it difficult to blog because I dont like to always post up the negatives because I dont want to trigger or bore people but at the same time Im not going to post up some happy post if thats not what Im feeling. With happy posts you always get happy comments and lot of them but when you hit a hard post people stray away, so I find a lot of people seem to think they have a certain image to live up to a 'always be happy and positive' image just to get hits. I prefer to read the ones that say it as it is.
firstly, yes, i have a blog, and i can assume i am a blog that is being written about on this tread..obviously.duh its clear?.......
well, i think bloggers should post how they feel, i mean sensor oneself of course which i try to do..although i am not blogging anymore that much. bc i dont really care for it anymore..
but i recall a blogger, she was an active cc member and she stopped bogging bc of Uni. and i read a post from hers a week or so ago...and it was all..."i am a fat pig i just ate ice cream blah blha blha".and she was well undeer a healthy weigth...which i find totally immature and just annoying as heck.
but if u look at blogs and are a "lurker" (someone who just lurks at blogs and doesnt have one) i think that if it triggers u, if u compare so much that it effects ur recovery STOP looking,..., its an open blog, yes! but stay away if u cant handle it...
BE ACCOUNTABLE FOR URSELF! noone, no blog, nothing can make u afraid of this or that,,,or make u feel less than bc of photos or portion sizes, honestly i follow many blogs and i see "ohh she just had oats with raisins and that all for breakfast" but then i go about my business and do dont let it effect me...
bc i am FOCUSING on MY OWN RECOVERY, AND what someone else eats or says, really if ur that venerable...and that easily triggered, than how are u going to face life?????? like in real life, u have to see other people eat, watch movies with a skinny actress, walk down the street and see a too thin person..and hear comments, about diets...and if u cant handle reading words that someone is feeling, than how are u going to face life?
i know its hard to avoid blogs....it is...!!
just to say,...i receive maybe 3-4 emails a week from a girl with an ed, telling me how much my blog has helped her.
and i feel iam 99% authentic and honest and true to myself with my posts and most seem to think i am an inspiration(which i dont get...bc i dont see myself that way at all...but,..) i ahve blogged for now over 1 year and i ahve had a very postive experience..and has helped me TREMENDOUSLY.
**maybe my posts arent always uplifting...but i try...and i try to be honest with everything i am going through...bc i guess i assume, people arnt soooo easily triggered, by others, bc i am so not easily triggered as i think...AND i dont want to be fake. liek putn on a facade that i am always chippery and that would make me just feel not genuine and true to myself.
honestly this tread upset me...
..it may not be the healthiest thing...to go on cc too? idk..theres alot more 'weirder/crazy/upsetting" things ive read on here than anyother blog ive ever read. and comments can be alot harsheer and way lesssss suportive tahn i have found on the blogs.
look out for your own recovery, but if reading that I count sodium MG effects u so much, there is an issue their...relle no one can make u fear a food, and dont blame it on someone. as i said take accountability. u have the choice to move on after raeding something upsetting or give in and let ur ed take control..believe me i am gulity of that too...
In IP...a girl said somthing like bananas being a weight gain fruit.(NOT TRUE!!!!!!!) but when i ws 17 at the time...ed held on to that,,,and it stayed with me for almost a year...being around other ed girls can be supotive or can be detremental...just depends wher u are in recovery. and soureound ourselves with people in the same plave as ourselves, i guess.
and to state: i also need to work on not having other ed girls eats, words, weighs etc,,,effect me...comparing is EDs nastiest trick...
some positive. blogs i think are:
Pb and Jenny (uplifing, fun and cute, recovered/recovering)
ohonemorething.wordpress.com (she has a super healthy realtionship with food...) aka Katherinas food adventures.
spidersfrommars or other aka some cat from japan.
lovecoffeetalk.blogspot.com ( lovely, blog )
I have a blog which is based on my mental health issues (including anorexia and depression). At first it was me being open about my problems, a place to express myself but now I use to to post anything motivational I can find. Poems, pictures, songs, books etc, anything that could help people with their recovery.
I do have to be very careful about which blogs I read though, any where they are not in recovery are dangourus, even if you can relate to what they are saying.
The link to mine is on my page.
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